What books should someone read to understand relationships?

[Stanley]

Do you have any specific book suggestions that help you understand relationships?

[nurse]

The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman - This book? Total eye-opener! It's like understanding why sometimes you're like, "I'm doing so much for them!" but they're still not happy. It's because you're speaking French and they're all about Italian in the love language department. It's all about finding out what makes each other tick - quality time, words of affirmation, you name it. It's like finally understanding the secret code to your partner's heart.

"Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" by John Gray - I know, I know, it sounds a bit cliché, but hear me out. Sure, it's from the '90s, and some of it will make you go "huh?" but other parts? Total lightbulb moments about why guys and gals sometimes seem to be on totally different planets.

"Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller - Ever wondered why you act a certain way in relationships? A bit like having a therapy session, but in your pajamas with a cup of tea.

"Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love" by Dr. Sue Johnson - This one's for those who feel like they're doing couple's therapy on hard mode. Dr. Johnson's conversations are real and raw, like digging deep into the nitty-gritty of your emotions. It's like the couples' workout for emotional strength.

"The Course of Love" by Alain de Botton - Now, if you're more into storytelling, this is your jam. It walks you through a couple's life, from the butterflies to the bickering, and it's like watching a super relatable rom-com, where you go, "That's so us!"

Reading these feels like gathering the secret intel on love and relationships. Whether it's decoding love languages or figuring out attachment styles, there's so much "aha" and "oh, now I get it" moments in these pages...

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I agree with him: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is to start. Basically, it helps understand why men and women think and act differently. FYI, everyone is not the same. Some women, me included, can't be sterotyped. Female INTJ is always an exception.

Other book, "500 Million Years of Love" which is scientific based. Unfortunately, it's only available in Thai.

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[IslaTheWitch]

Just be in the relationship... It would make the understanding process faster and more meaningful...

[Mr_twoface]

My intake is:

- "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman": This book explores the concept that people have different ways of expressing and receiving love, and understanding your partner's love language can improve your relationship.

- "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" by John Gottman: Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, provides practical advice and principles for building and maintaining a healthy marriage.

- "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller": This book delves into attachment theory and how understanding your attachment style and your partner's can improve your relationships.

- "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" by John Gray: This classic explores the differences in communication and behavior between men and women in relationships and offers insights on bridging those gaps.

- "The Art of Loving" by Erich Fromm: This philosophical book explores the nature of love and what it means to love and be loved in different types of relationships.

- "Hold Me Tight" by Dr. Sue Johnson: Dr. Sue Johnson, a leading expert in couples therapy, presents the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and how it can strengthen romantic relationships.

- "Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall B. Rosenberg: This book teaches effective communication techniques that can improve relationships by fostering understanding and empathy.

[abc3643]

"Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know" by Dr. Barbara De Angelis.

Even though this is a book written for women, it's really written for everyone. Here she is doing an excellent job of explaining men to women. You will find yourself nodding in agreement like "She gets us."

BUT!

Here's what's really important if you are a man:

She is explaining men to women. So, to do that, she is talking to women in the way that women think and feel.

SO, AS A MALE, reading her book gives you an opportunity to learn to understand how women think and how they feel and what is important to them and how they are confused by us and what we can do to help them with that.

When I bought this book circa 1992, it was a bit eye-opening. First, to have a female who gets us, but then realizing I was actually learning about women.

[lightbulb27]

I read a variety and watched videos. is it worth my digging them all up.

you really have to identify what areas you know or think you know and fill in the voids. I knew very little around age 49.

I think 75% the battle is knowing yourself and the other is understanding people... e. g how women think. There's stages to relationships:

finding a date... that's a skill

dating is a skill

being in intimate relationship is a skill

maintaining relationship... is a skill.

[D_Bone_Steak]

The Subtle Art of not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson... it's not relationship specific, but it will get you on the right path.

It has me getting pussy... just ask these other dudes if they even bang more than one puss in a week. I'd bet money they're losers.

[Anonymous]

The only book I'd recommend a guy read is "power of a man". Because 90% of guys problems today in relationships is not their ability to understand women. It's him not knowing his inherent power and role as a man. If a quality man knows who he is and what he's willing to tolerate from a woman, then everything else falls into place. That doesn't mean that it'll work out with every woman. Some women simply are not worthy of you. But this is the point. You play your role and then she either plays hers or she gets replaced by a quality woman who does play her role.

[TheorionMage]

To understand 'people' you must FIRST embrace your being an animal. "Manwatching: A field Guide to Human Behavior" by Desmond Morris, written from the SAME perspective as zoologists observe animals in the wild with whom they can't rationalize and embellish internal motivations. Came out in the 1970's. Destroys A LOT of self delusion society has us hide from and behind. ;)

[TheSpaceGnome]

There isn't a guide for that, people are individuals and want different things in a partner.
The only things you need to know are be picky, be patient, be safe, and don't cheat or give up your hobbies/interests.

[DextroShade]

The Rational Male series by Rollo Tomassi

Why Women Deserve Less by Myron Gaines

[KrakenAttackin]

@DextroShade. You beat me too it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@KrakenAttackin He beat us all to it.

[KrakenAttackin]

@D_Bone_Steak 😂😂😂

[Nikki1989]

If you need a book, it would be better if you would just avoid relationships.

[Charliefretz329]

The five love languages.


And Misery by Stephen King lol

[Anonymous]

I've heard the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a good read.

[Phoenix98]

Nothing beats experience.

[laly520]

I suggest get real experience

[andreasderjuengere]

Try Charles Bukowski or Robert Crumb.

[Crankor]

Psychology books