You can never know for sure. Sometimes, there are symptoms though, like them not having had that many relationships and they are of advanced age. The thing is, sadly, at least in this society, relationships are mostly dictated by the man. They are the ones to propose or make someone their girlfriend. It's the woman then who's job it is to say "yes" or "no thanks". That's the way it's always been. Also, think about it, they could just sadly not want to commit to you as well, not that they are having committment issue in general. So in sum:
- Look at their dating history, if it has a string of short-term relationships
- Asses the person you're currently dating to see if they want to delay true committment like in this case, marriage.
There's probably more like if they are quitters in life in general. But these are what I came up with off the bat.
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1) They won't solidify future plans or change the subject when the future is brought up
2) They drag the relationship out & seem stuck or stagnant
3) They get irritated or defensive if you bring it up
4) depending on where your relationship is at, they don't "claim" you. Example:referring to you as their girlfriend/boyfriend, saying "I don't like to put titles on things, etc.
If they seem distant from you, yes, that is a sure sign. Do they call you less? Do they seem to spend less time with you? When you two have plans, they seem to get cancelled a lot? These are some signs I would look for in a person or if someone you know is dealing with these situations.
If it's a relationship, when it feels just like friends with benefits. They don't or are very hesitant to incorporate you into their life. Your just there when they want some love.
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The book "Attached" may give you some insight. How do you know? When you ask them to do the things that deepen the connection, they step back. Maybe they avoid discussion of your mutual goals. Maybe they avoid meeting your family, or making long-term plans (e. g. a future trip together).
What are your goals for a relationship?You ask them after dating them for a while and they completely waffle, change the subject every time you bring it up, refuse to talk about whether they want you date you long term, or they can never give you a definitive answer, it's always "well maybe," or "I'll think about it."
they don't take steps towards the future and has no plans to do so
That’s a tough one. I guess they’ll drag out making the relationship official. If you’re already in a relationship with that person, then they’ll probably just do suspicious/sneaky stuff.
and there’s a million of us just like me
who dress like me, walk, talk, and act like me
and just might be the next best thing but not quite me
cause i'm slim shady, yes I’m the real shadySee the issue is communication. If you let it be known from the beginning that you are looking for a long term relationship and marriage then you eliminate those looking for something else. Don’t blame the other person if you are not communicating your desires to them. Not him or you reads minds do you all?
when you have issues getting them to commit? lol...
They never say I love you.
Usually anyone who generalize negativly about the opposite sex has commitment issues.
they won't be serious enough
There’s no such thing. Once Miss Right comes along all those “issues” magically disappear
You just know in that moment
No consistency
If they don't let you cum in them
They won't commit
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