When doing so through God it is possible. Doing so without God, is near impossible. People forget they live in a fallen world so the majority of people you meet in general will be demon possessed, antichrist / atheist or just immoral. Then add the competition from younger women to the mix and you can see how challenging it could be. But with God, all things are possible and the rules are rewritten!
People tend to see demonic possession as Sci-fi but in the Bible Jesus was casting out demons on so many of his travels multiple times. I cast one out without even intending to a few months ago...
I am in m mid 40's and enjoy being single. I know the power of Jesus and I wouldn't even dare so much as joke about meeting a wife! Because I know God would put things into motion. My friend who is older than you that wants a husband (but is not ready yet). She also will not ask God until she is ready because she knows she will get what she asks for!
Matthew 19:26
'But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.'
Matthew 21:21-22
'Jesus answered and said unto them, Verily I say unto you, If ye have faith, and doubt not, ye shall not only do this which is done to the fig tree, but also if ye shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; it shall be done.
And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.'
I believe in it too, that God can make even the impossible possible. I’ll make sure to practise your words on a regular basis because I’m aware how hard it is these days to find the right companion and only help from the heavens can make it happen.
Thanks for sharing the wise words!
I'll never understand why people pick one fictional book out of many and act like its real. 😂
All that shit is made up dude. If a person wants to find love, they have to find it, no magical being is going to help them.
@TheSpaceGnome - There are many examples that I’ve seen in my life and with people around me that hint at a power beyond our understanding and that science has no explanation for.
If you don’t believe in it, it’s fine. However, the least you can do is respect other people’s belief because they are respecting yours. It’s as simple as that.
I'm not going to respect anyone who says they have enough evidence for the answer, while simultaneously saying there isn't enough evidence for an answer 😂
1. "There are many examples that I’ve seen in my life and with people around me that hint at a power"
2. "beyond our understanding and that science has no explanation for."
You have to pick one of those, you can't say both. Either you have evidence, or you don't.
The scientific method is just observing and understanding evidence, so if you had any evidence for a god existing, science is how you would know that. If you can't understand something that simple, not only have you not earned my respect, but you'll also never understand why a god is impossible.
@TheSpaceGnome - I’m not going to spend time explaining things to you. You are free to think whatever and I’m free to think whatever.
Good, because there isn't anything for you to explain to me about this anyway.
I've already figured out that both omnipotence and a begining to the universe are impossible (because they are self contradictory), so a god is also impossible.
I used to be a non believer and would have been saying very similar stuff to what 'TheSpaceGnome' said.
I notice that you said '... that hint at a power beyond our understanding'. What I've observed is that when you fully invite God into every area of your life, you receive much more than just a hint, sometimes you will receive supernatural proof. I think this is why there are so many that follow Jesus. The truth is revealed to those who seek it but it can take time.
I am forever thankful that someone took the time to plant the seed that eventually led to me opening my mind enough to dare consider a different opinion to being a non believer. My life has been transformed completely ever since.
Opinion owner - I actually meant to say exactly what you did about the hint part of a “supernatural proof”. I am glad to hear about your journey.
In the end, I respect everyone’s beliefs like that of SpaceGenome too because everyone is on their own journey.
Indeed! we are all on different paths of an individual / collective journey. By the way I noticed that below you said 'I’m also aware that biologically I’m in my 40s and so may not be able to bear children '
When understanding the power of that which we confess and the power of words to bring into existence that which we proclaim... I would advise against such confession. In the Bible you will notice that Jesus only ever confessed the outcome that he wished for a given situation.. calling things that are not, as if they were.
But if you look at scripture...
Genesis 23-36
'And Sarah was an hundred and seven and twenty years old: these were the years of the life of Sarah.'
Genesis 21:2
'For Sarah conceived, and bare Abraham a son in his old age, at the set time of which God had spoken to him.'
Thus your statement then becomes 'I’m aware that biologically I’m in my 40s but I believe that I can bare children just as Sarah did and I stand on God's Word that says I can'.
I think it was supposed to be 'bear children'.
