I have two friends, one who’s always in a relationship and one who is just single. Wants a boyfriend, but still single. They’re both averagely attractive and both have nice personalities (although the one always in a relationship seems a little more boy crazed) could both easily get a guy but the single friend says how hard it is to find a boyfriend for her.
Why is this usually?
Many reasons, given she is friends with anther woman who is more boy crazy the most likely explication is she simply doesn't want it as much.
She is not going out looking as much, she isn't settling as much, she isn't putting as much effort into it.
Finding a partner is very hard work, you can't sit in your house and expect them to show up. You have to go out and find them and increasingly in today's world due to the added risk of men approaching women, women actually have to approach men now if you want a good one.
The biggest problem remains expectations thou, your expectations MUST be inline with the population. If your trying to hook the same Top 20% every other girls is going after YOU ARE GOING TO GET PLAYED!
When you finally figure it out you will find yourself on the market with even lower market value.
So don't try to buy more than you can afford, a man has to see you as a great catch if you want him to be loyal. Know the market and you can find the best man who would see you that way, Every year that goes by you don't go for that man the more you will have to settle.
That does go both ways for the genders. For both of the females and males. There are guys who can get any girl that they desire for a relationship, and there are guys that are just struggling in that area to the point they just can't seem to make it happen.
Now am I saying that's always going to be like that? No. For one person to be in a relationship, that one person can get themselves a romantic partner, and they end up having a wonderful relationship for years yet to come.
For others, a separate person can get themselves a romantic partner, but the question is how long would that romantic relationship last for? Unfortunately for that person, that can last for maybe a few weeks to a few months, something happens and BOOM,... that person is single, they try and find another romantic partner, they finally find someone again, they try to maintain a stable relationship and once again,.. BOOM... the break up happens. It's like there's that repeated pattern of not staying in a relationship for very long and now that person is going to remain single for who the hell knows how long?
Unfortunately that can promote a great deal amount of sadness, anger, depression and misery.
1. Some girls are more outgoing and charming, or have personalities that get along with a wider scope of people. So they are compatible with more guys so have more options to choose from.
2. Some girls aren't picky with who they go out with.
3. Some girls have better game and are just better at knowing how to act so a guy commits to a relationship with them.
These girls will have more relationships. Girls I've seen who may be extremely pretty, but are more shy/reserved, don't put themselves out there, quirky, have unusual interests or personality traits that are compatible with a smaller range of guys, are picky, or don't know how to 'play the dating game'-- are quite often single even though guys might find them physically attractive.
This is the case with my friend who is a literal model, but is always single. She thinks there's something wrong with her because of her singlehood, but it's actually because she has those traits I mentioned. She's picky and she has unusual interests; she just hasn't met the right guy yet who fits her personality. A relationship is basically having a best friend who you also want to sleep with.
Watch this.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/89zqJ-TzPLEAnd read this.
The Personal and Societal Benefits of Girls Taking the Initiative With Guys in Relationships
You're waiting to be picked. You need to be active, and your own advocate in this world. You can't wait for others to make things happen for you. You want a boyfriend, there are millions of them out there who also want to have a girlfriend. You need to let them know that you are interested!
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It could be multiple things. The single one might not be a good communicator and may not know "how to close the deal". She might not let a guy know when she is interested, in which case, a guy has to be very persistent and determined.
Different standards.
I could have gotten in a relationship numerous times if I wanted. I didn’t feel they were right for me though.
a couple of reasons
they are shy and don't know what to talk about. apart from sex most men like to talk about interesting things.
they dont think any man would ever like them (i remember so many hot men used to give me their number at uni and i just though they wanted to be friends because they were way to hot for me, so i threw away their number).
they have higher standards that most girls and havn't met anyone good enough yet.
they are too pretty and men find them intimidating.
they dont look like societies version of beautiful ie plastic surgery gym like body and long straightened blonde hair.
There are a lot of possible reasons it is hard to guess from what you wrote. Some possibilities are that one girl reacts to flirting and flirts back, the other does not. Or, one girl has realistic standards, the other girl has unrealistic ones. Or, you think they are both attractive, but one is less attractive to guys. Sometimes guys and girls have different opinions about what is attractive. It also could be something different about their social groups, their jobs, who they hang out with or something like that. JMO!
Just as women have two categories for men (friend-zone and guys they would fuck) men have two categories for women: recreational use only or relationship material. The single friend of yours does things or has characteristics that makes guys put her in the recreational use only category, such as having tattoos or piercings, danger hair, acrylic claws, being a single mother, slutty pictures on IG, pictures of herself on yachts, in supercars, or in exotic locations that some dude obviously paid for, any history sex work including stripping, bottle girl, or OnlyFans, or she comes across as masculine, obnoxious, or entitled.
Sometimes some women have the male equivalent of rizz... Others are confident and charming. Others can have lower expectations/standards...
Or maybe they are just very honest and clear about what they want which allows them to get what they want.
It's hard to know but also it's vital to be going out and meeting people in different environments otherwise you only meet the same type of boring people.
If you just want an "easy" boyfriend you aren't asking much. There's any number of guys who'll call themselves your boyfriend just to get down your pants.
If you want a real man who will actually work to love you, well, that probably takes work to get.
Ones more extroverted, the other introverted. Maybe the introverted one confuses preferences for standards. Maybe she wants a relationship without actually making the effort or is waiting for it to happen to her while your extroverted friend goes out and talks to guys.
Probably because one is shy the other is talkative..
I could never find a boyfriend because I didn't go to social gatherings where I didn't know anyone.. and when you are surrounded by the same people you never meet someone eligible to date..
So "always" in a relationship is supposed to be a good thing? Or is it because they don't have anything except looks and sex to keep guys interested? If they can't stay in a relationship for more than a couple of months, then they have nothing to give accolades for. In fact, don't you wish this was her?
All girls can easily get in a relationship. The ones who have trouble either need to stop going out with the girls they bet overshadowed by, or they need to be realistic with the fact that not ever girl is going to secure one of top guys that all the girls are chasing
I think the issue is social/dating skills. Some women give up too easy or don't play it right. Assumptions and beliefs can lead to road blocks that prevent them from being successful.
In essence, it's all "sales" skills.
Personality things. Also, luck plays a huge role. Sometimes an absolute bitch just so happens to stumble across a man who is willing to put up with her shit for a long period of time and the sparks just fly.
Preferences and charm can vary greatly, even in friends.
It takes more than just looking a bit good, and talking a bit decent, to get a relationship.
I could ask the same thing for guys/men, why some can get a girlfriend so fast and some have to search years? 🤔😁
i need more information to process this request... you may examine if it's sexual things that come into play here
Seems like Friend #1 wants something casual and nothing serious, but Friend #2 wants something serious. Sadly, these days I don’t think anyone wants a serious relationship. If there is, they’re hard to find because of trust issues.
Some girls know how to attract or flirt with a guy. But this group of girls gets divided in a group that knows how to keep the guy and a group that doesn't.
Ones an introvert and ones an extrovert that’s the difference.
The women who can easily get boyfriends are the ones who are the meanest, always.
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