98% if the time no... but the other 2% of the time maybe. I've seen a girl in a really bad relationship where she actually told the guy wanted to break up and he wouldn't accept it. She started talking to another guy, went over to his house and I guess her "ex" boyfriend caught her and then after that incident she stopped talking to the other guy and went back to dating her ex. So, in her mind it was more of an on and off again relationship where the guy always that the relationship was on, and she knew that and even though she told him she wanted to break up she never officially did so technically she cheated. Then when she finally ended it with the guy for good and started dating a guy who treats her well she, at least from what I have witnessed, treats this relationship with the utmost respect so much so that even if she still had feelings for the other guy, she refuses to admit to let him know that she still has feelings for him and if he were to ask she would tell him she doesn't because she doesn't want to disrespect her current boyfriend and do anything to ruin her relationship with the guy...
So, in this instance I would consider her a cheater but I wouldn't object to dating her. Now if the girl just flat out cheated because she could or because she was bored and never made an attempt to end things. . . she just straight up cheated. . . then hell no.
The only cheating in my relationships is my diet
Never , coz If a person has cheated once.. then cheating will always be their potential. It shows you what they are capable of
. They may never cheat again , but they are more likely to coz those who cheat lack willpower. They have no self- control over their desires and emotions. So if they are ever faced with a situation which makes them feel vulnerable , or if they are going through a rough patch in the relationship... opportunity will control their loyalty
I value loyalty too much to risk being betrayed by someone who's already given me one good reason why I shouldn't place my trust in them.
I can overlook a lot of things, but never any sort of betrayal. Whether they betrayed me or someone else.
I'll never accept less than I'm willing to give. Every relationship needs a solid foundation of trust. So a guy who's cheated on an ex has already lost my trust. My trust can never be regained
The guy I'm seeing made me his girlfriend but recently found out he was cheating. This other girl and I were both his gfs he said. He's had many gfs at only 22 years old. I don't know why his past relationships ended but I'm guessing it was due to cheating. If I ask him he will get upset so I won't ask.
I gave him a second chance but he said he didn't want labels and that we could never be serious. I don't know what to call him. We've been together for 2 years and I've known him for 4 years. I don't feel anything anymore. He says he loves me but once a cheater always a cheater right?
hi, this question just reminded of a term i heard years ago, Monkey swing, describing a person who cheats and only moves on from a partner when cheating with another, a real show of lack of substance. thens there's a cheater who randomly cheats, one off cheats, for me i do have a belief that a soul has the potential to be different if they meet a special partner, only then would it allow for them to feel enough to change their own ways starting from feeling something different than they have ever felt xx
Nope. Primary reason why I'm finally pulling myself up from my bra straps and leaving my boyfriend. He cheated on me last year and I tried to look past it but because I did, he didn't change at all. Still treated me like dirt, telling me to shut up, demanding sex all the time, so I just put his ass on the curb. Once a cheater and a loser, always a cheater and loser.
Don't trust cheaters ever. I learned the hard way not to give them a second chance. Definitely won't be making that mistake again.
Why did you even give him a chance when you first found out?
Good for you girl! Dump his sorry ass. I have my SO a second chance but I don't like how it's going. I don't know what to call him because he said he didn't want labels. I thought we were bf/gf but I found out he was cheating. Now, we are still seeing each other but I can't trust him.
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u If they cheated on somebody else, they would cheat on me. Why do I need to be worrying about that nonsense all the time when there are good women who have earned the right to be trusted?
I'd give them a chance if i really liked them but would be worried they might do it to me.
No. If he could cheat on other quality, attentive women then why would I be any different? I mean if he wanted to move on he could've just ended those relationships but he decided to be selfish and lie and waste those other girls' time and resources. The ability to continuously cheat and lie is more than just a "mistake" it's indicative of an inability to respect his S/O and it shows that he has no problem lying up a storm. I'm not naive enough to believe that I can miraculously reform him with love and good sex.
Ridiculous. 75-80% of all marriages endure some kind of infidelity from one or both parties. Before marriage, all bets are off. People will cheat given the right circumstances and opportunity - GUYS AND GALS.
Google the term: hypergamy
A woman will pretty much dump any guy if the right one comes along and is a move up in terms of looks, money, or power. It's a biological response.
