Mother thinks I can do better than the relationship I’m in how do I handle this?- I?

[JanetMaree]

I’m 28 years old woman he’s 30 she very negative about him and his finical situation is not good right now and she said I should be with someone that can provide for me. However an emergency happened to him and he can’t right now. I still stay with my mom and plan on moving out soon. I should be able to take care of myself and he will get his situation resolved. For her to be disappointed and resentful and rude to me about it is odd. I feel like her saying I can do better is just stupid because I can be with who I want to be with. She trying to break us up and I don’t like that at all.

[caring__1]

It appears your mom believes the only purpose a guy has is to provide financially. Money doesn't equate with long-term happiness. Also, the two of you can work together as a team to provide the lifestyle that works best for you both.

Your mom is only projecting her own fears and hangups onto you. Let it go in one ear and out the other. For instance, my mother always told me I should live in the city rather than the country and be more extroverted like her. You know what works for you better than she will ever know. Be true to yourself.

Better is in the eyes of the beholder. Let's say your friend's cat has won best in show 10 times in a row. Would you consider mating it with your award winning dog?

The key is to prioritize clear, open, honest communication with your boyfriend. Get a clear picture of what each of you seek, determine if the pictures are compatible and then work together as a team to achieve your realistic relationship goals.

[lightbulb27]

tough call...

try to find out why she feels that way... is it just his position in life, her reflecting her failures and fears onto you, something else? talk talk talk and listen. hold back your opinion, ask questions.

then question is... why are you drawn to him, is it healthy or not. that's probably therapist question but you can figure out yourself with enough sleuthing.

it's your decision at the end of the day. A 30yr old guy should have his stuff together. that she has right. being 28... your clock is ticking...

[Anonymous]

Geez, how do you know she’s not saying that on purpose so you won’t move out the guys only 30 years old does she expect him to be rich at 30 this is asking for too much from your mother not everybody can be rich all the time people have their highs and lows, I really don’t like how your mothers thinking

[Billlewis]

Shop around, place some personal ads, etc.