Would you delete your social media accounts for your partner?

[Anonymous]

If your partner wanted you to delete social media but still had it, would you do it?

[IslaTheWitch]

No.

My partner doesn't have to like everything about me, and I don't have to resign from the life I created before him for him. We are reasonable people and can communicate, negotiate and compromise. But we don't always have to agree on everything. Some things could be very important for us, and our SO shouldn't set an ultimatum for them.

by the way I don't have a social media account, but this reasoning would match anything I wanted to keep, and my partner would like me to give up on.

[Gauravshah23]

Then it's not a relationship it's a give n take deal

[IslaTheWitch]

@Gauravshah23 if you say so.

From my perspective, even in a relationship, I remain an individual with my personal preferences. I believe that mutual respect is essential, and I wouldn't impose on my partner to let go of something important to them. At the same time, I expect to be treated with the same consideration.

[Marcia1218]

Isn't GaG social media?🤔

[Boat4Fun]

Agreed if they weren't hiding something.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Nope.
I'm too Gen Z to keep phone numbers, I genuinely only know my own and it took me several years to remember it. Removing social media would mean removing friendships. If he wants me to do that, fck him 😄

[NathanDavis]

I don't have any social media anyway, however...

if I had any social media, or let's say... she wanted me to delete G@G... then we would have to have a talk about it, for sure... if her reasons are insecurity or a lack of trust, or jealousy and the she just wants me delete it instead of understanding I would probably not do it

if it comes from insecurities and a lack of trust in me, then she's most likely to be controlling, and I am not into controlling ways like that

[Marcia1218]

@NathanDavis You don't have any social media but you're here? 🤔

[NathanDavis]

@Marcia1218 yes... G@G is the only one that I have and people consider it social media, so it does count

that's why I made it about G@G

[Sonorous]

Definitely not if there's a weird double standard there. However, assuming they're rational issues, I'd be open to modifying what I post if they had any issues with anything I post. Assuming it isn't business related. That's more complex.

[floriadix]

This is well said. Agree 100%.

[AmandaYVR]

My partner and I don't impose restrictions on each other like this. We both have social accounts and have no issue with it whatsoever. I would not want to be with a partner who behaved otherwise.

However, if I was in a new relationship, and complete trust had not yet been gained, I would stop using the account until they felt comfortable, maybe. Because trust takes time, and I wouldn't have much interest in spending time on that, then, anyway. I'd want to spend my time with them, developing the relationship.

Things change over time, people change, and the dynamic of the relationship settles, and morphs. You have to allow this in others (and in yourself). There is far too much rigid thinking nowadays.

I don't like rules, and mistrust, but if I loved my partner, I would accommodate them in every way I could.

This, in my opinion, is a confidence and accountability issue. Those are juggernauts, not small things, but we humans can overcome issues with both of them, if we set our minds to it, and are well taken care of by our partners.

[Rei13]

No I wouldn’t. My partner doesn’t use social media and I barely use FB/Instagram/Snapchat etc but I do use others. That just feels like it would be isolating and if it is something, in general, that I enjoy he already knew that about me prior to us getting together. If you really loved painting and your partner asked you to stop painting because it was too messy, would you? Whether it is social media or a hobby etc you shouldn’t have to delete or stop doing those things for the sake of your partner unless it was getting unhealthy

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I really don’t have social media (other than GAG) so wouldn’t be a problem for me

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’d rather my partner respect my personal space and not demand me to delete anything important to me.

I use social media to interact with a lot of my friends.

[TrueConfection]

This is the only social media site I have an account with. However, if I did have other social media accounts, I would have a problem with him asking me to delete them while he kept his. The nature of the request would be questionable.

[OlderAndWiser]

I do not use social media to flirt with women, to look for prospects for relationships, or to do anything else that I would need to hide from my partner, so why should I delete my accounts?

[AviatorTom]

No, that would be an unreasonable request. I would never ask her to delete het social media accounts. She should do the same for me.

[Libidononexistenteww]

Wow. She asked me what I could do for her tonight to help her feel better after all I’ve been putting her through. Of course I ignored the posts she sent today but I have a feeling she’s gonna ignore my wishes w sex. She said she’d try but. I guess I don’t understand. lol I said I was feeling. About myself and these aren’t mine but apple confirmed.