Too late for what? I mean if you waited this long that's a definite red flag. You're in the age group of a man's prime income earning years. You have to understand you're very big risk to a man. And what do you have to offer a man? Debt? Waning looks? I'm not trying to insult you. I'm just saying you have to look at it from a man's point of view. It's possible. But you're going to have to work harder at it then if you were 20. Based on the fact that you're over 40 and still single suggests you're not going to want to do that. So you'll have an uphill battle. The good news is if you don't, nothings changed. You didn't lose anything.
You know nothing about what came in my way that led me to this stage. So please don’t judge me as a red flag. Also, pandemic wasted my precious 3 years. That was out of my control. Will you hold me responsible for that as well?
Anyways, you mentioned that I’ll have to work harder. Can you help me understand for what exactly? Looks?
And I’m not looking to marry someone for money. It might be shocking for you because you think all women marry for money but here you go, I’m the exception you have encountered.
I'm not judging you. I'm simply trying to answer your question. You may be the exception. But from a distance you look the SAME as any 42 year old woman. You don't get judged on the surface by who you are. You get judged on the surface by your age group. It's unfortunate, but a FACT of dating.
And when I said work harder I just meant your age and his age is working against you now. You're not a coveted age group anymore. I'm sure this is no surprise to you. But he's no longer hormone driven. Which means You can't just rely on your looks. You're going to have to be charming.
And I'm not saying You're looking to marry him for his money. But as I said. You waited till 42 to marry that comes off as the appearance that you WANT SOMETHING. Or you would have done it long before now. In short. Guys need a reason to risk their financial future at this age. Because they can't go back in time and rebuild if they choose the wrong woman. And guys are much more aware of women's motives at this age.
Yes, I’m also aware of how many women these days misuse men and take all their money. I am in total support of men in that aspect.
Thanks for helping me understand the factors that men my age think about when looking for a woman. I’m not in the risk category for them so hopefully I’ll find a gentleman who will see those qualities in me and not just my age.
By the way, I did have a 31 year old guy who was super interested in me but I didn’t pursue it because of the age gap. I look younger than my age but I’m also aware that biologically I’m in my 40s and so may not be able to bear children as that’s what most men want. Hopefully life will miraculously work out for me. Thanks again!
No problem I wish you luck. If it's any consolation my grandfather remarried at 80. So there's no age cap at the end of the day. It happens at any age.
Your constantly mocking me for being single, did it ever occur to you I had other goals in life and getting married and pregnant wasn't my main goal but only a secondary offshoot of other goals?
its never too late. even 90 year olds in retirement homes pair up
Thank you for sharing your opinion. It gives me hope!
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Absolutely not. it will be a big advantage that she doesn't have kids.
With realistic expectations, no. If you're expecting a James Bond millionaire to come sweep you off your feet... you are probably better off with the corner baker or the plumber down the street if they're show interest in you. Certainly the better care you take of yourself the higher your chances.
It is too late to find a good quality partner that wants to create a family.
For a woman to realistically find a decent partner at that age, she should go for someone that already has kids and doesn't want more. Either that or settle for a low quality partner with MANY flaws.
At least you can hear plenty of comforting lies from others though. by the way, 45% of women in the USA are projected to be single and childless by 2030 due to their poor life decisions.
Keep believing and spreading the comforting lies people. You are ultimately the ones that will suffer for going along with it and thinking you can make bad life decisions without consequences.
I'm a bloke and I've had the general feeling that I was past my use-by date since I hit age 30. That was about 10 years ago. Past 40, I'm not sure why you'd even want to bother. All the useless hormones of youth driving reproductive urges should have died out by then, leaving you free to enjoy your own company... in theory.
What are you saying? 40 is the new 30 for men.
Men don’t come with expiry date so it’s time you make a U turn.
Life isn’t about hormones and what you can do with it. Wouldn’t you want to come home to someone after a long day and just sit and talk about life in general? Life takes a whole new meaning when you have a good partner to share it with. There’s no fun going out and about by yourself and have no one to lean on at the end of the day. This need will grow more as you age. Go meet people in their 80s who have lost their partner and are sitting alone on the front porch. I bet they will talk about how beautiful their life was when the partner was around.
I’m not looking to marry for hormones and stuff. I want to experience life and this world with someone who thinks the same way and is compatible.
