Why is that some girls don't get boyfriends?

[shuba]

is it because we aren't good looking enough. OR not attractive. some girls they get guys after guys. BUT some of we do have good Qualities, we know we were good. But why is it we don't have anybody. even GUY friend... they say we are cute.. but when it comes to more than friendship. they back off. OR is it because we are not like the skinny girls.

BECAUSE of the guys like skinny fair looking girls.

I do get depressed sometimes.

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+1 y

noooooooo that's not me... that lindsay lohan,.

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+1 y

atleast some girls . do get guys... but some don't get at all. it really feels bad. the last guy I got who liked me was 8 years back... and now NO ONE. I something in me changed.

[blue-kev]

O ok Shuba when you wrote the new girl god only knows who she is to him and then you wrote she passes him I thought the she was the new girl.in English she or he is usualy the last she or he mentioned. So I thought it was the new girl because that had just been mentioned. Ok but when this guy passes shuba and doesn't say anything I feel that time is running out. If MS shuba does not talk to him he won't make a move. This is not ms shubas fault. The guy is taking to long and not doing his part. This is his fault. But the only way shuba will get this guy is by acting fast. The guy may like the other girl. Tell Ms shuba that she or you her friend must ask this guy to do something quickly. He should have done more it isn't shubas fault he is being scared. But if you guys don't ask him for help or to lunch he may never get over his fear. He may never ask shuba out because of his own fear of rejection. And if the other new girl makes him feel morecomfortable he may try with her. Trust me ask him to do something. He will not make fun of shuba for this. Please listen to this I know its hard to understand. But women don't know the truth about men. We don't look down on girls who approach us he wontmake fun of shunba for approaching. Guys tease girls they think they can not get. Girls we like who we think we can not get. He will react positivly to shuba asking him to lunch or to study. I am telling you the truth about men. We like this.

[metaldave20]

well, a lot of girls don't get boyfriends, because they plain just don't want or NEED one, they feel they can make it on their own without a man, which I do believe is true. most girls don't have boyfriends, because they don't get approached by guys who are intimidated by them and only some girls don't have boyfriends because they just aren't dateable and or aren't the marriage type, this may be because they don't know how to act in a relationship or just because theyre not ready for a relationship

thats the best explanation I can give

now if we could only answer: why is it that some guys don't have girlfriends?

[alpinestars-2002795]

X2 I was going to answer but this answer covers it all :)

[metaldave20]

Haha, ok

[metaldave20]

Regard to status update...theres someone out there for everyone, don't give hope..ull find it in due time...just don't try so hard, love finds you when you least expect it

[Frustrated]

sweetheart, you gotta stop obsessing. one of the sexiest and most attractive things about any person male or female is CONFIDENCE. Confidence that you don't need to have attention from boys in order to feel good about yourself or prove you're worthiness/attractiveness whatever. you say you kno you are good nd stuff that's GREAT! but you gotta show it too. guys run away from neediness and desperation. and you also seem young... .at high school-college age most guys are not looking for commitment anyway, so if you are very expressive in your desires to be in a relationship then most guys will run away from that type of behavior.

i say relax and focus on you and the other important things in your life because most guys will only bring trouble, drama, and a headache. if you forget about them and worry about having fun with friends, doing things you love, and getting your life together, you will enhance your appeal because no one can love a person that doesn't love themself, and you show others that uu love yourself by taking very good care of yourself. you must retain a positive aura and be at peace with your current situation. people do not find relationships because thhey searched for it. those things come naturally and unexpectedly. don't wast your time waiting for it to happen. enjoy being young and single and having time to do things you enjoy!

[queenb2000]

I think it's best to just wait for a good guy to cross your path. Contemplating when you are gonna find a guy will consume you and eat away at you eventually ( which is starting to happen to you, from the looks of things?) I think a lot of guys notice the girl that loves herself and loves life in general. So instead of trying to garner attention from men, it's best to make yourself happy regardless of how you look. I know it's hard to not compare yourself to a lot of other ladies but there ARE men that aren't manipulated by 'skinny fair looking girls' and value a woman for who she is, not what she looks like alone. But I do think that if you believe you are a catch, guys will wanna snatch you up. This may be why the other girls are getting all the guys.

