Would you delete your social media accounts for your partner?

Question

If your partner wanted you to delete social media but still had it, would you do it?

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

No.

My partner doesn't have to like everything about me, and I don't have to resign from the life I created before him for him. We are reasonable people and can communicate, negotiate and compromise. But we don't always have to agree on everything. Some things could be very important for us, and our SO shouldn't set an ultimatum for them.

by the way I don't have a social media account, but this reasoning would match anything I wanted to keep, and my partner would like me to give up on.

wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

Nope.
I'm too Gen Z to keep phone numbers, I genuinely only know my own and it took me several years to remember it. Removing social media would mean removing friendships. If he wants me to do that, fck him 😄

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I don't have any social media anyway, however...

if I had any social media, or let's say... she wanted me to delete G@G... then we would have to have a talk about it, for sure... if her reasons are insecurity or a lack of trust, or jealousy and the she just wants me delete it instead of understanding I would probably not do it

if it comes from insecurities and a lack of trust in me, then she's most likely to be controlling, and I am not into controlling ways like that

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Definitely not if there's a weird double standard there. However, assuming they're rational issues, I'd be open to modifying what I post if they had any issues with anything I post. Assuming it isn't business related. That's more complex.

AmandaYVR · Answer

My partner and I don't impose restrictions on each other like this. We both have social accounts and have no issue with it whatsoever. I would not want to be with a partner who behaved otherwise.

However, if I was in a new relationship, and complete trust had not yet been gained, I would stop using the account until they felt comfortable, maybe. Because trust takes time, and I wouldn't have much interest in spending time on that, then, anyway. I'd want to spend my time with them, developing the relationship.

Things change over time, people change, and the dynamic of the relationship settles, and morphs. You have to allow this in others (and in yourself). There is far too much rigid thinking nowadays.

I don't like rules, and mistrust, but if I loved my partner, I would accommodate them in every way I could.

This, in my opinion, is a confidence and accountability issue. Those are juggernauts, not small things, but we humans can overcome issues with both of them, if we set our minds to it, and are well taken care of by our partners.

Rei13 · Answer

No I wouldn’t. My partner doesn’t use social media and I barely use FB/Instagram/Snapchat etc but I do use others. That just feels like it would be isolating and if it is something, in general, that I enjoy he already knew that about me prior to us getting together. If you really loved painting and your partner asked you to stop painting because it was too messy, would you? Whether it is social media or a hobby etc you shouldn’t have to delete or stop doing those things for the sake of your partner unless it was getting unhealthy

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I really don’t have social media (other than GAG) so wouldn’t be a problem for me

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I’d rather my partner respect my personal space and not demand me to delete anything important to me.  I use social media to interact with a lot of my friends.

TrueConfection · Answer

This is the only social media site I have an account with. However, if I did have other social media accounts, I would have a problem with him asking me to delete them while he kept his. The nature of the request would be questionable.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I do not use social media to flirt with women, to look for prospects for relationships, or to do anything else that I would need to hide from my partner, so why should I delete my accounts?

AviatorTom · Answer

No, that would be an unreasonable request. I would never ask her to delete het social media accounts. She should do the same for me.

Libidononexistenteww · Answer

Wow. She asked me what I could do for her tonight to help her feel better after all I’ve been putting her through. Of course I ignored the posts she sent today but I have a feeling she’s gonna ignore my wishes w sex. She said she’d try but. I guess I don’t understand. lol I said I was feeling. About myself and these aren’t mine but apple confirmed.

She is cuddling w me tonite but I understand she is very sexual/hot/horny and doesn’t want a chance to miss that at all. And I just make her sad and it’s true I would be very sorry. I don’t blame her for enjoying secrets and she said starting tomm she isn’t going to be telling the truth.

If I did want her bad enough I would delete this and I would call apple

DizzyDesii · Answer

One of my exes wanted me to delete GAG back in 2018. I didn't but i used it less. He didn't like that guys were likely flirting on here AND that i was asking about relationship related stuff. Any other social media i’d probably delete but i like to come to GAG for advice.

Sjoerd85 · Answer

Dating related, then yes; when you have a partner, you do not need it anymore, and should not have it anymore.

Social media like facebook, or this site... No; there is no good reason to ask that. You will not have a healthy relationship if you expect such things from your partner.