Of course, it will demand adjusting but marriage is far too beautiful to not do that and just be stubborn and say “I’ve been like this and I’m not gonna change or that I’m past a certain date and it’s all over for me”. In reality, it isn’t. That’s what the other people make me believe who came here and shared their opinion.
I’ll try harder to bring my life on track and I suggest you should too.
Nah. That sounds like a pain in the arse.
Look... I'll lay it out for you: You're talking about narrow-minded end-goals. In theory it would be great to just have someone cool to keep you company... but in practice relationships take a lot of upkeep just to maintain, and it often goes wrong besides that. There are countless things that can screw it up, cause stress and anxiety and have to be fixed again just to maintain a status quo.
And now I'm old enough not to be curious about such things, nor have the unwelcome pressure of hormones trying to drive my actions, I can safely say I've experienced things and don't really want to bother with them again.
And no. 40 is not the new 30. My knees are already on their way out, my skin is losing elasticity, pains last 10x as long as they used to. I already knew back when I was a teenager that I'd only get about 30 years of worthwhile life before things started decaying. I've already experienced most of the things I wanted to experience and now I'm done. I have served my purpose and am patiently, peacefully waiting to die.
I'd recommend the same to just about anyone else at this age.
my grandma found a new boyfriend at 72 (few years after my grandpa passed away)... and had she lived long enough, they would have married as well. it's litterally never too late for this. tho i guess children is kind of too late at that point. i mean you may be lucky and still fertile but the risk for birth defects is quite high.
Yeah I’ve forgotten about the kids part. Or rather left it on the higher power. I’m relieved to know that at least it’s not too late to find a suitable partner and experience family in some way. Thanks!
It is never too late to find a partner and get married. I would not have expectations of having kids though as guys your age have either had some or do not want any. Having kids that are about to go to university when you are retiring is not a good place to be in. You can expect to become a step mom in all likelihood.
No, 42 is not too late for anyone to find a partner and get married. People find love and companionship at various stages of life, and there's no fixed timeline for these things. Focus on what makes you happy and open yourself to new possibilities.
Really appreciate you sharing your views - especially the last line! I’ll keep it in mind. Thank you!
Nope, I'm not 42, but I'm not far from it, and I'm still a virgin who's waiting for marriage.
You should really begin looking for a suitable partner. For men, there really is no expiry date but I feel life has more meaning when you have a good partner to share it with.
I've been looking this entire time, I've found many perfect matches who were single, but none were in the united states unfortunately. Artistically talented atheist women who love video games, anime, sci-fi, fantasy, science, etc, that do not smoke, drink alcohol, or do drugs, and don't want kids, are apparantly rare unless you live in the uk, switzerland, japan, south korea, china, or some other primarily atheist country that is tech advanced and has common geek culture.
I don't need meaning in life, meaning is a prison. But I do want relatability and company.
Never too late, always someone for everyone our there.
Thank you for the reality check! I needed it.
No worries, its understandable to feel that way.
I was almost that.
I got married at 38.5 and, frankly, I should not have gotten married.
Why do you think you shouldn’t have gotten married?
I’m sorry to hear that! I hope that your marriage gets better and makes you feel someday soon that it is the best thing that happened to you!
If you had to do it all over again, is there anything you will do differently? I’m trying to learn from your wisdom.
It's not too bad except that 1) I haven't had sex in 15 years 2) I can't retire 3) my wife is basically estranged from her family and is not exactly a mother or grandmother type and 4) I live in Bumfuk USA in a small bedroom sleeping on a twin bed. 30 years ago, I was sleeping in a Queen bed in my own 2-BR apartment.
I’m so sorry to hear that! I still wish things change for better for you and that your wife contributes to make it a balanced relationship and for overall mutual wellness. My best wishes to you!
You should draw monetary boundaries to curb her spending and may be explain so she understands. You need to save money for your future needs because she doesn’t seem to care about hers.
That kind of thinking is lethal actually. She can do whatever she wants with her earned money but cannot make you spend all of yours. Please think about your future. That’s all I can suggest. Sorry if I have crossed any line. I feel it’s unfair how you are treated in your marriage.
Too late? No, but her chances and pool of potential mates are much smaller.
