How do two people who are completely different make a relationship work?

[jewel]

[drummer]

It's like that classic scenario where one's an extrovert, always ready for a party, and the other's an introvert who'd rather curl up with a good book on a Friday night. But hey, it's totally possible for two very different people to have a successful relationship. Here's the lowdown on how they can make it work:

Respect Each Other's Differences: This one's crucial. Like, if your partner loves skydiving and you're terrified of heights, you don't have to jump out of a plane with them, but you can definitely cheer them on from the ground!

Find Common Ground: There's gotta be something you both enjoy, even if it's as simple as loving the same kind of movies or being foodies.

Learn from Each Other: Think of your differences as an opportunity to learn new things. It's like getting a free course in "Stuff I Never Knew I'd Enjoy 101."

Communication is Key: This is the golden rule in any relationship, but it's especially important when you're coming from different places. Always talk things out – your fears, your joys, your expectations. Misunderstandings can easily crop up when you're not on the same page, so keeping the lines of communication open is super important.

Compromise: Ah, the art of give and take. Sometimes you'll do stuff you're not crazy about because you know it makes your partner happy, and vice versa. It's not about losing yourself in the relationship, but rather finding a balance where both of you feel your interests and needs are being considered.

Space and Independence: It's healthy to have some level of independence in a relationship. You don't have to do everything together.

In the end, it's about finding that sweet spot where you appreciate each other for who you are, not who you could be. It's not always a walk in the park, but with a bit of effort, understanding, and a whole lot of love, wildly different people can create a pretty amazing and harmonious relationship.

[Finchie40]

Because they both choose each other and value each other , they both believe in the foundation of a relationship and understand no one is perfect , they accept each other for who they are , if most people had that type of mindset , most relationships wouldn’t fail , sadly a lot of people have selfish mindsets that only think about themselves and what they think is best for themselves, those type of people will never have a long lasting relationship , because they are selfish people that do not know how to give , they just want to receive

[jennifer_bloom]

It's normal for two people to be totally different. The man might enjoy watching football games on the weekends and the woman might enjoying visiting book clubs and the library. The relationship is about the interaction between the two, which sometimes benefits more from differences than similarities. Like I liked how the last guy I dated was good at doing research and solving science problems and he liked how I was easy to talk to and able to calm down anxious people.

[TenderFantasy]

It's very hard to have that. Lots more to fight/argue about.

It's easier to have someone that you have a lot in common with.

If it does last, it's probably either for sex, for a green card (married on paper but not in real life)..

[dynamicyandere]

My significant other and I are very different.


I’m an introvert, she’s an extrovert.


I’m a morning person, she’s a night owl.


I’m very calm/cool/collected, she’s very expressive and animated.


I’m very career-focused and driven, she’s very laid back and easygoing.


I born in America, she was born in Asia.


I was brought up in a Christian household.


She was brought up in a Muslim household.


Yet, our chemistry works together very well.


That’s because we have shared values.


That’s what can keep you two playing on the same team — you live and die for the same things.

[Apple1996]

Opposites attract so it's always possible to make it work since that's how relationships are suppose to be

[oh_kickson]

they only can if you really work on the relationship. for example my boyfriend and I - he is a very introverted and very stuborn person. when he is mad he doesn't talk to me for days. me on the opposite am an extroverted person which always want to get things clear right away. if we have fight, i want to immidetly talk it out or i will cry the whole day. he on the other hand is completely distand and shows no emotions. only with time i got used to his habits while being angry and how to handle my emotions - although its very very difficult. so - if you dont already love the person - RUN! it will completely destroy you

[Supergodman12]

My girlfriend and I love each other a lot

[lightbulb27]

from what I've seen, it's difficult and you have to learn to love and respect the other more than yourself. This is observation.

I'm different than my wife in skills, and that's good, but we think very similar and sometimes have the same thought same time. That makes things easier.

Friends I've seen were opposite and that is painful to see. Lots of compromise and acceptance, patience. that one ended in divorce...

[SimplyPut]

Like all other relationships that work that look good from the outside but really people are living two lives most likely. Fake it fake it fake it until you make it but you ain't going to make it. Everybody has their Facebook life that they put out there for everybody to see and then they have their real life and a lot of them just fucking hate it

[TheSpaceGnome]

They don't, they either break up, or they stay together and fight all the time until one of them dies from a stress induced heart attack or stroke.

People drift apart as friends when not mentally similar enough, and you need a MUCH stronger mental bond to have a relationship work.

[IslaTheWitch]

They talk openly to each other. They don't assume and ask. They respect and accept the differences

[nawtee_me]

Do you really want to date “YOU”? I mean would you want to be with someone just like you? It is the differences that make relationship so good.
I am okay with being with someone completely different from me. It gives us something to talk about. If I was dating me we would have nothing to talk about because we would just agree with one another all of the time….

[Berethor]

Men and women are different, but you need common goals for it to work.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Opposites_Attract

[LiamJHayden]

The same way a nut and bolt or lock and key do.

[dynamicyandere]

Also very true. There’s both differences that clash and differences that complement. A very good example of this is when it comes to masculine and feminine energies. Somebody that exudes a lot of masculine energy is likely to be attracted to someone who exudes a lot of feminine energy, and vice versa.

[wiltingrosepetal]

the teenage girl in me can't help mentioning the image used 😊 chuck and blaire were as similar as can be

[bobalife]

Common ground, balance, compromises, or some aligned values I’m sure :)

[Nikki1989]

Because they are usually not as different as they may appear.

[KrakenAttackin]

You both need to make a conscious decision to make the relationship work. This is called "commitment".

[Ironco]

What do you mean by completely different? Opposites do and can attract.

[Anonymous]

If they're completely different why would they want to?

[GregorSamsa]

Compromise and listen to each other.

[exitseven]

The sex has to be really good.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by completely different

[DreamLife7]

He's not interested in you

[shortster]

They share values.

[dynamicyandere]

Bingo. This is the best short answer. 👌

[Minahh]

They can't

[PrettyCrumblBb]

They don't.