Screenwriter · Answer

Why would your partner  ask  you to delete your social media accounts, period? And worse yet, they aren't deleting theirs. Makes no sense unless they're unreasonably jealous, and if that IS the case, RUN, RUN, far, far away.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In the land of social media when it comes to accounts I parted ways with them a long time ago so if my partner asked me to delete my social media accounts I would honor her request. On the flip side if I had social media accounts a lot of those accounts were in place before my relationship so out of the kindness of my heart I would tell her to go pound sand.

LazerBean · Answer

I would for my husband, after a long talk about why he feels the way he feels. He would delete his as well, of course. But TBH if it was just someone I was dating who asked me to delete my social media, I would probably dump them. I'll work around weird stuff after marriage, but I always did my very best to make sure I didn't marry a weirdo to begin with.

HawkPerception · Answer

Nope. I use social media for a lot. News, entertainment, knowledge and facts, technology, design and aesthetic, DIY stuff... the list is endless. I have no issue being transparent with who I'm following on social media platforms and who's in my dms (family and friends), but I'm not deleting it for someone's insecurities. I most likely would not be dating someone that would ask me to delete them.

sawno · Answer

No, I never delete anything for a partner. First of all thats very controlling, second of all what guarantee do I have that your going to stay? Deletions are forever, relationships not necessarily so. So me refraining from doing something that makes sense not to do in a relationship is totally up for discussion or ill even do it on my own accord. But social media isn't one of those things since people in relationships use it to.

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

Well I am quite removed from social media but in this hypothetical I think it would be quite odd that my boyfriend would ask me to do that? I would need the reasoning and it would have to be sound, also I think yes it would seem hypocritical if he still had it

Miristheiss · Answer

I don't use social media.

If she had thirst pics on hers and had open DM's for all the men on earth to message her any time they wanted I'd expect her to give all that up.

If she wanted to keep that stuff then I would have started dating someone else.

sage2021 · Answer

No I wouldn't. I only come on GaG. On the other hand he was addicted to porn. It made me sick. He's the one that needed to delete his social media. Pervert!!

JustinTheGreat · Answer

No lol

its not even that I care about social media that much. I’ve debated deleting my socials myself.

its just that I’m not gonna let a partner tell me I’m not allowed to use certain apps/sites because their ass is insecure.

syncheart · Answer

Firstly I don't have a partner. Secondly I don't have very many social media accounts to delete. Most social media, and forums will not allow you to just delete your counts anyways! I will say this, if it bothered my wife. I don't have a wife. But lets say I did. If I had a wife and it bothered her. I would delete my account here for sure. Because this is the only social media account she might not like me being on.

genericname85 · Answer

i don't care whether they still have it or not. i won't. end of story. certain things aren't my partners business to decide. she can nicely ask and i'll politely say no. but she certainly can't demand it and if that' a deal breaker to her... you know there's plenty guys out there. she's not forced to be with me.

Anonymous · Answer

In short, depends why.

If I only use it to check for shops and follow purposeful accounts, where my account is private and I don't post anything about myself, then I won't.

And why do they want me to delete it, if there's a valid reason then okay.
Otherwise, no.

Pudsmucker · Answer

I would doubt that I would delete my social media account. I use my social media account to keep track of my children. Since I have been on social media I've made contact with family members I've lost track. I have also made reacquaintances with some of my military friends and high school classmates. I have not used social media as often.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I wouldn't. It's always a sign of wanting to control the other person. I would rather help them feel more secure in a healthier way.

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes, I think we both should do that if we want to make relationship much stronger. I don't mind deleting apps. Who knows, I might fall for another girl which might lead to cheating? It's better to delete all social media/ messaging apps. I don't want to cheat my future girlfriend. I hate cheaters.

nameisariel · Answer

absolutely not. that would mean my partner either doesn’t trust me or is a skeptical person.
and that typicality in someone can make a relationship toxic and unhealthy and at the end it can cause fights between two people constantly.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I believe the only person who may decide that for me is myself. Especcially when that person who tries to force it has social media themselves. Even though i already deleted most of them myself because I kinda hate the dopamine-rush and addictions that comes with a lot of platforms.

curlyfirecracker · Answer

Yes. No reason to keep them if he disapproves strongly enough to answer. I would ask why and hear him out. Maybe I could alleviate the uncertainty he has? He is my person. I would wish to please him as he does me... compromise!

mentallybroken0420 · Answer

Yea at least most of them like Facebook ND Instagram cause I don't be on them anyway to begin with but little stuff like this girl ask guys and apps similar I would keep because u can still interact and give opinions without all the hassle

