Have you ever met someone that was really into you and checked all your boxes and was really awesome but you just did not feel it?

[exitseven]

I knew somebody who was really into me. She was pretty and really intelligent. She had a good job and I am sure that she really wanted to be my girlfriend. I really wanted to fall for her but I just did not feel it.

[OlderAndWiser]

I’ve been on the opposite side of that equation. I dated a woman for two years, loved her, was very faithful and dedicated, would have been willing to marry her. . . except that she LIKED me and wanted me as her boyfriend when it was convenient for her. I broke up with her because there was no future with her, obviously, except more of the same.

[exitseven]

Yes, I get it. It is a part of life like acne and BO

[OlderAndWiser]

It was a learning experience. There are always more lessons to be learned, even at my age or older.

[lightbulb27]

No. Had lot if boxes but nit all. I generally understand why.


Id figure out why there was no interest and when there is a spark… what the spark is about. As best one can.


As a boyscout once said… either the flint is wer ir the rock ain't right right now. Wisdom!

[sage2021]

There has to be a spark!
Besides I was just informed it doesn't matter how well a woman treats you, because sex is all that matters.

[exitseven]

That is notcentirely true. The sex can be great and she can be a total dirtbag. It wears thin after a while

[devilish-cutie]

oh yes, there are many handsome decent men i feel no connection/vibe with smh

i wish

[NathanDavis]

not quite, no...

someone that was really into me but I was not feeling it, yes... she just didn't "check all my boxes"

if she had checked all my boxes then I would be very much into it... but if that, is not there... then I'm just not forcing anything

[exitseven]

She was pretty, shared a lot of my interests, had a good job, was really nice and on paper she would have been awesome. My brain said one thing but my heart said something else

[NathanDavis]

right, I get what you say... and then the feeling just doesn't "click"

this is how I usually become friends with girls... lol

[NathanDavis]

except... they're not into me, if they are... then I do not try to be friends

[Beckybooboo]

Not so much now but in high school. I look back and think I probably let a couple of really great guys slip through my fingers. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t see them as a possible romantic interest but more about high school “status”. It really doesn’t change for some people when they become adults but it did for me. I don’t care if you make a million dollars a year, just have some ambition and treat me good.

[RavVid]

I have often wondered how it is that we are genetically predisposed to like members of our gender preference but it is very hard to find one you want to pair up with.

Was there something just a bit off with this girl? Thinking back now was there something that didn't appeal?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Once. I was leaving so I just kinda walled that possibility off. She was a force to be reckoned with though. I've wondered occasionally what might have been.

[Brittanykeen88]

Yes. I didn't feel attracted to them, no chemistry. Which I think sexual chemistry is very important.

[RealMarek]

Yes, I had this experience. It was difficult because she brought the idea of us being a couple up and I had to give her an answer she did not want.

[Daffotul]

yeah but I want to want them and it feels horrible

[Daffotul]

Because the attention they give me makes me want them even if I don't want them.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. But I was stupid. I judged her and stereotyped her because she was pretty, and I rejected her because of that. I was extremely dumb.

[LiamJHayden]

Almost. I've met ladies who, on paper, we close to ideal, but we just did not click romantically.

[Daniela1982]

Whatzamatta wit you? Got no brain? Isn't it weird that some people can fall for complete train wrecks while others, presented with a great person, go, "Meh!" ?

[menina]

Can't say I have. But it must be sad.

[TrueConfection]

No, but I think I've been that girl.

[Sparkie460]

I've never had that happen to me that I remember.

[BLP11520]

Twice, I felt nothing for either one