Am I the problem or he's the problem in our relationship?

[Anonymous]

These days he gets busy with his own schedule, while I became axious without him and at the same time my male best friend is always with me to comfort me even sharing his hobbies while including me. My boyfriend doing the same thing but it was more focused on him. Anyway I'm getting mixed feelings for my best friend and at the same time I'm hungry for "it".. I know it's wrong to cheat on my boyfriend. I'm doing my best to not let my guard down.. you might tell me to confront my boyfriend, but I'm not good at talk and I don't want to be a selfish girlfriend who always want to be around him.

[Oliverlogan263]

This is a tough situation. From what you're saying, it kinda sounds like both of you could be the problem.

On your boyfriend's part, it's not cool if he's been ditching you and making everything about him lately. Relationships are a two-way street, he needs to put in effort too and make you a priority.

But at the same time, getting feelings for your guy best friend is a slippery slope. Spending so much alone time with him when you're not feelin your boyfriend is asking for trouble.

My advice would be try talking to your boyfriend one more time, let him know you've been feeling distant and neglected. See if you can work on spending more quality time together doing fun couple stuff.

If he's still not receptive, then you at least tried and it might be time to reconsider things. Definitely take a step back from this other dude before stuff goes too far though - that way ain't gonna end good for anyone.

Relationships are work, but both people gotta be willing to put in that work. If your boyfriend won't meet you halfway, then do what's best for you. But don't cheat - have some respect for yourself and whoever you end up with next, you feel me?

[Asker]

Yes, I do.. thank you..

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome

[VanityFair888]

I think you should wait a bit. Is he always that busy? Do you really like him or your male friend? Will he focus on you more after some time for sure?

Also your male friend sounds like more fun but you never know how he'll change when he gets what he wants

[Asker]

He is that busy and I really like him, I feel extremely lonely without him. Yeah he would focused on me after that, but still i feel it wasn't enough if i didn't tell him.
While my male friend always tried to fill my emptiness. I feel bad seeing his efforts for me. even he was willing cancelled his family meeting for me. My boyfriend never done that for me.

[Anonymous]

I think you are dating the wrong guy, lol. And you should give your friend a shot.