[Reeses-pieces777]

i felt like that for a while, but it's because me and my family weren't well off when I was little so I guess, I didn't have the funds to look hot when I was in highschool. but things are a bit better for me now.

my father wasn't in my life, so I didn't fare too well in the confidence area, but I always tried hard. I worked on myself and now I'm more attractive to guys and it helps. just don't give up and have hope. I'm on and off with my current bf, but it's nothing serious ^_^

[blue-kev]

Yes Shuba I think you have shown me that indian girls and American girls are more alike then I thought. You both have the same concern over guys. I think American women and men are more hedonistic then Indian girls. Probobly more so then most women. In America eating,drinking alcohol and sex are all important. But I think in America we are also unique because no one realy thinks of themselves as ethnicly American except Native Americans. So there is no cultural identity with our ethnicity. Its more with our ideas and our land. I think the importance of our land is as important in America as it is in India. Our to countries seem to be proud of the location. Mountains,rivers streams. Cities. But because America is still only hundreds of years old. Not thousands like your country people kind of invent themselves here. Your future is not suppost to be determined by your past. One can grow up poor as our president Obama did and become president of the United states. Girls hear are tend to do a lot of partying. I think India and America have the proud of our land thing but I hear India is a very spiritual place. Peoples lives change after visiting India and they say its spiritual. Tell me shuba how is India spiritual?

[wild-tangent]

There's more to a woman's datability than attractiveness. Talking gets you to the door- to walk through it you have to walk the walk- be interesting, have lots of random talents, dress uniquely, and express an interest. You can't walk the walk right up to the door then talk the talk- they'll stop you before you get to the door. You have to realize that you have to pass criteria the way it is thrown at you. It's a process- a guy doesn't first notice a girl's winning personality. Nobody's ever said "dude, check out her personality, I think I'm going to go up to her and strike up a conversation."

A beautiful body is a plus that is a dead giveaway- there are few hidden beauties. That said, if you walk up to a beautiful woman and she is nothing but hot air, odds are the guy will say "oh, hold on forgot something," and just walk away. It's more than appearance, and it's more than good conversation.

There are dating services that will make it so that you can contact each other and see a brief write-down of one another's attitudes, and then after you both say you want to see what the other looks like a blind is lifted- but that's a simulated environment, and most dating services don't work that way. It practically never happens that you talk to someone before you see them.

[NowJadyn]

stop thinking lowly of yourself. you can't be loved if you don't love yourself. be proud of the skin you are in and don't worry so much about what others say. you inner beauty will shine more. you also have to consider that guys mature slower than females, and you can't expect them to fall in love. guys are diferent than girls, and the take on life differently. just be who you are, and guys will see that. they probably respect you more, and thy may not consider you ugly. if you think you are ugly, everyone else will too.

[blue-kev]

Egg on my face means that something embarresing happend to him. Almost like he tride to do something and it didn't turn out the way he thought. I told everyone I would get an A on the test and I got an F. I have egg on my face. It means something didn't turn out the way he predicted. Its his embarresment not yours. It doesn't have to do with you doing something wrong. Unless he predicted you would do something and you didn't. But that still wouldn't be extream enough to say that cause he doesn't know you that well. So its more about him. Hey Shuba SlumDog millionair got best movie. Comment on that and on some of by red and blue questions. You never answered those.

[blue-kev]

Also shuba I saw the movie about your country India. It was called Slumdog millionair. India seems like a wonderous place. So much history. The romance story was amazing. The girl he stopped at nothing to get. The girl he finaly got. I love happy endings. I thought the sunlight behind there kisses was amazing Shuba. And this is comming from an American.we are the toughest critics of movies. We are the toughest people to impress. Yet wtih slumdog millionair I was impressed. I think tonight at the oscars it even has a chance of winning best movie of the year. Best movie of the year is almost always an American movie shuba. But this year I think it could be an Indian movie. Slumdog Milionair. Watch the oscars tonight. Even this American biy was impressed.

[Anonymous]

If you are fat lose weight. It's hard out here for a big girl, and like anonymous user said your dating pool will increase if you lose the lbs.

I don't care what anyone says physically looks has a lot to do with it. A girl can be rude and have the intelligence of a housefly but if she is hot she can get a guy so obviously personality is not the #1 reason why girls can't get boyfriends. It is looks and seeming available.

