How do you know if someone has commitment issues?

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TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

You can never know for sure. Sometimes, there are symptoms though, like them not having had that many relationships and they are of advanced age. The thing is, sadly, at least in this society, relationships are mostly dictated by the man. They are the ones to propose or make someone their girlfriend. It's the woman then who's job it is to say "yes" or "no thanks". That's the way it's always been. Also, think about it, they could just sadly not want to commit to you as well, not that they are having committment issue in general. So in sum:

Look at their dating history, if it has a string of short-term relationships
Asses the person you're currently dating to see if they want to delay true committment like in this case, marriage.

There's probably more like if they are quitters in life in general. But these are what I came up with off the bat.

MsBell2018 · Accepted Answer

1) They won't solidify future plans or change the subject when the future is brought up
2) They drag the relationship out & seem stuck or stagnant
3) They get irritated or defensive if you bring it up
4) depending on where your relationship is at, they don't "claim" you. Example:referring to you as their girlfriend/boyfriend, saying "I don't like to put titles on things, etc.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

If they seem distant from you, yes, that is a sure sign. Do they call you less? Do they seem to spend less time with you? When you two have plans, they seem to get cancelled a lot? These are some signs I would look for in a person or if someone you know is dealing with these situations.

Crankor · Accepted Answer

If it's a relationship, when it feels just like friends with benefits. They don't or are very hesitant to incorporate you into their life. Your just there when they want some love.

slatyb · Answer

The book "Attached" may give you some insight. How do you know? When you ask them to do the things that deepen the connection, they step back. Maybe they avoid discussion of your mutual goals. Maybe they avoid meeting your family, or making long-term plans (e. g. a future trip together).

What are your goals for a relationship?

Anonymous · Answer

You ask them after dating them for a while and they completely waffle, change the subject every time you bring it up, refuse to talk about whether they want you date you long term, or they can never give you a definitive answer, it's always "well maybe," or "I'll think about it."

rosemilk · Answer

they don't take steps towards the future and has no plans to do so

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

That’s a tough one. I guess they’ll drag out making the relationship official. If you’re already in a relationship with that person, then they’ll probably just do suspicious/sneaky stuff.

MemeSupreme · Answer

and there’s a million of us just like me who dress like me, walk, talk, and act like me and just might be the next best thing but not quite me cause i'm slim shady, yes I’m the real shady

nawtee_me · Answer

See the issue is communication. If you let it be known from the beginning that you are looking for a long term relationship and marriage then you eliminate those looking for something else. Don’t blame the other person if you are not communicating your desires to them. Not him or you reads minds do you all?

NathanDavis · Answer

when you have issues getting them to commit? lol...

sage2021 · Answer

They never say I love you.

Hanrej · Answer

Usually anyone who generalize negativly about the opposite sex has commitment issues.

laly520 · Answer

they won't be serious enough

Pterodon · Answer

There’s no such thing. Once Miss Right comes along all those “issues” magically disappear

Amara_09 · Answer

You just know in that moment

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No consistency

Jkreuger89 · Answer

If they don't let you cum in them

jahaims · Answer

They won't commit

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If they seem distant from you, yes, that is a sure sign. Do they call you less? Do they seem to spend less time with you? When you two have plans, they seem to get cancelled a lot? These are some signs I would look for in a person or if someone you know is dealing with these situations.

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If they seem distant from you, yes, that is a sure sign. Do they call you less? Do they seem to spend less time with you? When you two have plans, they seem to get cancelled a lot? These are some signs I would look for in a person or if someone you know is dealing with these situations.

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