Should I bridge the gap or not?

[Ofoceansbeaches]

I wonder if I should bridge the gap or just let it be. The truth is lately I've been losing interest with him because he for one reason or another had been flaking on me and not meeting with me. When he did meet me one time, he was very happy, attentive and just present with me. But the next time, I invited him spontaneously, he told me he is going out with a friend.

I felt hurt because whenever he has anxieties and fears, he automatically goes to me and messages me for comfort but he prioritized someone else.

So one time he messaged me again because he is traveling and has anxiety. I did reply but it took him time to reply back. I was not really in the mood with the weirdness plus I usually deactivate my fb.

And so I deactivated my Facebook, come Christmas I greeted him via text. He replied 8 hours later saying he would have responded and thanked me but I deactivated my Facebook, and it seemed like he was hurt.

I explained that he needs to get used to it and we chatted but this time it felt forced and like he seems to have misgivings on my explanation or am i just overthrowing things?

[Oliverlogan263]

I think it's best if you don't reach out to bridge the gap here. It seems like this guy is hot and cold - flaking on plans but then getting upset if you're not available for his needs. That's not cool.

You've already tried explaining yourself multiple times and it doesn't seem to fully make sense to him. At this point the ball is in his court if he wants to properly clear the air and commit to making things right going forward.

I wouldn't invest more energy chasing after someone who isn't consistent. You deserve a friend who won't take you for granted and will be there for you just as much. Hold your boundary - if he really wants to patch things up, he'll step up to do so without you doing all the work.

I'd say just live your life and if he comes around acting right, then maybe give him another chance. But don't lose sleep over it either way, feel me? You've done what you can - now it's on him to prove he's worthy of your friendship again. Keep your head up!

[RoseTheNose47]

I think you should ask him why he's been doing that recently and if he doesn't give you an answer then no you shouldn't bridge the gap and you should just let him go.