An attractive woman's sweet spot, her prime years for getting married are 18-28. She is in her prime.
Feminism indoctrinates most western women to spend all of her 20's in school and chasing a hectic work life and screwing around and having casual sex and that then they can best find a mate after her prime years were used up on bad boys and one night stands. Trying to find mates after her prime is up and any hubby would get the honor of being her 20th/30th lover.
If that is truly what a woman wants, fine but this indoctrination hurts the women who really, deep down wanted a marriage and family as her main goal in life and just went along with the "hoe phase life" because that is what has been preached to her and exampled by all her peers.
But, women can get married at all ages. It is not like it doesn't happen.
With marriage being on the decline and with their being a push to not marry anymore due to the legal ramifications of divorce, alimony, child care payments, high divorce rates (women initiate 80% I read) so a lot more men are refusing to legally sign this contract.
I agree with you that times have changed what is expected out of women. Ideally, women should get married early and start a family, not just chase after career or men.
But why are you assuming that all women are hoes? Have you ever wondered that there can be many other factors that may have come in the way of early marriage or a timely marriage for that matter? Also, What about all the bad narcissistic men who waste women’s time by giving her false hopes and just stringing her along? I know someone who faced that and she regrets it and she is almost 50. It is not always a women’s fault. I’m sure many good women turned into bad ones because they got so hurt by men that they stopped caring and in turn, now play around with men’s feelings. I don’t approve it but it is what it is.
It’s just a world gone bad, I’d say. As I’ve heard from older generation, older times (like 50-60 years ago) were better when people were simple, sincere and loyal and believed in honesty, family and love.
I’m just someone trying my best to bring my personal life back on track because I only chased career or academics and was really mindless about my personal life.
"All women", "always women's fault"
I never said that it was.
I am speaking in generalities. Of course there will always be specific examples of different situations and scenarios. I am not talking specifics. I am just speaking of the macro, the overall general way things play out now a days. How things are most of the time.
I agree that many men string women along. I'd say today's new trends and standards have a bit to do with that as well. In decades past, most women being courted by a man wouldn't put out sexually without marriage. Women helped men commit and women got the commitments they want. Now, since it is common to have sex by at least date 3, the men then have more leverage to keep the sex going but without ever committing. Both sides are to blame, just pointing out how the new standards affect everything all across the board.
I agree. I think my case is not a total hopeless one because the men who will be interested in me will be not for the physical aspect only. Men in late 30s or in 40s understand what really matters in life so they will not want to miss on a good person. Same goes for women.
It will be hard for me given there are less good men out there but I can only wish for miracles!
Not quite, but pushing it a bit if you want to have kids in that marriage. (Also you'll be 60+ when they leave school.)
No. The only problem I'd that single men that age or older have been there done that.
Not too late to get married. Maybe pushing the envelope for having children.
Could get interesting if both, you and your future husband are dead set in your ways.
My mom married a little younger than that, but I'm and only child and was born when she was nearly 45.
You gave me hope. I can’t tell you how much that means to me. Thank you for sharing!
It is behind the curve but the way things are today you might gave a shot at it.
You can find love at any age. there's like 25 different kind of marriages out there in the world and many kinds of relationships so go explore.
Thank you for sharing the possibilities I have. I’ll make sure to explore and make things work. My best wishes to you!
Depends on how old or young you want the baby daddy to be?
Just looking for long term compatibility and of course don’t want to complicate my life by making immature decisions of going for someone who is too old or too young for me.
for me it is, Im going to die alone, and Im ok with it
I know quite a few women who wereintheir 40s and50s the first time they married
Not impossible but it is a late run.
I don't think it's ever too late.
No. It's not too late.
Thank you for dropping by. I appreciate your words of hope.
No its not too late.
The majority of votes here echo with your opinion and I can’t tell how much hope this has brought to me. Thank you!!
You're welcome!
u No, it's not.
Probably. It's to late for me and I'm 42.
No way
Thank you for giving me the reality check and to feel relaxed!
You are welcome! You always will. have time to meet someone.
I’ll recall this reply of yours each time I’d need more positivity! My best wishes to you!
Best wishes to you too ❤️
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