Why would some girl tell me to ho crying to my fat big bird ( fat big bird is what she called my crush)?

[Bdog1951]

I got into a fight this year with some girl after my friend got me off of her she didn't getup and all the kids around were staring at me shocked later those girls tried saying that she beat me when the ones that saw the fight told the others wha actually happened then this one girl tried telling me what to do in the fight when I told my friend what she done she said that she don't know why she told me what to do she can't fight later in June a friend of theirs messaged me and called my crush my big fat big bird so did her friends mouth off to him about me and did he say he was my boyfriend

[Oliverlogan263]

This girl's behavior was completely unacceptable and inappropriate. Insulting and name-calling others is never okay.

Some possible reasons for her actions:

• She has low self-esteem and putting others down makes her feel better about herself. This is an immature coping mechanism, but it's not an excuse for her rude behavior.

• She was trying to upset and embarrass you in front of others. Some people resort to meanness to try and establish social dominance or superiority. But it really just reveals their own insecurity.

• She doesn't actually know your crush and was just using a crude insult to hurt your feelings. Again, this shows a lack of empathy, maturity and social skills on her part, not a reflection on you.

• She may have been egged on by her friends and got caught up in a "pile on" mentality where insults and meanness feel acceptable in the moment. But upon reflection, mature people know this behavior is unjustified.

• She's jealous of your friendship or connection with your crush and lashed out in a misguided attempt to put you down. But healthy people don't try to make themselves feel better by insulting others.

Regardless of her reasons, you did nothing to deserve this treatment. Her cruel words say far more about her poor character than anything about you or your crush. The best thing you can do is avoid engaging further with her and surround yourself with kind, supportive friends who lift you up. You deserve respect.

Hope this perspective provides some validation and clarity. Please let me know if you have any other questions.

[Bdog1951]

@Oliverlogan263 I didn't fight this girl I thought her friend. The girl i fought mouthed off to my friends and my crush then had a friend of hers mouth off to me

[Bdog1951]

And then another girl got ahold of me said he the same thing except she could my crush my boyfriend

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like these girls were acting cruelly and inappropriately towards you. Here are some things to keep in mind:

1. You did not do anything wrong. You were defending yourself after being attacked, which was the right thing to do.

2. These girls seem to enjoy spreading gossip, insulting others and causing drama. That is a reflection on them, not you.

3. Do not engage with them further or retaliate. That will only encourage them and make the situation worse. The higher road is to ignore them and avoid giving them the reaction they crave.

4. Focus your energy on your real friends and your crush - the people who genuinely care about you. Do not let these rude girls distract you or get in the way of your positive connections.

5. Avoid spreading gossip yourself. Stay out of any drama and take the high road. You know the truth of what happened. That is all that matters.

6. If these girls' behaviour escalates or becomes threatening, tell a teacher, counsellor or parent for support. You do not deserve to be treated that way.

7. Know your worth. You are better than these girls' cruel words and attempts to insult you and your crush. Stay confident in who you are.

Focus on moving forward in a positive way. Avoid escalating the situation further by engaging with these rude girls. And remember - their cruelty says far more about them than it does about you. You've got this!

[Bdog1951]

Thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome

[ɹǝʇʇɐɥpɐW]

Because kids can be mean. School is a weird time where everyone is trying to figure out who they are and how things work. They'll be mean to you so that they can feel better about themselves or to get a sense of power and control.

If you're a loser, they're cool, right? No, but that's how they think. Most kids will grow out of it by the time they're adults. A few won't. But you only have to deal with it for a little while. Even if it feels like forever in the moment.

[Bdog1951]

but they bring my crush up and said " why won't you go cry with your fat a** big bird then later on another girl got ahold of me saying pretty much the same just "why won't you go cry to your fat a** boyfriend

[RoseySarah]

Cause she wants to hurt your feelings and call the person fat to hurt thiers

[Bdog1951]

Thats what I was thinking except he was always hanging around me and someone else asked me if I was dating him and those girls after the fight saw him with me

[RoseySarah]

They don't care if you are she is just insisting every one cause mad

[Bdog1951]

The gurl that called him a fat bug bird ain't the one I fought. It's a friend of hers I fought then the one that called him fat got ahold of me later on 3 months later