She is cuddling w me tonite but I understand she is very sexual/hot/horny and doesn’t want a chance to miss that at all. And I just make her sad and it’s true I would be very sorry. I don’t blame her for enjoying secrets and she said starting tomm she isn’t going to be telling the truth.

If I did want her bad enough I would delete this and I would call apple

[Hotmodelwloser]

And I wouldn’t deny accounts fucking insane

[DizzyDesii]

One of my exes wanted me to delete GAG back in 2018. I didn't but i used it less. He didn't like that guys were likely flirting on here AND that i was asking about relationship related stuff. Any other social media i’d probably delete but i like to come to GAG for advice.

[exitseven]

He probably didn't like it because of me, right?

[DizzyDesii]

@exitseven lmao were you even here way back then

[exitseven]

My reputation precedes me.

[Sjoerd85]

Dating related, then yes; when you have a partner, you do not need it anymore, and should not have it anymore.

Social media like facebook, or this site... No; there is no good reason to ask that. You will not have a healthy relationship if you expect such things from your partner.

[Screenwriter]

Why would your partner ask you to delete your social media accounts, period? And worse yet, they aren't deleting theirs.

Makes no sense unless they're unreasonably jealous, and if that IS the case, RUN, RUN, far, far away.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In the land of social media when it comes to accounts I parted ways with them a long time ago so if my partner asked me to delete my social media accounts I would honor her request. On the flip side if I had social media accounts a lot of those accounts were in place before my relationship so out of the kindness of my heart I would tell her to go pound sand.

[LazerBean]

I would for my husband, after a long talk about why he feels the way he feels. He would delete his as well, of course. But TBH if it was just someone I was dating who asked me to delete my social media, I would probably dump them. I'll work around weird stuff after marriage, but I always did my very best to make sure I didn't marry a weirdo to begin with.

[Miristheiss]

What do you have?
Instagram? Lots of bikini pics? Get lots of DMs from men? Or is it just a couple of clothed pics of you, a few of family, your pet, a couple of food pics?
Some women have nothing but micro bikini and butt pics.
What do you have?

[LazerBean]

I have pictures like the one you see on here, plus family pictures. Not relevant though, because a man has to be borderline retarded to get with a woman who puts up micro bikini pics and then expect her to change.

[Miristheiss]

Yes, a lot of dump, simp guys out there.

[sawno]

No, I never delete anything for a partner. First of all thats very controlling, second of all what guarantee do I have that your going to stay? Deletions are forever, relationships not necessarily so. So me refraining from doing something that makes sense not to do in a relationship is totally up for discussion or ill even do it on my own accord. But social media isn't one of those things since people in relationships use it to.

[Christsdisciple15]

Well I am quite removed from social media but in this hypothetical I think it would be quite odd that my boyfriend would ask me to do that? I would need the reasoning and it would have to be sound, also I think yes it would seem hypocritical if he still had it

[Miristheiss]

I don't use social media.

If she had thirst pics on hers and had open DM's for all the men on earth to message her any time they wanted I'd expect her to give all that up.

If she wanted to keep that stuff then I would have started dating someone else.

[sage2021]

No I wouldn't. I only come on GaG.

On the other hand he was addicted to porn. It made me sick. He's the one that needed to delete his social media. Pervert!!

[HawkPerception]

Nope. I use social media for a lot. News, entertainment, knowledge and facts, technology, design and aesthetic, DIY stuff... the list is endless. I have no issue being transparent with who I'm following on social media platforms and who's in my dms (family and friends), but I'm not deleting it for someone's insecurities. I most likely would not be dating someone that would ask me to delete them.

[JustinTheGreat]

No lol

its not even that I care about social media that much. I’ve debated deleting my socials myself.

its just that I’m not gonna let a partner tell me I’m not allowed to use certain apps/sites because their ass is insecure.

[syncheart]

Firstly I don't have a partner. Secondly I don't have very many social media accounts to delete. Most social media, and forums will not allow you to just delete your counts anyways! I will say this, if it bothered my wife. I don't have a wife. But lets say I did. If I had a wife and it bothered her. I would delete my account here for sure. Because this is the only social media account she might not like me being on.