Anonymous · Answer

Potentially. Social media don't mean a whole lot to me. But all the same she still has to worth sacrificing it for. I'm not going to get rid of it just because she wants me to. She's going to need to tell me why. And if I don't believe her the answer is "no".

jimmy2 · Answer

Yes I would because it's not worth the problem between you and her. A problem like that is a Cancer that will fuster into lack of trust. Lack of trust then no realistionship
You can after you two get close together then ask before you bring it back. At this time she says no then it's no leave it alone.

floriadix · Answer

If there is that double standard, no way. That would be way too weird and controlling for me to accept. If there was any rational reason for that wish (I doubt that there even could be), I would talk about it with him and probably try to find some middle ground. But if he demanded that for no reason while keeping his own, I would see that actually a bit alarming. That’s a red flag right there. 🤨

Bianka_Amy · Answer

I am in love with my partner, so yes if I knew it meant a lot to him. But we don't have this sort of control issues with each other, so it's all good.

aceleon · Answer

no. 1-who is she to give me an ultimatum? 2- wants me to delete it while she keeps it? not just unfair but also reeks suspiciousness.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Is existence possible without likes and followers?

If I delete my media, how can I be sure that I ever was?

No one will know what I had for dinner, or where I went last Sunday.

My partner will not be that cruel to me.

wolfcat87 · Answer

No, I have years of pictures and interactions on mine. I also have not misbehaved. If someone is using it to cheat and can't behave, then it should be erased.

jshm2 · Answer

WTF has social media got to do with anything?  Deleting porn site accounts I can understand, but social media? It's like saying you are not allowed to watch a news channel.

Marcia1218 · Answer

If he told me to delete it then no, if we talked about it and he asked me nicely to then I probably would!

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Not cool with the double standard so I’ll delete mine if he does.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I deleted it a long time ago, unless this site counts.

Anonymous · Answer

Certainly not. If he intends to keep his account, then why should I have to delete mine? It's the only way I can keep in touch with my extended family and friends as we live all over the place, so it's nice to see what they are up to.

ZackBan · Answer

I'd be open to a reasonable explanation as to why but I certainly wouldn't just comply unless I'm convinced.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

No probably not. It depends entirely on why he wouldn't want me to have it. Since he is keeping his, I don't think that is a very fair.

Ashenicky · Answer

No. I hate the idea of anyone controlling their partner. If you don't have trust, you don't have a relationship.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

if they had a valid reason for it, sure. I don't know that I'd want to because I stay in contact with a lot of my family through social media.

matchrestore · Answer

Nope. I don't "date" through social media. Its how I keep up with family and old friends from college. Not getting rid of it.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Yea. Means nothing. I don’t have any real social media presence. GaG being a notable exception, probably because it’s mostly anonymous.

rosemilk · Answer

lol nah, he wouldn't even ask that of me anyways. we depend on it strictly for cute cat videos lol

shiran_ · Answer

Are you asking about specific posts that they are uncomfortable with or in general not to use a service?

getwiththepg · Answer

Look at her crazy, blink a few times, & then go back to scrolling on my phone.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

No, I earn an income from it. It’s not huge but it’s unrealistic for another grown adult to ask that from you. Having said that, there’s a deeper issue if your partner feels the need to take control or is that insecure.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

ABSOLUTELY. Social Media, especially for women, is a conduit for comparison, and "Comparison is the thief of joy". Social media drives women to do things that destroy their relationships like an atomic bomb.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I would deactivate them. I wouldn’t entirely delete them. However because I am creative it would be hard for me because I use them for self expression but so long as she is ok with me deactivating them only. Deleting is too much because what if we break up?

The_FallenOne · Answer

No. Simple answer. If they don't trust me to be on social media wo cheating then we're simply just not gonna be together.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope because nobody dicates what I can and cannot do especially if they don't intend on deleting their own. Have an issue with it. It'll be bye bye.

Thestupidusername · Answer

Yes I dont even have social media. But he would need a valid reason to keep his. Like business

Titanic1912 · Answer

It depends on what it is. I’m not deleting YouTube, Facebook or GAG. I’ll delete Similar Worlds and not use it anymore because she doesn’t need to see anything on there.

worldscolide · Answer

No, cause it's literally the only way I communicate with certain family members. Additionally I only have people on my friends list who I actually know in real life..

hismave · Answer

It actually depends. If he can do the same for, if there's a very serious reason that could put he and I and my family at risk, if its for a good cause... then I guess I can.

But has to be an extremely good reason.

Whitewulf · Answer

If she got to keep hers. No but if she deleted here’s then yes.

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