Is it possible for people to view the relationship completely different?

[DopeMelonBerry]

I was with my ex & lived with him for 3 years. Our relationship is/was very toxic on both ends in my opinion. Every time we talked about our relationship afterwards he says that he still loves me & really doesn’t remember our fights or bad moments we had…

On the other hand all I remember is the arguments, the feelings I went through & I feel like I’ve fallen out of love with him. I don't know if maybe I’m being too hard on him but it’s hard to wanna retry with him when my memory is so corrupted. I met someone else who I feel wayyy more compatible with (not planning on dating anytime soon either) but I’m a little scared & blaming myself.

Maybe our relationship ending was my fault. Is it possible for two people to view a relationship completely different?

[Avicenna]

Yes, it’s very possible and does in fact happen, especially the further the chronological distance from it.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah, it is definitely possible for two people to view a relationship differently. Especially if one of them is passive/aggressive and/or keeps their feelings to themself.

But there's another factor here, which is time. And the gender difference that goes with that. Most men forget negative memories, while most women remember negative memories.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Anonymous]

Don’t go back! You will regret it. Give the new guy a shot. Your old self will turn in the grave if you go back.

[Jacobbbb]

There was a reason why it ended to begin with. It's gonna be a repeat of last time if you wanna retry

[Wise4myage]

Yes, I could that happening if there was a lack of communication.