Do we become a bit similar to the people we love?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My music taste used to be eclectic- but lately, I have been savoring Jazz and enjoying it a lot, it’s my brother’s favorite music genre. I guess, I am becoming a bit like my brother.

Same was true, when I was in a relationship with my ex, he was a very active person, always worked out, ate healthily and took care of his body as if it was a temple, he taught me the same, he taught me that my body was the “holy place” that I needed to take care of by sleeping properly, being active, eating healthily, setting all the right examples for our future children, so we worked out together, we ate healthily thanks to his influence I have kept some of the habits I got when I was by his side. He helped me become a little bit more self disciplined.

I feel like we become a bit like people we love.

[icebrg25]

One thing I've noticed is that the longer people are together married a couple you begin to see either. They're tired of each other or the love just isn't there. Maybe it's there in your hearts but they don't walk side by side. They don't hold hands. They don't talk as they walk. One is way of way ahead of them and your others in the back. Is that from being together too long? Could be I say we should put term limits on marriages. Say 5 years. Do a checkup. Hey are you guys happy together? You want to stay together or you want to move on? You know that way people don't get bored and tired with each other. And yeah we do become like the other person that's that's just the normal thing that's just the way of life. When you put someone for so long, you each become each other in certain ways because you know each other so well. But we shouldn't take each other for granted. No matter how long we're together should always show love every day to each other. You see that's why a lot of men and women wonder why did my spouse cheat on me? It's because you stop showing interest. Take them for granted. Try to keep the love there. Just hold your hands and talk to him. Give her a kiss. Hug him. Let him know that you're still the one and always will be because I'm going to tell you this when two people find love man. You are so blessed. You really are and you shouldn't take it for granted but enhance your love. Making your own. Don't try to copy. No one else's because what works for one don't work for the other. You got to make it your own and always have each other's back and don't cheat too much of that crap going on here. Got to change our way of thinking people

[mobiusforniner]

Jazz is a unique genre. For those who listen and appreciate jazz, we do so because we possess a sense of independence, creativity and freedom.

Jazz is music in its most free form. It is often complex. It demands a good ear and an open mind.

your taste in jazz tells me you’re a classy and open minded woman. Your ex boyfriend chose well

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thank you. 😊

[sheenagwapa]

it was false alarm for me i think i jusr love rhe idea of a certain person but he is a faggot and feeling handsome but the face is generic. he is very suitable ro his ex whose eyes are of great distance at each other, whose forehead is loke that of a fetus underdevelop and non-existent eye to a hhuuuge humongous face with a lollipop body


this faggot torture the hell out of me i hope he will die asap

[RoseySarah]

We do and it becomes more and more the longer we are away.

My sister passed and when young I hated her jazz music and pop.

Now I really like them and I feel like my sister is sometimes there smiling with me having fun like she used to listing to the song

Same with my older brother who moved away!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep… I am far from my brother.

Maybe I listen to Jazz cause it reminds me of the cozy evenings we shared together.

In the past, I didn’t like it and my music taste was very eclectic and unpredictable.

Now though, I have been enjoying Jazz A LOT.

Maybe I miss my brother.

[RoseySarah]

Probably do and it is soothing sometimes when not annoying or boring.

You miss him and your time together!

Give him a call

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And I am sorry about your sister.

I only have one brother, he’s everything for me.

I can only imagine the pain… I am sorry. I am glad you feel close to your sister through the music. Maybe music is the language that passes the dimensions and lets us talk to our loved ones who have left.

My grandpa and I often sang together, I have gone to his graveyard and sang our favorite songs to him. I like to imagine he sings along from where he is.

[RoseySarah]

It probably does thanks I'll send you a follow

[RoseySarah]

Just saw you were an influencer!
Great question hope it gets featured!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thank you 💖💖

[RoseySarah]

Hug 🤗 your so sweet

[Bethany22]

Yup, but exceptions of course.

[Avicenna]

Over time, it can happen in some ways

[love_conquers_lust]

Know thyself @lafemmefatale_1 . Like does attract like. That doesn’t mean their dynamic will ebb and flow in harmony. It’s give and take. Two takers will take from each other until there is nothing left for either of them to give. Whoever German guy is, if you try to waltz with him, wherever he may be, you likely will end up in the same predicament with your ex-fiance. Two people trying to tame each other until one of them submits. Then the attraction that brought them together will dissolve.

That is a an utterly stunning photo. Most people would pay good money to add such a moment to their portfolio. Any guy would be proud to call you his own. But, judging by your encounters, you’re well aware of that.

[sage2021]

People thought my first husband and I were brother and sister. We looked like each other a little bit but both loved to laugh, so people mostly saw us laughing together.
We have a boy together and everyone says he looks just like his Dad, but I see a bit of me in his looks.

[molonski2]

I think its like any association , as they say " hang out with the wrong crowd " , it will affect you , so will the good , the example of your exs lifestyle is a good positive , lifestyle , - good.

