Would you date someone who has a history of cheating?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yes

No

[Sasha0426]

Nope! If they have cheated before meeting you, they WILL do it to you.

[Pinay_ako]

H e L L n a w

[Pinay_ako]

Thank you for MHO

[Avicenna]

No. This is someone who has proven that she cannot be trusted. And it's likely that she has not admitted to more than a tiny fraction of the sum of all cheating she has done.

[AviatorTom]

If I was dating just for the sex, yes I would. But most of the time, I have dated to be in a relationship, and I would not.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It depends. If I'm only really interested in sex and company than I don't really care so much.

Also if they are just a totally different person now. I don't think everyone who was cheating in their early 20's is going to stay that way their whole lives.

Once you have an apartment and bills to pay for, if you're actually interested in settling down you're probably going to put that behind you.

And if they don't, they pretty much by definition have no self control. Which is pretty easy to see coming.

[Leapfrog00]

Speaking from experience, people who often cheat make a habit of it. They usually have their own securities and act out of desperation. I don't care about her dating history, but one time someone did warn me about a girl I was dating, and told me she cheated on more than one boyfriend before.

I didn't listen, and a month later, I walked in on her with another guy. If a girl cheated on someone once, but it wasn't something they did all the time, I would probably look past it.

People usually cheat for some reason. What I hate is when a girl says, "I was cheating because you weren't paying any attention to me."

If a girl has a problem with me, she needs to tell me. Girls like that are just masking excuses for their actions.

Now if a girl cheats on another guy to date me, I know somewhere down the road she's going to cheat on me.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I said no, because that history has a way of repeating itself. I'd bang her, but wouldn't take her seriously.

Basically, I'd just expect her to cheat at some point and will be more than willing to drop her for a better option at any point. I do have to bang something though right now.

[Northernlight19]

It depends on the nature and length of the history.

If it happened once (either one time or with one person) and the cheater regrets their actions and has done the introspection, reflection and work to change whatever behavior compelled them to do what they did then sure, I would date them.

People make mistakes. Sometimes terrible mistakes. But people can and do change. This "once a cheater, always a cheater" idiom is ridiculous nonsense that if taken to its logical end and universally applied would make every single one of us ineligible for good things and second chances. People who treat that stupid phrase like gospel truth are, in my experience, just as damaged as the cheater.

On the other hand, if someone has a history of serial infidelity and they haven't done the work to fix themselves or have no desire to do so, that is as big a red flag as you will ever see.

[imawfulatusernames]

My current boyfriend cheated on an ex 5/6 years ago. We’ve talked about it probably more than we should have and I genuinely believe he wouldn’t do so again however he understands there’s certain levels of trust that aren’t as implicit as they would have been otherwise

[Anonymous]

Living in some metropolitan areas, experiencing the night life, really wakes you up to just how common cheating is. Men who can get it, pretty much all do, and as for the woman, they all can get it and can be good for some time, but eventually, their time comes

[RangerBlue22]

If it was a one time mistake a very long time ago maybe in HS or something than I can forget about that. But if she recently did this shit I would trust her.

[menina]

No. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Why would I waste my time with someone who would cheat on me too? That makes no sense to me.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Probably not.

Whilst I do believe that people can change, it's too risky to take the chance.

[DermalPunch]

If the mention the cheating to you it is a warning. They are letting you know that they will be cheating on you.

[FilmGuy93]

Generally no, but I'm willing to see passed someone's past, if it's really obvious that they've done the healing they needed to to make sure it doesn't happen again.

[PointTaken]

I did once. Was with her for 4 years. She was cheating toward the end. She always said "once a cheater always a cheater" but she said it about others. Guess she was really right after all.

[inhua]

once a cheater, always a cheater

just another reason why body count matters

[DaddyDiablo]

Sad part is; is that I've dated and kept taking back and getting back with a ex who would cheat on me and leave me and I would just take them back or get back with them

[Finchie40]

No , they will eventually cheat on you , waste of time

[TheSimFans]

Fuck nope I already been the station before and remined friends that also did play mixed signal

[Ms_Facesitter]

No that's playing with fire for no reason. If he forgot the basic relationship rules, he's not it.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’m all for polyamory, but I expect honesty. They can date others as well, as long as they’d tell me.