Well if you’ve been together for 10 years, chances are he’s not going to propose. I’ve seen some men do it after 20, but very slim chance. Your neediness may be what’s pushing him further away. He doesn’t sound interested in you at all anymore. I’m thinking he’s already on his way out. Who provides for the two of you? Him or you? If it’s you chances are he’s just using you right now for a place to stay. I’d say focus on getting your license. You’re going to school for nursing yes? If you’re going to be on your own I think you’re really going to need your license, so try to focus on that. Maybe start depending on him little by little. Not sure how much he really does. But if you slowly start doing all that on your own, yes it can be challenging but at least you can gradually ease into it while he still somewhat helps out around. As opposed to just ripping the carpet from under your feet like that now you have to fend for yourself all at once. I hope that makes sense.
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Normal female wanting time and attention… esp after 10yrs.
Somethings wrong that it went in so long and he’s avoiding. Your neediness normal but maybe extreme. I have lots of opinion. Going to have to talk and likely need outside help to sort out.
Hold your expectations from him and give it a break. Keep it aside. As you already know what's going to happen if you are going to complain or going to ask you would only get disappointed.
So for now keep it aside, and start living your life. Do what you enjoy doing make plans for yourself. Without having expectations like what if he needs you kind thoughts. I know it is tough to do but you have to.
Then see and analyse your situation from distance, does he making any efforts or not to include you in his plans. How he carry on his life.
If he does it's fine, or else your relationship is already dead. No shout no complaints nothing can help you or that situation.
Break up and work on yourself. Clearly the both of you have problems and there's no sense in being in a relationship.
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How long have you been engaged? It sounds like you and he have no children; is that right?
10 years and no traction? o_O really? family issues? This sounds like a failing relationship and y'all haven't even started to get close to the alter.
U sound like u need to learn to live life for yourself onto of sorting out the issues u guys have together
You're needy but you're alone most of the day and keep your phone on silent? I don't understand why your lives are so hectic that they can't align. He's your fiance. What changed?
Your too dependent on your fiance. You need to find ways to make friends, and be happy being alone as well. Even having acquaintances to talk to throughout the day would be better then being overly attached to any one person.
Is this fun? You can't marry him if this continues.
Stop being fiancés? Seriously, this should by idyllic , all over each other, can’t wait to get married time, or something’s wrong
I know what you will do
You will leave him coz that's what women doesJust make an effort to go out and find friends.
Sounds like he takes you for granted, you can find a man who will value you more but he will have less going on in his life so choose wisely.
You sound like you have Borderline Personality Disorder
Honestly I don't think you're needy you just need attention and that every girl expect from her guy...
Leave and go home and work on yourself in a comfortable setting.
10 years? I've seen this movie several times
Simplfy it to 16.
talk it through
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