My fiance has anxiety and I am not helping, what should I do?

[Mr_Dextro]

My fiance has anxiety and she is newly diagnosed I am under a lot of life stress and I am trying to get out of a long time stage of depression.
When she feels anxious, she starts following me on every step I do, and we start arguing, then she starts mentioning old stuff that makes me angry then it ends up breaking, don't know how to deal with her. I love her and I want to be with her in a good turn it happened once and now it has started again
Please help what should I do?

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She start with taking madics, but I feel she is acting different than I used to know her , she less care, not calling me she used and when she is feeling anxious she calls her sister instead of me

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, that's super heavy stuff goin' on. Anxiety and depression are no joke - they can really mess with your head and your relationship.

But don't lose hope, ya feel me? There are ways to get through this and be good for each other again.

First off, you both gotta understand this ain't nobody's "fault." Y'all both got things you're dealin' with, and that's just life sometimes.

Second, communication is key. When she's feelin' anxious, let her talk it out. Validate how she feels without gettin' defensive. Same for you - share your struggles in a calm way.

Compromise too. Sometimes give each other space if that helps cool down. Other times just cuddle and watch a funny movie together. Mix it up.

Professional help goes a long way too. See if she'd be down to try therapy, or maybe you could go together some sessions. They give good tools for handling stressful feels.

Also important to set boundaries - for example, if rehashing old beef just makes it worse, maybe table that for when y'all are in better headspaces.

Overall man just be super patient and supportive of each other. Keep tellin' her how much you care, but also make sure to carve out "you" time to recharge.

Y'all got this bro, just take it slow. With effort it'll get better over time, trust!

[Staximus]

Try to diffuse the situation when you see the warning signs. Like for example, when "she starts following me on every step I do" just say "ok, I don't want this to turn into an argument"

[Jmmmfi4]

TELL HER MEDICATION CAN HELP

[Nikki1989]

She needs professional help.

[Iron_Man]

Take her to a psychologist.

[Anonymous]

Get her help.