So , I think the answer is YES , but its not simply people we Love , its all external influence ,

[JacobJordan]

very much so. it is about 2 lives merging into 1 shared life. so naturally you and your partner slowly merge your lives together. you may have slept at different times but now you sleep at the same time. you may have no liked movies but now you do. you may not have liked this or that or whatever and now you do. it is one of the hallmarks of a healthy relationship and it is also why it is best for people to have as few serious relationships as possible as once you begin bonding to that level each successive attempt is less and less effective

[Naruse]

Yeah it's why it sucks when someone you like dates and arsehole and slowly become shittier people. There are people who I was so close to years ago who I wouldn't want to be in the same room with now if you paid me. Of course it can go the other way too, a lot of shitty people are made marginally better by dating good people.

[Kokoaquest]

Yes, I've found I've taken on Traits of the men I've spent time with (not had sex with) especially if I feel they are attractive and I like them I do take on a mot of their mannerisms and habits as well as their ideals. I'm aware of this so I spend a conscious effort to make sure I am still my own person by getting away on a solo trip and being around friends a lot. Get the balance.

[Sevenpointfive]

i dated this one girl briefly. she opened my eyes to some music i didn't know about which i loved. i even started to used her personal -isms. it was weird but she liked it. i didn't love her, but we do tend to adapt to those we surround ourselves with.

[chrissykerdock]

interesting that you took to jazz i never could get it

[smne35]

If you didn't not take on the traits of some parts of the other person's, then your just not human, lol it's normal when spending plenty of time around someone you each pick up done of their likes dislikes it's how you learn about yourself also

[Joshydavid25]

Of course, as social beings looking to be loved and belong, we adapt to things that are constant in our lives.. We take on people's mannerism, patterns of speech, laughs, and even start to like what they like even if a little bit.

[VanityFair888]

Of course, whether we want or not, we start mirroring them, mimicing them and getting into their hobbies and interests.

[cunnilinguist]

I think it's only natural, it's what has proven to make relationships stronger, it's common sense, too.

[RavVid]

I think it is fairly natural that exposure to various things by someone else will make this happen.

[colaman94]

98 percent. Especially if the couple were already totally similar to begin with. 😂😆

[Constatine]

Not similar... But closer...

This are more overlapping after time..

[catarecute]

when i fell in love with a sociopath i became almost sociopath like him.

[virtualwasp]

the saliva swapping means you become a genetic mutation, similar to gene therapy and morph

[HippieVeganJewslim]

A bit, but not a lot. My Flower Girl is still very beautiful, the most beautiful mortal creature in the Universe. I and Kurt both find us ugly, and some say I look like Kurt.

[Jonnywayne]

Good point. But even in a relationship you can't give up on yourself completely and continue to be an independent person.

[exitseven]

I think so. I am not nearly as mean as I used to be

[Night_Angel]

Yes, we look alike. We love each other because we are similar. We don't like people who are opposite to us.

[ODC2112]

No, people choose a priori people similar to them, even if this similarity is not obvious or conscius.

[AmeerX]

It's actually true. If we love someone we tend to subconsciously start to incline towards there taste.

[Meropatrick]

I believe we connect with people who are similar to us the most

[jazlin]

Its often said you are the company you keep. If you love someone you will stay around them for longer periods and naturally adapt their interests as well.

[Likes2drive]

I’m sure some things rub off if you’re a couple or best friends

[OddBeMe]

To people we hang and live with mostly, including pets.

[justabuddy]

Possible, I tend to call it growth. Growing and expanding as a person.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think that does happen as couples age.

[Girlsontop]

Probably cuz of influence

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Absolutely true.

[Jennz6]

No, one is Dom and the other is the Sub

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Who and who?

[Jennz6]

I’m the Sub

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with you

[Alex-Snow]

I think to some extent we do

[Andres77]

Nope. Accommodating is not converting.

[Yannae]

This has been true for me.

[ChefPapiChulo]

these post kill my brain cells.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I find that very cute.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’ll keep killing your brain cells in future too

[ChefPapiChulo]

how many times do you have to mention your ex from like 5 years ago

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Until I have a new EX maybe? 😂

[ChefPapiChulo]

you're talking about future children when he's an ex. like what? and that question about dancing grandmas. like people from other countries are so cringe.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Anything else you find cringe? To keep in my mind next time 😂

[ChefPapiChulo]

just dont write like its your diary.

[boobliker]

not all ways but the 2 do merge

[NiKe_BoY22]

Yes absolutely. Especially when one loves another.

[strateguy632]

probably yes

[Anonymous]

We take on their traits

[hassan9873]

Definitely

[elizamichale1]

Yup we do

[sheikalana]

I guess so.

[Selena1987]

Yes
It can

[In_Trance]

Probably

[krin_m]

Not really.

[azgınteke]

Never

[jimmy2]

Yes you become one