So, I went to high school with this girl. She is one of the most annoying people I have ever met in my entire life, no joke, hardly anyone can stand to be around her. Not only that, but she is also not the most attractive woman to walk the earth, to put it kindly. What I am wondering is how she, and other women similar to her (I feel horrible saying this, but we all know they are out there), can easily get a boyfriend, when other women (such as myself) remain without one? Now I am not saying that I am this great catch, but I know that I am well liked by everyone who knows me and I am fairly pretty. I don't mean to come across as a narcisisst, I am simply curious.
Most Helpful Guy
In all fairness I have often wondered the same thing, about both guys and girls, and while I am not professing to have developed some sort of study on the issue, I have determined that it comes down to a couple of key factors, one is availability in the sense that if you make it known that you are easily available to others, then you may increase your level of attainability, if you know you can be had, then people will have you, secondly it comes down to circulation. I say this in the sense that while you can't be attractive to everybody the more you circulate the greater the odds are that somebody will find you attractive and thus want to be around or with you. Another way to think of it, is think of movie stars, not referring to obviously glamorous types, think of someone like Kevin James (No I'm not saying he's ugly either) just that he doesn't fall into the same category as say Brad Pitt, my point is while it is true he is funny, and girls like funny guys, if you go on the basis of looks alone, he may not be regarded as much as Mr. Pitt, however because he has been successful and in many different films, his image is widely circulated and given this level of circulation, there are bound to be some women who find him attractive, so lets say that because he is on the silver screen (I know I'm dating myself) that 650,000 women have had the opportunity to look at him for at least 1.5 hours and of those women 1% found him attractive that means that about 65,000 women found him attractive, and honestly even if it was half that amount and around 35,000 that is a LOT of people to find one person attractive. Now obviously it isn't really practical to circulate THAT much, but I'm just trying to say the more you circulate the more likely it is you will find a match. That is if you are looking. ;-)0
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If you think about it really hard, do you think the guys she dates are attractive? Good quality? Trying to get somewhere? Chances are, if the guys are not attractive nor good quality, or trying to become successful in life, they're probably losers... And the best chance they have are getting with girls who makes herself open to any guy.. Whereas a girl with dignity and respect for herself will not do so, whether she's "attractive" or not. It honestly depends on how she presents herself, and from what you've said, she makes herself an easy target for low-lifes to take advantage of.0