Even if the meet up was 100% platonic or even professional?
Let's define "Cheating." It is doing something underhanded and wrong. It is doing something deceitful. It cheats a person or persons without their knowledge, and to their detriment. And though it may temporarily advantage the cheater, it is unlikely to do so in the long run because cheaters are usually caught, then have to face "punishment."
Whether punishment is emotional, physical or criminal, the risks from cheating are significant.
So, the aforementioned meeting with a former partner in a professional, workplace setting has nothing to do with cheating.
It is not clandestine, or hidden. It does not involve sexual or emotional involvement. It is during a professional event. The two did not plan the incident between themselves and it wasn't private.
Cheating is not dancing with someone. It is not fantasizing about an ex, or calling them on the phone or messaging them.
Cheating is a planned, extended, clandestine emotional and physical involvement that exists to the detriment of the cheater's regular SO relationship. It has nothing to do with corporate-sponsored workplace meetings or conferences, despite someone's ex being there.
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If it's done behind your partners back then it's cheating. A number of years ago I met up with an ex that I dated just before starting to date my ex. She was going to be in the neighboring town where I worked. I told my wife and she said go meet her and see what she is doing.
I met up with her for a 1/2 hr coffee and all it did was remind me that she was still self absorbed and only interested in herself. The sex with her had been some if the best I ever had but could never be enough to put up with her personality. Thankfully it was a short meeting as I could not stand listening to her babble about herself. After 20 years, she had not changed one bit. My wife just laughed when I told her how it went.
Also a number of years ago, we travelled to where my wife grew up and her closest friend had planned a reunion of a group that they were all part of over 30 years earlier. One if the guys there was an ex boyfriend of my wife's. He was a nice guy and ended up partying with us until 3am.
It all depends on the circumstances and if you are totally honest with your partner. We have been together over 30 years, have total trust and no jealousy at all.
If your partner knows about it and is fine with it then sure. Plenty of reasons why you'd meet an ex. Perhaps your partner has children with the ex, and they are meeting to address something with the children. Perhaps they are co-workers and need to meet for work reasons. Perhaps they are still within the circle of friends and you all get along, etc.
But when its you making advances to get your ex back or you are purposefully hiding it from your partner then thats a problem and its cheating.
If you don't trust him, then that is the problem. If you trust him and know him well, you don't have to worry about him cheating or doing weird things behind your back. I hope you shared your concerns with him about it.
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Depends. I Live with an Ex Who is Family and All of My Other Exes---Knew It. xoo
Firstly If they hide it, aren't very open, meet up privately it is cheating. Secondly they are an ex for a reason. The only benefit to being friends with an ex is the possibility to get back with that person. Thirdly. To be clear an ex wife with kids is different as you HAVE to see then because you have kids together.
If the conversations leading up to and the meet ups with an ex involve flirting, romantic advances, or a desire to rekindle the romantic relationship, it can be seen as a form of cheating. These actions show a lack of respect, love, loyalty and commitment to the current partner. In addition, having any intent to lie or omit such a meeting, even if completely innocent, is the same thing.
I've met with my ex-wife and my fiancé had no issues.
We met as friends catching up. My ex did start asking silly things like asking to stay over so I stopped talking with her.
But none of it was cheating we didn't get intimate at all.It depends but for me, if I am committed to you and you are my girl, there are no exes in the picture. If you want to go meet up with your ex then I will just move on to someone else with better boundaries.
Cheating is when you cheat. When you go to bed, kiss, touch, or catch feelings... but ffs meeting? Really?
Yes. Because you were once intimate with this person and that attraction will always remain. Even though a casual meeting seems like nothing it's certainly the gateway to cheating.
No, only if it was specifically for the result of some "close up" action, but if it's strictly platonic or even having kids not at all.. But that's not the question you should be asking..
Not cheating, per se, but it's shady as hell to do it behind your partner's back and I could totally understand someone thinking that kind of behavior was a breach of trust.
If there is nothing physical it is not cheating. The problem is that these things have a way of getting out of control.
If the partner is okay with it. I don't think it's cheating. However if the partner knows and doesn't feel okay with it, then still meeting that ex is suspicious. Because your partners comfort is more valuable than meeting with an ex.
Any contact with an ex is unacceptable. I'd leave the person over it.
Depends did u tried to hide it or not inform your partner about it
Its not cheating.. But from my own point of view. There is literally no chance that i would ever meet with an ex without my wife being there.
Not cheating. But hiding it isn't the best idea just because of how it looks
That is like me saying, me simply meeting up with an old boss, is me quitting my job and going back to my old one. Cheating means you have done something to betray your monogamous relationship by way of having a physical or deeply emotional relationship or encounter with that person. If you went over to meet your ex with the intention that you wanted something or hoped something would happen with them---you're on the way to cheating but until you act on it, doesn't hold up in court.
Not technically no, but unless you could prove that it was 100% platonic, your guy might assume you were.
I don’t think it’s cheating, but it is inappropriate to meet with ex, without your spouse present.
I must have a high threshold/tolerance. Transparency is a factor though.
“It was purely platonic” sounds like some excuse you’d cook up after your boyfriend found out.
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