Why did you even give him a chance when you first found out?
Good for you girl! Dump his sorry ass. I have my SO a second chance but I don't like how it's going. I don't know what to call him because he said he didn't want labels. I thought we were bf/gf but I found out he was cheating. Now, we are still seeing each other but I can't trust him.
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Yeah, I chose "Nope" above, but there is a little gray area for situations like you mention. If it's recent history, then not a chance. If it's ancient history, when she was young and immature, then maybe. It would help if she were very forthcoming and remorseful about it.
@CarpX Yeah, exactly, and not allowing for that little gray area would too strongly limit your pool of potential partners anyway.
That's not a relationship
@WhereIsMyMind Who made you the official interpreter of what is or isn't a relationship? It's called having different views on things, y'know.
How's the open relationship going? Do you ever get a little jealous? I don't know what my SO wants because he said this other girl and I are both his gfs. Then he said he didn't want to label us or be serious. He made me his girlfriend over a year ago and I recently found out he was fooling around.
@evelyn26 It's going pretty well. I've been on a few dates with other men myself but after a while I realized it wasn't worth the effort. One man is more than enough to deal with lol. We communicate openly about what we do and with who. He hasn't had much interest in seeing other women to be honest so jealously has never really been an issue.
I see. So it's pretty much a regular relationship. You know of the other women and he knows of the other guys. It's not like you're hiding it. I agree one person is enough to keep up with
@evelyn26 Pretty much. It's been working for almost two years now
Good for you. Do you think it will one day turn into a monogamous/serious relationship?
@evelyn26 We're emotionally monogamous if that makes sense. I doubt he will ever truly be sexually monogamous and I don't expect him to be.
I see. I understand. Emotional is very important. Sounds like he has issues too (because he has a good girl right there but still wants emotionless sex with a lot of women) but some people are not meant to me monogamous.
I wouldn't be able to share my guy. He wants emotional monogamy but not everything else? Then you can be alone and die alone I say. But that is just me.
@evelyn26 I have a background in psychology and I've been trying to help him with his issues. He has gotten a lot better and his "affairs" have become significantly less frequent. It's been several months now that we've been completely monogamous but the urge will always be there.
Can I message you? I'm gonna follow you. I like that you have a background in psychology.
@evelyn26 I followed you, it won't let me message you
I couldn't. I'd be too worried that he'd do that to me too
Great you know probably that even if the person didn't do it he could possibly do. Also you should take in consideration if that person is telling the truth (which in some cases are lies)What's better a straight forward truth or a pleasing lie? I go with the first one you can go with whatever you want, it's your choice. Both have consequences.You could do but you're emotional, you focus on feelings...
Damn. Sorry that happened to you
Noticed another hot woman = cheating LET THE THUMBS DOWN TO OBLIVION MARCH BEGIN
Hell no. I'd never cheat on anyone
That's good, I just needed to know. Well, if you know the guy is a cheater, then you need to stay away. There is nothing worse than cheating. I respect open relationships or poly-amours relationships, but cheaters are pigs.
Only 3 voted cheater
and the rests are pretending to be honest.
Or maybe cheat doesn't exist