Which hurts people more, emotional cheating or sexual cheating?

[Luméa]

Which one hurts you the most?

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

Sexual cheating destroys trust and devalues the cheater in the eyes of their partner; emotional cheating doesn't seem so bad to me although not ideal.

I had an ex who was "I love you" texting this crush they've apparently had for years when we were together. I broke up with them and told them to have a relationship with their crush. It turned out that their crush didn't actually want them but didn't want them to be in a relationship either and I refused to take them back.

I had an ex who had sex with someone else when we were together. It turns out they had a problem with sexual cheating ever since they'd been cheated on themselves. Anyway, I broke up with them but I was a lot angrier over that than the emotional cheating.

With the emotional cheating I was like "Go, be happy." With the sexual cheating I was like "How the hell did I end up with the village bicycle? Is my screening of my dates subpar?"

[aceleon]

%100 agree with you bro.
to be honest i don't give much damn for how girls feels about me aside from desire, having a girl who loves me is just spice yes feels good but not necessary, she can hate me for all i care as long as she wants to get in my pants.

[Berethor]

For men it's sexual cheating, woman can't have a baby from emotional cheating.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Mama%27s_Baby,_Papa%27s_Maybe

[Luméa]

i agree..

[Berethor]

Nice, it pretty funny how almost all women here said emotional cheating.

[Luméa]

I didn't understand why they thought so, I thought most of them would say sexual cheating.

[Berethor]

Well women tend to be more emotional and more forgiving to physical cheating.

[Luméa]

You bring up a good point.

[Berethor]

You being logical and that's good, physical cheating is clearly worse.

[Luméa]

Thank u, yep

[Berethor]

Nice a MHO, glad to help. :)

[Apple1996]

Physical cheating is always worse in my opinion

[Luméa]

I agree with you, I think so too.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that's such a tough question. I think they can both hurt really badly in their own ways.

Emotional cheating cuts so deep cuz it feels so personal, you know? Like they were sharing their feelings and thoughts with someone else in a special way that was supposed to be just for you. Feels like a huge betrayal of trust.

But sexual cheating, ugh... just the thought of them being intimate with someone else physically hurts. And then you start thinking maybe their feelings were never really as strong if they could do that. The jealousy and insecurity are awful too.

Honestly I don't know if one hurts more. It might depend on the person and relationship. Some people place more value on the emotional side, others the physical side.

If it was me though, I think emotional cheating might be worse. Sex is one thing, but bonding with someone else on such a deep, personal level - that's what really cements a "connection" for me. Breaking that bond would cut mega deep.

Either way sis, just know that you deserve so much better than someone who would do that to you! Don't let anyone make you feel like you're not enough, okay? You are and always will be worth the whole package - mind, body and soul.

[wolfcat87]

Both are pretty brutal, because emotional cheating makes it feel as if you meant nothing to your partner and your relationship and love are pointless. Physical cheating puts you at actual risk both financially and health wise. They can get the other woman pregnant or bring home countless STDs and other contagious diseases...

There's no real winning there. If it were emotional cheating without sex, and they made it clear the whole time that their feelings for me hadn't changed and weren't diminished or less than those for the other woman I would probably be fine eventually. Emotional cheating lasts longer too.

If it were physical cheating, and they used protection, got tested, made sure that I was never in physical danger, then I would very much prefer that one. Especially if they told me right after. Problem is that it's unlikely a cheating guy did all that.

So, in a perfect world, emotional cheating hurts worse.

[7Phoenix7]

Emotional, because that means the other person actually meant something to your partner. And it hurts more. Buy both are extremely hurtful...

[Anonymous]

Emotional betrayal hurts much more because you don't expect it, sexual betrayal is quite predictable and perhaps more understandable, especially if your partner rejects some of your kinks, fetishes or sexual fantasies.

Emotional betrayal is worse, because it is not just physical attraction, but feeling.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Cheating is cheating and they should all be banned to Antarctica.

