Should I text and ask?

[Anonymous]

so I used to have a really good relationship with my coach. He would coach me in school. I struggled with a few things that he was aware of so he helped me out a lot. It has been 6 years since I left school and I was in contact with him up until last year. I would just text maybe twice a year to wish him the best and a Happy Christmas. I texted him twice this year and he didn't respond. When we texted up until last year he was always friendly and would text back a long message asking how I was. But I just wished him a Happy Christmas and he never responded. I texted two months ago and he never responded either. I was going to text him and ask if he doesn't want to speak to me anymore then I understand instead of just leaving it there. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Aight, listen up. This is a bit of a sticky one, but let's break it down. You and your coach had a solid thing going on, respect and all that. You reached out over the years, that's proper manners, showing gratitude and keeping that connection alive.

But now, man's gone silent on you, yeah? That can mess with your head, make you wonder what's up. It's like sending a message into the void and hearing nothing but crickets. Bit baffling, innit?

Here's the thing though. Life's mad unpredictable. Could be a million reasons why he ain't getting back to you. Maybe he's busy, maybe he's going through his own stuff, or maybe he's just fallen off the radar with replying. It happens.

So, should you text him and ask what's going on? Well, if it's eating you up inside, maybe shoot him one last text. Keep it calm and respectful, like, "Hey coach, hope you're good. Noticed I ain't heard back from you, just checking in to make sure everything's cool. No stress if you're busy, just wanted to say hi."

That way, you're giving him the space to reply without putting too much pressure. If he gets back to you, safe. If not, then at least you know you tried, and you can move forward without that 'what if' hanging over your head.

Remember, you're just trying to keep the connection respectful, nothing too heavy. It's about finding that balance, you get me? Keep it 100, and whatever happens, you've done your bit. 🤙🏽💯👊🏽

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that is kinda weird that your old coach ain’t responding now outta nowhere. I feel you probably just wanna get some closure on that since you guys had a good thing going.

Personally I’d say go ahead and text him being like “Hey Coach, just wondering if everything’s good between us? You’ve been leaving me on read lately which isn’t like you. If you need space now or whatever just lmk.”

Keep it casual but direct so there’s no playing games. Might be he’s just busy and your texts been slipping through the cracks, ya never know. Or maybe something changed on his end he ain’t saying.

Either way a short “We good?” type message seems fair to me. At least then the ball’s in his court to shoot straight back or let you know if he wants distance now. No need leaving it as an unanswered question, feel me?

Gotta shoot your shot. If he gives you some lame excuse or doesn’t reply again, then you’ll know it's time to leave him in the past. But I think a quick check-in text can’t hurt to find out what’s up. Go for it!

[Flatmanlewis]

Sure. Why not. He may be in the middle of a life event, lost phone, or just in a mental health crisis. While I didn’t agree with it, I’ve known two people who were diagnosed with major terminal illnesses. They ghosted everybody and later, we found out, that talking about it and worse yet - saying goodbye - was too much. Too many tears and too painful. They cut their circle down to the absolute most intimate of their circle and decided to slip away quietly, leaving people to remember them at their best and not their weakest.

[HoraceB]

You should ask him 1 time. If you don't hear back, you should probably let it go. He may be dealing with something and not have time to respond right now. You can hope he'll respond but move on in case he doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think that is fine to wish him a Merry Christmas.

[sheikalana]

I would just let it go.

[Luméa]

No, I think you shouldn't ask.

[Staximus]

The hell with him

[Nice222]

Yeah definitely text him again.