Have I been groomed and ghosted?

[Lavendercrandberry]

I recently had sex with someone who's been telling me that he liked me and wanted me to be his girlfriend for months.

His communication and efforts, had always been consistent and daily until we had sex 4 days ago.

I haven't heard from him in 4 days. Have I been used and ghosted?

I reached out to him today and asked him if everything was okay and I wanted to know what he may think, feel or be experiencing now. It's 10pm and I haven't heard from him at all today.

[ZackBan]

Pretty sure "groomed" is when someone dates a minor but waits until she's of age to have sex with her that way all she's ever known was him

But yeah I do think you got used.

If he went AWOL for 4 days right after the first smash then he either planned it all along or he didn't enjoy it as much as he thought he would so he's cutting his losses.

Sorry about that.

[Lavendercrandberry]

Grooming isn't limited to a certain age. Also there are many ways people can be groomed.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are possible explanations that don't involve him using you, but our suspicions seem to represent the most likely explanation.

[butterly248]

He has ghosted you. That or an emergency but I would go with the latter

[Anonymous]

You probably have. Sadly, this is far too common with men.

[Iron_Man]

It’s all a lie a con game to get sex. I’ve heard this story so many times before in the past and on here. They say Oh I love you we’re gonna get married show me that you love me that’s what the men say they con the girl into Sex then they dump her soon after. I try to tell women on here. Don’t give it up and if they stick around the guys, then they’re a keeper for her

[coolbreeze]

He is a player. He played the long game to get laid and have sex. Im sorry that happened to you.

[mkkkkitan]

Wow. Big red flag that he’s not as passionate as he use to be before the sex… I think you should really run.

[Lonen]

High chance you were groomed and ghosted BUT there is that very small chance that any slew of things could have happened and he hasn't been able to contact you yet

[slatyb]

How was the sex? I would expect that by now you would know that sex can't buy love or commitment.

[genericname85]

at your age "grooming" isn't a thing... you're not a child. ghosting sucks, i know. we've all been there.

[Lavendercrandberry]

Age has nothing to do with being "groomed". People of all ages are groomed, deceived, manipulated, "brainwashed", etc...

[genericname85]

decieved, manipulated and brainwashed. sure. groomed no, cause for that you need the infantile naivity of a child, which you most definitely don't have at your age.

[Lavendercrandberry]

Once again, people of all ages are groomed.

[spartan55]

@Lavendercrandberry
You are misusing a pop psychology buzzword.

[pethouse]

I wouldn’t say groomed. Manipulated or played is a better word. Im sorry to hear that though.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Maybe give him a few more hours...