Nope, never. Once a cheater always one. The ones I just find pathetic are the women that say "I got drunk and made out with a guy" and try and blame alcohol for cheating. Sorry, you chose to drink, you knew what you were doing. Funny how men get the bad rap as cheaters when women do it more. And it is worse when women cheat because they "typically" need an emotional connection. It is still disgusting when men do it but we can fuck any woman without any kind of connection.
Not a chance in hell.
I don't believe in the phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater". People can and do change for better and for worse. It's rather presumptious to believe that just because a person cheated on someone else "x" years ago, that they will do it to you too. That's not why I won't date a cheater.
I won't date a cheater, because even if she has changed her ways, it's my firm belief that due to her past, she doesn't deserve love - especially not from me.
i would date them and keep my eyes and ears out to really hear and see if they've changed. if i had a feeling that they would still cheat i would break up with them. but i wouldn't necessarily NOT consider someone because they cheated in the past... because some people are capable of changing
I don't prescribe to the once a cheater, always a cheater thought. But in 99% of cases I wouldn't date them, because that's a character flaw. The only cheating I can sort of look past is revenge cheating. Because they were cheated on and wanted to make their ex feel the same way. But even that's a character flaw lol
If she cheated once in a 3-month relationship when she was 18 and has been loyal to other boyfriends since then I think I could look past it. But if it was a patter n of it happened in her most recent relatonship then it would be a red flag, a big no-no.
We all make wrong decisions, if someone cheated before and you're interested in that specific person you gotta make sure her/his behavior is not pathological, if it IS you should expect an open relationship or nothing. Many people demonize cheating, I am not saying is right but saying that cheating is for only "inmoral" people is thinking that there is nothing in the world that can make you cheat. That point of view don't make you see your vulnerabilities and therefore it don't let you recognize the situations that can make you vulnerable of taking wrong decisions.
To be honest, I wouldn't. I told my ex-girlfriend the first day of our relationship that "if there's one thing I am sure about, that is I will never cheat on you" and she later on told me that she was all "wow what a cool guy". It ended due to different reasons, but long story short, being loyal no matter how bad the relationship is, is something worthful and acknowledgable I guess.
Not a chance. I do believe people are capable of change, but dating a cheater would just make me too paranoid. I don't have time to be checking cell phones, following them around or doing all the extra s*** if I don't have any trust in them. Being in a relationship is built on trust and if I don't have any trust in you then there is no relationship whatsoever. So in order to prevent all of that and a headache I just won't date cheater.
No. Even though "once a cheater, always a cheater" might not be true, some people value loyalty so high that they could never do it even if they got paid for it. And because I'm like that, I expect the same from my partner.
My boyfriend has a history of cheating. I knew about that before we started going out. We agreed to have an open relationship. In my experience, removing the taboo of cheating also removes the temptation to do it.
How's the open relationship going? Do you ever get a little jealous? I don't know what my SO wants because he said this other girl and I are both his gfs. Then he said he didn't want to label us or be serious. He made me his girlfriend over a year ago and I recently found out he was fooling around.
@evelyn26 It's going pretty well. I've been on a few dates with other men myself but after a while I realized it wasn't worth the effort. One man is more than enough to deal with lol. We communicate openly about what we do and with who. He hasn't had much interest in seeing other women to be honest so jealously has never really been an issue.
@evelyn26 Pretty much. It's been working for almost two years now
@evelyn26 We're emotionally monogamous if that makes sense. I doubt he will ever truly be sexually monogamous and I don't expect him to be.
@evelyn26 I have a background in psychology and I've been trying to help him with his issues. He has gotten a lot better and his "affairs" have become significantly less frequent. It's been several months now that we've been completely monogamous but the urge will always be there.
@evelyn26 I followed you, it won't let me message you
It'd be a red flag for sure, but I focus on how they treat me in the present, not the past. If she were to cheat then yes I'd dump her, but until then when there's no smoke, there's no fire.
I really couldn't. I would have trust issues after hearing that.
Nope. There'd be trust issues from day one and I tend to assume the worst anyway. A relationship where I'm paranoid half the time is one I'm better off without.
No. Cheating on a partner that one is in a relationship says a lot about one's lack of integrity. And integrity is the most important trait I look for in a potential partner.
