I've been friends with this girl for five years, and we talk every day through texts or phone calls. Recently, we were in her car and had too much to drink. During that time, our conversation became sexual, and we ended up kissing and expressing love to each other. I'm sure about my feelings, but I'm uncertain about hers, especially since alcohol was involved. She had previously mentioned having feelings for me, but I hadn't taken it seriously at the time. Now, I'm left wondering if her feelings are genuine or if they were influenced by the situation.
Drunk or true feelings?
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Damn bro, that's wild. Feelings can get all mixed up when drinking's involved, so it's hard to know what's real or not for sure.
On one hand, she probably wouldn't have made a full on move while wasted if some part of her didn't want to already, ya feel me? Like 5 years of friendship, she must dig you on some level. And if she's mentioned liking you before sober too, that's a clue her vibe ain't just booze talking.
But at the same time, lowered inhibitions from partying could've made her act on a crush she normally wouldn't. And when the buzz wears off, regret might set in if she wasn't fully feelin it deep down, ya know?
Best bet is be straight up - tell her you care about her a lot and want things clear between you. Ask where her heads at now that y'all sobered up. See how she replies before you get too attached, just in case.
But if she seems down to keep exploring your connection without liquor, I'd say give it a shot man. 5 years of history's worth finding out if there's something real here in my opinion. Just take it slow at first till you feel each other out even more. Good luck figuring it out!
Ask her. She’s the only one who can shed light on it.