Am I wrong to feel disgusted with myself?

Question

So far no man has been interested in me because I don't have a nice body, I don't have nice breasts, I don't have sexy hips, I'm like a stick and I'm so tired of it. I constantly compare myself to women with great bodies. I cry every night, no one notices, I'm like a ghost, no one sees me.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Comparing yourself to other women is toxic and is only going to make you miserable. You have no idea what other challenges those women have, and many of them are also miserable and would gladly swap bodies with you in order to trade their other problems for yours.

You are young, so you can't yet appreciate this, but being naturally thin gives you a huge advantage - though perhaps not quite yet. 5 to 10 years from now, you're going to notice that a lot of your friends your age are gaining weight - or having to work very, very hard to maintain their weight - and the older they get, the fewer women there will be in their age group who haven't gotten fat (which is the #1 physical thing that men in general dislike in women - being overweight).

At your age, most girls aren't yet overweight, but look around you at women who are 28-30. How many of them are still thin? How about women who are 40?

Anyway, I promise you that there are guys - guys you know right now - guys you see every day - who find you physically attractive. Guys who would be interested in dating you. These may not be the top 10% guys - the guys who would impress other girls on Instagram - but some of them are solid, quality guys who would appreciate you and treat you well. You walk past those guys every day and don't give them a chance, much less do you show any interest. THAT is why you are single - it isn't because you lack fake Kardashian curves.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

Believe it or not, even if you are a "stick", you are likely attractive. Slender figures like yours are often very attractive which is why models are usually tall and thin.

Do not despair. The hottest woman I know is built like that and, believe me, males even young enough to be her son, go a bit ga-ga over her, yet she is skinny with A-cup breasts.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not at all, but I would strongly advise you to give up comparing yourself to other women. It's unhealthy. Simply concentrate on your positive traits and use them to boost your self-esteem. It's also encouraging to know that the majority of men are not superficial and value a meaningful relationship over physical appearance.