[Luméa]

Agree..

[NathanDavis]

I have not experience with this, but I do think that it would definitely be a lot harder on the feels...

[RebelinSteel]

If you love someone and they break your trust, it really does not matter how they ripped your heart out. You still look down at torn and bleeding heart softly beating on the floor.

[Aiden_111]

I think emotional cheating hurts more than sexual cheating because in case of sexual cheating you'll be able to forget about it in few days or few month

But in case of emotional cheating it will break you from the inside and that pain will never go. And there will be a self doubt that "Am i bad" and something like that...

[Kelly6]

@lumea Depends which country you are living in, emotional cheating where i live

[Luméa]

hmm i see

[Kelly6]

@lumea
Where I live emotional is mostly seen cheating.
Physical is seen mostly as service

[Luméa]

oh now i understand

[Kelly6]

@lumea
In some European cities it’s like that

[Luméa]

generally girls say emotional cheating but for me sexual cheating hurts more. I don't know somehow its like that for me.

[Kelly6]

@lumea
It’s not only you, many see physical cheat more worse too

[Kelly6]

@lumea
People who see body count as bad might see physical cheating more hurtful

[Luméa]

Maybe

[jahaims]

Cheating is cheating. It hurts because it is betrayal.

[Luméa]

Yes sure but which one hurts kore

[Luméa]

More

[wiltingrosepetal]

Emotional. If he fell in love with someone else it would break me

[IslaTheWitch]

Any cheating hurts as hell. Like... when you are already in that situation it doesn't matter if it was emotional or physical... broken trust doesn't ask such questions

[Luméa]

However, I thought everyone's answer may vary, in my opinion, sexual cheating hurts more.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Sexual cheating will hurt most.

Emotional cheating fades with time.

[Luméa]

Agree to u, for me same.

[JohnK123]

That’s a tough one but maybe the sexual one bc it might show that I wasn’t able to please her. And some girls I’ve heard of don’t think their guy loves them fully so like romantic I don't know hbu

[Forceinhand]

To think that we can separate sex and emotion is precisely the problem so many in the western world have today. The two are linked.

[Wise4myage]

Both hurt, but sexual cheating is much worse in my opinion.

[Nikki1989]

Emotional scars take much longer to heal.

[Flower7]

Sexual cheating is worse.

[Luméa]

Agree

[IloveWinters]

Sexual cheating

[Luméa]

Agree

[Jennz6]

Emotional pain is worse

[dudeinohio]

Actually I can't decide. Both are equally harmful.

[collie22]

I don't like getting hurt any way

[InspireGlow678]

Emotional cheating, definitely.

[aceleon]

do you realize you are the only guy here who says emotional cheating?
how can her loving someone else is worse than her fucking another guy?

[wiltingrosepetal]

@aceleon I obviously don't have a male perspective on the matter but the way I see it is sexual cheating can be accidental. It destroys trust, yes, but it can be forgiven. Emotional cheating is the immediate end to the relationship. There's no misunderstanding there

[aceleon]

@wiltingrosepetal accident? how the fuck can be an accident?
and let's asume it is possible for a second
it doesn't change she is fucked by another dude and i'm not a forgiving type, can be forgiven? i could forgive her stabbing me in the guts before she is fucking another guy (and i am saying this as a guy who got stabbed before and knows it hurts like a bitch)
nope not happening, i couldn't care less about her loving another dude, iwould just say fuck you and fuck her a last time and go to my marry way without even feeling bad about it all that much.
for sexual, only thing that would hold me back from ending her would be laws.

[anastasia_pug078]

For me sexual

[Luméa]

Agree, for me also

[anastasia_pug078]

If a guy sleep with me I can't let him sleep with someone else.

[Danny_dan92]

Cheating is cheating

[MaSult]

Both the Same for me

[meh51]

Sexual cheating ofc

[eagle1951]

cheating

[LEGENDARY4200]

Emotional