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If your S/O were to ask you to delete your social media accounts, would you delete them?
As a 15- year old, the obvious answer is no. Everybody at this age knows that if they ask you to delete/block/ask to deactivate your social media, then they want to control you. This is because teens would rather have power over somebody than trust in them. However, I actually voted yes in this scenario, because I'd trust that if I were married and my hubby suddenly asked me to delete my accounts, that it would be linked to my safety or the general security of marriage. Obviously I'd ask him why- and if he was just having trust issues we'd go to counseling and do activities together or something. But if he gave a genuine, reasonable answer as to why, Is delete accounts without hesitation.
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I don't think so because I have friends who I don't see in person who update on there and don't elsewhere and I get to see what's going on and makes me feel a bit more in touch with the world. One social media I wouldn't be that bothered about. I wouldn't be that bothered about another either. But I would want to know the reasons. I would consider using it less. But ultimately, in my case at least and I'm sure for many others out there it would be a way of limiting your contact with friends and what's going on and that's not good at all.
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No i will not. If he do means he dont trust me enough, have insecurities as a man and is trying to control me, manipulate me with "if you care or love me you will do this and that". Too inmature. That how toxic relationships starts, first will be your social media then your friends around, family till he is the only one around to depend on. Is that love? No. Trust? No. I wouldn't do it for anybody, he either takes me will all the baggage or leave me the hell alone. Dont let that kind of man control, mess up your life like that.
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In this scenario, no.
Doing so would be playing into his insecurity when I have done nothing wrong, he wouldn't be dealing with those issues just avoiding them.
If I had been investing too much time into it, or formed an inappropriate friendship with someone that bothered him then absolutely, it's open for a discussion on what we need to do as a team to feel secure and cared for.
But if it's simply because he doesn't like other guys messaging me - even though I don't respond - then no, I wouldn't delete them.
This is terrible. Of course I want my girlfriend to feel comfortable with me but not like this.
I would never ask her to do this. And I I would delete my account it would make her feel good for a few days. Than she will find something else to worry about. Next I will have to get rid of all my female friends, so I do that. Then my male friends need to go because they might talk me into cheating. Then I need a different job because there are other women there. Etc, etc.
If you partners asks this of you the problem lies within your partner whether it's a man or a woman
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Not at all, because once you do that they'll start asking you to do more and more stuff. To the point where they'll get controlling.
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That is simply ADORABLE... I would tell this guy to MAN UP and stop crying... oh and by the way go find someone else you can boss around with your silly insecurities. Once you do this then where does it stop?
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you should tell that guy to fuck off he's basically telling you he doesn't trust you. a relationship cannot work with out trust at the least it would be a very stressful 1. i can live without social media but the fact the my SO would try to control me like that and say there's no trust would seriously piss me off. when your girls attractive accept she will be hit on but know she has the loyalty to turn them away every time. damn near every girl gets hit on social media you can't expect them all to delet them just for your petty immature insecurity.
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depends. if u had like 1000 followers and like 80% is male I would probably ask it aswell. as I would want to get ur full attention as I'm ur boyfriend. but if it's just a few that u have on there i would not ask this. so it really depends on the situation. and it also depends on how much u love him. are u giving him enuf attention or are u also chatting with other lads on the side? cuz even if u do it without interest he might feel insecure due to it. that question "am I not enough?" keeps ringing through ur head at that point.
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Hmm, that is essentially "Controlling" someone's "Freedom of Speech and Expression". I personally don't have Social media accounts simply because I'm an introverted piece of shit who no one follows to begin with, thus I don't need Social media for my 0 followers and occasional random viewer. However in same light of cruel reality I maintenance a number of Social media accounts for other people (Businesses) as such there could never be a way of me seizing the usage of all and every social network. Then again, I don't think I would ever want to quit PornHub the comment section there is entertaining.
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I can totally relate to the message above. I dont have any social media/apps aside from GAG but everyday he asks me to delete this site. He knows i get PMs and he hates it. But if video games and netflix are his passtime, cable tv and GAG are mine 😝
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Absolutely not. And I'd dump his ass in a heartbeat. There's no reason that someone would control MY life and what I do. That's unacceptable. If he is that insecure and controlling just because OTHER people are messaging you, who knows where that will lead if you decide to do what he says.
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Insecurity in a boundary for her is a personal issue, not relationship issue. The moment a partner sacrifices a socially accepted communication model can lead to other sacrifices that are problematic. The moment a partner sacrifices socially accepted interaction models, the relationship is on a slippery slope of devotion and codependency.
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I don't keep social media. But if I did the answer would be me unequivocally telling him to get fucked. If he can't trust me then he is not worth my time - I would never cheat so having someone think I would is basically an insult of my character. And I don't want to deal with someone that clingy obsessive about my personal life that they feel the need to dictate what I do.
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I don't really have many social media accounts, but no, I wouldn't delete any of them. It's not that I need them, honestly I wouldn't notice much of a difference without them. It's the principle involved. If they are that controlling and insecure, they aren't the one for me. I would never cheat or given them any reason to think I would. If they don't trust me, that's their problem. It's not my job to cater to their insecurities.
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If it's a relationship I'm trying to keep, without a single thought. I will gladly wipe it. However, this doesn't mean that all that is apart of my life is fair grounds for investigation and altering. I am still an individual and I will continue to be that. She'll have to understand that, but she is free to see if I am loyal. I am all for that.
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But for what though? Honestly I wouldn't care cause I don't talk to anybody online.. the only person i get messages from are my boyfriend.. so if he asked then I really wouldn't care. I probably end up doing it anyway eventually. But honestly if there's no real reason as to why she wants it deleted I don't see the point in doing so, especially if its a way to keep track of friends and family.
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I think you partner is jealous and insecure. I would never ask my partner to delete their social media (if I've become so jealous, that I feel I cannot trust them on social media then I'd either 1) break up with them or 2) just delete my social media).
In this case, your bf/gf should either 1) unfollow you, 2) block you or 3) delete their social media. -
This is a boderline insane amount of trust issues, and it's further stated by them saying it's not them they don't trust, it's other people, which is a load of trash because if you COULD trust them, other people wouldn't matter
What's next after they agree to this? No opposite sex friends? No parties regardless of who is attending? No leaving the damn HOUSE lest someone find you attractive? -
If it bothers him and he's telling you that, you should respect it. If you don't you're basically implying that you care about social media more than him. If you want to justify it ask him to delete it too, see what he says.
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this is scary to read. brings back memories and flashes horrible visions for your future if you stay with him... never would another human being be in control of what I do. that's one thing I'll never let happen again. good luck I wish you the best. .
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In the context of that type of message... probably not because id want the person to trust her... I mean they can't control every part of her life forever.. they will have use a more long term solution - trust
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"If you care about me you will deactivate it" That's flat out manipulation and a huge red flag.
The person asking in your picture should not be in a relationship. They are too immature and insecure. And they're lying. Even if other people solicited for sex they wouldn't be all that worried if they actually trusted their partner which he doesn't as evidence by this. - 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
No, unless I did something reprehensible (like talking to random guys or sending pics or something)
Then I'd do it to try and make things better.
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As a guy, I wouldn't delete them. However, I do feel like the girls should delete them. I would be pretty upset if guys were to message my girl, however I would only want her to delete them because i'm insecure. If I wasn't as insecure, I would trust her but I would need her to give me her passwords.
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No no no no no no. Screams red flags. Tell him get over his insecurities, you're dating him for a reason. If you he can't trust you then you two should end it right now. Just save yourself the time, that relationship will not end good.
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