38m here. Depends on many things. For what it may matter, I’m a Bible-believing Christian. I’m also divorced - not due to adultery, but because we were young, stupid, and immature (not a good combination) when we got married.
To address the question (but not necessarily answer it) - as mentioned, it depends on many things. I’ll briefly address a couple of them. I’m prob not going to tell you what you want to hear.
1) their current age/maturity
2) how long since they cheated
3) how long have you known them
4) have they changed, and have you seen this change. In other words, is their lifestyle and choices indicative of someone who is mature and puts others first (this can be difficult to answer objectively, especially if you’re already in a relationship; when I was dating my ex, I could tell that things weren’t right, but I ignored the “red flags” because I justified everything - again, I was immature and afraid to make the tough choices).
5) have they learned anything, and maybe more importantly, has their own lifestyle changed accordingly?
6) is your penis/vagina making the decision, or are you thinking objectively?
7) probably 20 other things.
If you’re considering a relationship with this person, hopefully you’ll get to know them REALLY well (and hopefully he/she is willing to openly discuss the tough subjects and answer any of your questions, even if it brings them to tears. If they’re not or if they’re closed off, that’s not a good sign).
My ex and I divorced over 10 years ago. I’ve had one brief relationship since then, which ended shortly but amicably. I’ve stayed otherwise single for now because after divorcing, I realized that I was a piece of work, and needed to grow and mature in many ways. Lots of bad habits to address.
Ask the tough questions. Be willing to make the decisions that you don’t WANT to make but know that you SHOULD make (I failed in both of these areas). In the end, courage will pay off - not because the outcome will necessarily be what you want (with is partly irrelevant anyways, since we all tend to think selfishly), but because you will learn to make courageous and selfless decisions instead of fear-based decisions.
Cheers!
At your age kids are still figuring things out. I cheated on my first girlfriend at 16, confessed it to her, she dumped me and then I made a vow to never do that again. It’s been over 20 years now and I’ve kept my word all this time. I never cheated again on anybody ever again despite being very tempted a few times. But once I commit I commit.
Now if an attractive woman admitted she cheated and her and I did a fling/hook up I might consider it. But I would never date or trust her though. Hell no.
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Yes. I am not loyal at my heart.. naughty, cheaky.
But if i meet someone as naughty and cehaky playful.. I would be starting being jeallous for her.
So it would make me feel so loyal to her. How paradox! ... be in relationship be exciting for someone who is emotional junky.
A person that seeks for thrills.! excitement.
So to keep that person in you must be someone acceptingvand okay about him being 'cheater' this could be game changer.. This guy will start think... why she is so okay about it.
He will start think more and more about you while he is not with you. He won't think of other woman at all! but you. He will. miss you babe.
It's like adrenaline sports having sexy girfriend. Risky but keeps you alive, stressful lol but still difficult to living without that boost of stress;)
For girl is much easier to manipulate Man if she is open to know and accept all the truth about his guy without holding judgent amd beeing playful and smart...;)
I know of ONE girl who has cheated in a past relationship that I KNOW doesn't cheat on her current boyfriend and hasn't been like that for like 3 or 4 years now at least. I'd trust her for sure but she's like the only one I know that has come out better on the other side after the fact. Vast majority? Hell NO! I hope to God whoever I meet in the future is loyal. There is no worst hurt than being cheated on. Well aside from losing a child. I mean I've never been a parent like THAT but when I lost my dog that was probably the greatest heartbreak I ever experienced because she was like my child.
u I guess it depends on how long ago it was, why did it happen, and how did it happen...
some people cheat, regret it, lessons learned and move on... we all make mistakes, even big mistakes
but some others cheat not just once, and on top of that... they lie about or try to justify it, or focus on excuses instead of regret what happened, and this case... I don't think I could trust someone like this
Morality is a complex thing , yet cheating is a choice that you make with Every choice there comes consequences..
I could never understand how the human logic is constructed it varies as how one person loves the other person and to what extent it goes so they will to forgive them or not.
And one question that arises is are people really worried of what other people will think or the accused would leave them.
How does it reflect on the individual the cheater and the cheated.
Or is about being exclusive having the sole owenership and control
For me I'm kind of a Carefree spirit I trust people until they give me the reason not to is somebody has cheated they either had a reason or they just didn't care whatever way it was they did it the wrong way they could have very easily said I don't love you no more I want out Eric Broadbent and lover with but when somebody cheats and they go home each and every day to their spouse seen hi honey having sex with him acting as if nothing happened living the big fat lie and the big fat guess what I'm getting over on you that right there would hurt me more than the cheating itself that right there proves to me who that person really is I would never want to be with a person like that that is selfish that is uncaring that is a big fat lie that is a cheater with everything they do I'm sorry it's not for me there's another five billion other women out there I don't need to pick the one that I don't want
I have, then she cheated. If they cheat once, ask what the situation was that led to it... that situation is what will enable them to do it again, again, and again. I cheated on that chick that cheated on me, but I cheated to get her back out of revenge. I cheated on her a whole bunch with different chicks. Once I found a good, non-cheating chick I have no hate filled urge to cheat. What I'm saying is someone that cheats just because they have the tingles, will do it just for that reason again.
I’d be reluctant to but I have done it. Technically I cheated once, even if I was 16 (half a lifetime ago) and we didn’t go all the way.
I would not. I don’t care what the situation was, “Oh I was plastered at a party, I woke up next to them…” Don’t care. I don’t wanna hear it. I believe some can change, but how do you go on with your life not feeling guilt or wanting to make it up to them?
No, lol. They’ll go be-hide your back and maybe give you an STD. It’s not worth an STD.
I would not. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I don't understand a cheater's thought process that makes them think it's even remotely okay to do that. It's not hard to imagine how it would hurt the person if they find out. It's not hard to not do something you wouldn't like done to yourself.
It would be hard for me to trust a girl who has cheated on the ones they were with
From a male perspective, that is a question 'would you ever date a prostitute'.
And, if not - it means they will stay in ruin and never make it out of their troubles, which eventually comes back to bite all of the family people in the ass, like it does now with Covid/this social crises of refugees, chaos and complete lack of leadership globally (due to boomers taking the lead roles but not leading at all, just milking it for money and power/influence)
That is a tough one, trust in anyone is difficult to get back, even if it wasn't done to you.
The other person can rationalize all they want to but in the end it was still wrong.
It depends on how and why. My girlfriend "cheated" on her first boyfriend because he didn't understand that she had broken up with him. To show him it was over she made out with his best friend. Technically it was over, but according to him it wasn't.
What do I look like dating someone that has cheated in the past, condones cheating, thinks cheating is cute, loves to cheat? Cheat on me and best believe it’s going to be a p-p-problem
I found out to late that my now ex has cheated on almost everyone with whom she is now married to, but she also cheated on him when they were dating.
No. Once I learned that I'd not see in her in the same light anymore and I would have had to have moved on.
Depending on the story, generally definitely no but who knows what will happen
No, def not. I strongly believe in once a cheater, always a cheater. Always around me if someone did it once, you’d hear they did it multiple times again after that.
Nope, never. It takes a special kind of mindset to ever be able to do that. A fucked up mindset that can't be changed.
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