You do have to show interest to guys or they will never think you like them. If he doesn't think he has a chance you could be the most beautiful girl in the world but he won't try to get with you because he thinks you won't want him

[Anonymous]

you have an attractive face, if that's you in your avatar.

I won't lie to you, a weight problem will reduce the pool of guys you have to choose from (you don't look overweight in your avatar pic, but your post suggests you are).

The way I see it, you have three options:

1. Get less picky about guys (you are a pretty girl, and some guys don't mind, or even prefer, heavier women).

2. Lose weight and broaden the pool of men you can choose from.

3. just wait it out, sooner or later you will find a guy that likes you for you and doesn't care about weight.

BTW, I mean it--you have a very pretty face (assuming that's you)

[Opinion Owner]

HAHA, shows how out of touch I am! I didn't recognize Lindsy--how embarrassing.

[sedstar]

if a girl is butt-ugly, YEAH, your options are limited. *shrugs* 2's date 2's, and 9s date 9s...

if a girl is wack-o... yeah, guys get a TASTE and run... we've all had crazy GFs before, and its bad.

also... if you are the black hole of WHINY emotional need... *shrugs* that's just a nice form of "wacko"

TechTip: whiny emotional black holes that SUCK the life and will to LIVE out of you? They say things like "I have SOOOOO much love to give, why ain't I in a relationship?"

[Littletad]

It could be a lack of effort on your part or a guy's part. You can't expect a guy to come to you. If you notice that your not getting asked out, then look at the reasons. Are you outgoing? Do you put yourself out there? Do you make an effort? These are the main questions you have to ask yourself.

The only other thing to say, is that you could possibly just have rotten luck.

[kairon156]

it might be your personality? I was talking to a cute girl and said something like she must get a lot of guys asking her out and when she said no I almost went omg realy? I keeped my cool and asked her out a few days later.

rembering back in jrhigh and highschool I alwase thought that the pritty girls or even the cute ones must have a lot of guys asking her out and I would just be one of many that she says no to. I relize now that not all pritty girls have a bf.

[Anonymous]

I think you're putting too much emphasis on the physical side and looking past the real issue. Some girls get all the guys because they are receptive to them, meaning that they give off approachable vibes and even pursue guys they like. Guys are attracted to these kind of girls because they are fun and it has little to do with looks actually. I also have to wonder where you are meeting these guys...there are certainly many guys just looking for sex.

[jacquesvol]

One of the reasons some girls and guys get no-one is because they (unknowingly) have a pattern in their behaviour: always going after people who are not interested either in a relationship or in them.

Just analyze the kind of guys you're interested in: are they ready for a relationship with you or someone like you? If not, ask yourself WHY you're interested in those guys (and less in other guys)?

[Anonymous]

I here you on the flip side. I was really crazy about this girl too just recently. She had great qualities and was beautiful... her qualities made her sooo much more of me attracted to her and wanting her. (I frequently see slutty girls and all that stuff happen a lot and hate it when girls do that).

Don't get depressed though, stay positive. People are not ALL this or ALL THAT, everyone is different and has different views.

[Anonymous]

re: your 2nd update...Dear Abby said something great about attracting the opposite sex. She said, if you can't be beautiful, at least be nice and well groomed--or words to that effect.

IOW, control the things you can control, and don't stress about the aspects of yourself you have no power over (like facial features)

[Benny-Boy]

You need to get your confidences up even for a short time, also you need to be a little MORE forceful when confronting a guy. If nothing seems to work, just resort to asking him out, nothing wrong with it.

[Just-A-Random-Guy]

Well, if you're Lindsay Lohan, I'm sure it'd be tough for any guy to approach you. ;D

[lolfreddy]

no, its because the righ guy has not came into your life yet. Keep playing the game! He'll I have a hard time getting a girlfriend too. So you're not alone hun-hunz :)

[Adam_LuCif3r]

Laughs...well that sounds quirky...

You know the going would have been a loads more eaasier if girls and guys stop analysing how they really look like,

And to be honest skinny size-zeroed girls doesn't attract me...

i like people who are not scared to be what they really are...

[ivarei]

i think girls give off vibes, some of them give off the vibe of being desperate, other one of being overly-independent, or of trying to protect themselves. other girls are just plain intimidating.

[madcat44]

Don't look, keep busy with your life, they come when you least expect it.

[kiolomey]

It's the truth