I Think my Male Friend ignores me?

[Anonymous]

Ok so here's this Guy whom I met at workplace. I'm 22 yo and he's 26 we used to chat with eachother a lot and we still do after coming back to home at night. He likes me and gave me crystal clear signs of having a crush on me a lot of times but I still haven't confess this to him that I also like him as i feel like I'm not ready for a relationship as i suffer from extreme anxiety and stress and I might mess up things bcs of my mental health now coming to the Actual point and question i feel like he is ignoring me on WhatsApp after he left the office 2 months back. He has started to avoid long conversation, always says he's busy, reads my message little bit late, I once asked him for a meet up and he refused for it, one time he put a *set for view once* on his niece's pics after sending me on wp which I feel like he did that bcs he doesn't trust me.. & 5 days back while chatting with me he suddenly said "I'll talk to u later" but then he didn't text me after his last message instead I initiate the convo again. his current behaviour upset me so much which made me to do these same things to him From 2 days I'm texting him in a plain simple way without using emojis, called him out for ignoring me but again he said I'm just misunderstanding him also I didn't initiate the convo this time because I'm the one who always used to drop message him first but he doesn't so after getting the same treatment which he gave to me he texted me hello on yesterday and today also asked me for a meetup, and keep saying that why I'm ignoring him, am I busy, is everything alright etc to which I replied I'm not busy but he's the one who is and he was like no I was busy due to my studies and there's a reason for ignoring you.. guys I'm sooo confused from his mind Games.. he's Really a nice guy & i don't wanna loose him but wtf is wrong with him

[Oliverlogan263]

That is super confusing. This guy is definitely giving you mixed signals. A few thoughts:

- It does seem like he's pulling back and not being as engaged in conversation lately. The delayed responses, claiming to be busy all the time - those are red flags.

- Suddenly limiting how much you chat after being close work friends is weird. Did something happen to make him change?

- The "view once" thing on his niece's pics is shady too. Like he doesn't fully trust you anymore.

- You're right that you initiated most conversations - not a good sign if he rarely reaches out now.

My gut says he may have lost interest slowly but is struggling to fully pull away or admit it. The whole "you're misunderstanding me" thing is lame - he needs to own up to changing his behavior. People get busy, but this seems like more than that.

I'd call him on it straight up - tell him you notice he's been avoiding you and ask what happened. Demand honesty. If he gives vague excuses again, you know he's just not that into you now and sparing your feelings. You deserve someone consistent. It hurts, but better to know where you stand. Don't let him string you along!

[Asker]

Hey, this was my first time asking a question here on this app, wanna Thankyou for your input and helping me to figure out the case. Other thing I've forgot to write is that he talks about marriage all the time & he also has mentioned that he fears rejection he doesn't know that I like him back tho.. so the reason of himm for not reaching me out is might be because of not getting attached & developing strong feelings. But still it's so silly of him to ignore me like that.. do u think that is this is the case? I've never been into relationships before.. just a thought about how things will become more messy & confusing after getting into a relationship is so scary

[Oliverlogan263]

You're right to be wary of a messy relationship. But honestly this dude sounds really confused about what he wants. Talking about marriage but also ignoring you - that's mixed signals for sure.

It could be he likes you but is scared to develop real feelings. Or maybe he likes having your attention when it's convenient for him. The fear of rejection is real, but playing games isn't the answer.

If I were you, I'd have one more talk to try and get real clarity. Tell him how his hot/cold act makes you feel insecure. Ask him straight up if he wants something real or if you should just move on.

No point wasting your time on "maybes" if he's not willing to put in the work. You seem like a catch - don't settle for less than what you deserve, which is honesty and communication from a partner.

I know relationships are scary when you're inexperienced. But don't let that fear hold you back from finding real happiness someday, either. You'll only learn by putting yourself out there.

Let me know if you wanna crash a movie or something to take your mind off it! Gotta take care of your mental health too. You'll figure it all out!

[Asker]

Again thankyou for your geniune and detailed reply. If he really wants to clear the things up then he should Do an open conversation but at this time I ain't gonna text him first also thanku buddy for being concern about my mental health. Your answer was helpful.

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem luv, happy I could give some decent advice. And yeah you're totally right - if he really wants to clear things up then HE needs to be the one to talk to you. Good for you for setting that boundary and not chasing after him while he's playing games.

You taking care of your mental health is the most important thing here. This dude obviously has some stuff to figure out on his end too. My advice would be just keep doing you for now. If he comes around wanting an honest chat then maybe hear him out. But make it clear you ain't gonna deal with any more hot and cold nonsense.

You seem like a cool nice girl and you don't need that extra stress. His loss if he can't get his stuff together and just be real with you. Keep your head up - good things will come in time. Hit me up if you ever wanna talk more about it! Wishing you the best.

[Asker]

Thanku Oliver! ☺️☺️☺️ You got this💫

[Oliverlogan263]

My pleasure 😊🌹

[Tharithi]

They are expecting u to be clear with what u want. U look like u are enjoying the attention and would even lie about liking them to gain more attention

[Asker]

First Read the whole post then comment

[Anonymous]

I stopped reading on WhatsApp. You obviously don't understand how to communicate.

[strateguy632]

he invited yu to a date go for it!

[Asker]

I don't called it a date since we are friends also meeting a person who is playing mind games and isn't responding me properly doesn't make any sense.