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No. That's not going to happen..
It's in the past. If you are not capable of looking past a person's imperfections or mistakes, you'll fall into looking for the 'perfect' individual, which doesn't exist.
I did that once and I totally regret it. Cheater is always a cheater
Damn. Sorry that happened to you
Yes I'm dating a girl who's a known cheater. I've been friends with her and I've liked her for a really long time and I know for a fact that she's cheated on all the boyfriends she's had. And I know she'll probably cheat on me but I don't care cuz I've always wanted her so bad
HELLL TO THE NO!
And even if they say they changed still I would never trust her
It depends on the person and why they cheated. If they cheated because there other partner cheated on them I would maybe think about it. Everybody deserves somebody to love, but if this person cheated multiple times then no.
It's not cheating if you aren't married, and even if you are married, "cheating" can be defined in so many ways it's bound to happen, so yeah I suppose I'd be a cheater or just wouldn't care.
Cheater are the ones you bang and dip on. Show me a real women. Even though loyalty is a thing of the past.
No, it shows poor character and why would anyone want to be with someone like that.
Just because they cheated before doesn't mean they will again. But it does make you always be on the look out for it and rightly so
One who could really ignore someone's trust and pain. Trusting such person is foolish
I wouldn't date someone with a history of cheating coz that means he is the problem but might date someone who cheated on one partner due to extraordinary circumstances.
Depends on the cheat.
If they were switching relationship like switching jobs, then that's something but not a deal breaker.
If they just love cheating, then nope.
Male cheaters are attractive.
Why?
Because they're desired by other women.
i dont care cause im not the jealous type and i believe in open relationships. as long as she comes home to me (and gets tested at least once a month) im down.
That's not a relationship
@WhereIsMyMind Who made you the official interpreter of what is or isn't a relationship? It's called having different views on things, y'know.
Probably not going to be in a relationship with them.
Anyone who cheats is a worthless piece of shit, and I don't date people like that. I have too much self respect to do that.
Yes and yes. I think would bother me but if I like the person I would give a chance and eventually accept her. How about you?
I couldn't. I'd be too worried that he'd do that to me too
Great you know probably that even if the person didn't do it he could possibly do.
Also you should take in consideration if that person is telling the truth (which in some cases are lies)
What's better a straight forward truth or a pleasing lie? I go with the first one you can go with whatever you want, it's your choice. Both have consequences.
You could do but you're emotional, you focus on feelings...
I wouldn't date her , and not because once a cheater always a cheater I don't believe that
But I believe ONE mistake of cheating it's enough to curse you all your life I hate cheating
I would not , I would at least be friends but I'm not a cheater and whenever I'm in a relationship again I hope that she's going to be the same and just be with me and me alone.
If someone cheated on me I wouldn't really care as long as their happy
I have this ideal
Twice a cheater always a cheater
Nope. I am not a tool.
i genuinely think they might have changed and maybe not cheat on me. not gonna risk it anyhow xD
I would tell her that if she is striving to overcome the habit of cheating then we possibly might get it to work
Date sure we can fuck and hang out. I'm not giving her the keys to my house or share a bank account.
Very, very slim chance. If they've done it before, then they'll probably do it again to me.
Every relationship is different so yea, I could date a cheater and I don't really mind his past.
I coukd and would date them. It's really about the pwrson
shit happens and people make mistakes it's not necessary they'll repeat it again
If they recently cheated I would look at them as hook up material and nothing else. However if it was a isolated mistake made a long time ago I might overlook it.
No because I'd already feel like I couldn't trust them.
Not if I hadn't known them an see they have gotten help for there problem
Nope. Once a cheater always a cheater
um hell no. i dont date sluts.
No, because they will cheat on you too.
Personally, no I couldn't and wouldn't.
No never, there is no chance for that.
no if it was more than 2 then no
In this scenario, are you the cheater?
Hell no. I'd never cheat on anyone
That's good, I just needed to know.
Well, if you know the guy is a cheater, then you need to stay away. There is nothing worse than cheating. I respect open relationships or poly-amours relationships, but cheaters are pigs.
Nooooooooooo
Wbu?
Hell no. I'd be too paranoid
Nope. Once a cheater always a cheater
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