I definitely feel more sure than before but still not as sure as I have with the men of my past. I always felt pretty sure within month 1, 2, or 3 and certainly long before the sex. But like I don't know how i feel rn. I’m happy but I don't know if I’m in love. I always felt in love with the others long before now. We’re just 2 weeks shy of 6 months and I’m just shocked i don’t feel in love. I mean I love the way he looks at me with his everchanging colorful puppy dog eyes and the way he holds me and rubs my hand. And I don’t even mean that in a sexual way. But I think we express our love differently (maybe different love languages) and thats why it doesn’t feel as “there” for me as it did with others. I’m used to people with similar love languages and being on the same page at the same time. This guy is running behind and yea I love him and he loves me, its just… different. I don’t see us like breaking up or anything but I don't know why I don’t feel there yet. I guess I just feel weird having had sex when i loved but wasn't in love. Maybe i am in love but can’t bring myself to admit it because of how he acts sometimes. The passion and intensity is there but I don't know whats still missing. Like i asked him if he feels a bit more attached after everything and he says he does but I don't know why I don’t. I don’t feel attached for once. Maybe i need more time #FeelFreeToList
I feel very sure of my relationship. The dating part however was a nightmare for me. Because most guys I dated lost patience with me and I thought he'd be the same. One year is upon us and we only had maybe one fight. And that one was resolved within the day.
I hope that if he sees this post, he'll reply the same thing :)
But yes love languages. If it's similar it's easier. Mine is physical touch, spending time together, gestures. His language is words of affection, spending time and touch. The touch one was tougher because he's been through things. At first just putting a hand on his shoulder would startle him a little. He's had a past where anything physical is difficult for him. Just thinking about it makes me sad, because he's a good person. The reason I put touch as one of his love languages is because he lets me, and he does reach out for it. But I am the only one who he lets in. If he's angered or sad I'm the first to know, but there are moments where he's feeling down and he says he doesn't know why because things are going right. Or he's confused or it's got to do with a demon he's fighting right now and doesn't know how to face it yet. But I'm still sure of the relationship, he knows I'm there for him, he doesn't have to face those demons alone.
I'm working on the words of affection, because I don't know how to say it right, I like romantic gestures, but talking like Romeo and Juliette is not for me. But I know that letting him know how much he means to me and that I support him is enough to turn him into an unstoppable force and he WILL tackle the goal he set out for himself. It's not like he's insecure, he believes in himself, but he never heard it from people close to him so it's important that I remind him that he is doing a good job, that he's enough.
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Really understand the difference in love languages! That is really hard!
So much work making sure you do the other love language when trying to show love not your own!
Honestly you might not be sure but be careful seen so many of these I'm not sure relationships go wrong with her saying I knew it but did not want to admit it!
But loved the lust part.
It's never more time! Time causes distance between couples. Growing together is when your already together loving and building.
Not I hope I fall in love one day. That is more forced marriages and it never works.
Wow, sounds like you've got a lot going on in your head right now. Relationships can definitely be complicated, especially figuring out feelings. A few things that stood out to me:
- Comparing to past relationships is normal but doesn't always help. Every person/connection is different. Try focusing on what works uniquely with this guy.
- 6 months is still pretty new. Give it more time to grow and don't put so much pressure on labels like "love." Enjoy each other day by day.
- Communication is key. Talk to him openly about what you're feeling (and not feeling) so you're on the same page. See how he feels too - may help provide clarity.
- Attraction to others happens, but your actions show where your heart really lies. Trust that over temporary feelings.
- Love languages take patience to understand. Keep learning each other's and compromising to meet halfway.
It sounds like there's a foundation to build on here if you're both willing to put in the effort. Relationships aren't always feelings-driven - they also take dedication and work. Have an honest talk with him when you're ready. Hope this provides some perspective - let me know if any other thoughts!
I feel attached very quickly but it seems guys are quicker at this than girls are, so possibly you do need more time. And differences in love language might be it.
The in love feelings are somewhat ephemeral and transitory. After having been disappointed in the past our trust is lower. Maybe self preservation instincts slow down feeling attached. Not that I know anything. Just thinking out loud.
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I have one priority interest even though I’m not in a long term relationship right now. I believe there are less than 2 people on earth that could compete with him if they approach me, which is why I’m tempted to tell people I’m taken to scare them off. Why waste time?
A relationship is never a sure thing. That's why we have to work at our relationships.
I felt very sure in it, when I was in one.
It seems to me, that you've got too many reservations about him that you're trying to repress.. Plus, I think it's also that you're getting older to the point where you can't ignore the things that put you off about him..
Me? I ain't got no relationship to worry about.. LOL..
Relationships should always be works in progress. Off the rip tho, I can tell how well it'll probably work. Most guys can get a general sense of how it'll play out in terms of what the relationship is and most of that'll be from what the girl gives us. Sometimes women play too coy and come across as disinterested so we get disinterested. If a guy/girl tells you 6 months in that they doesn't know what they want relationship wise then they're lying.
There's always a possibility, that I'm outclassed by men, who drive a Ferrari and are kickboxing world champion or something and take their girls to Greece, Dubai, Paris or Bali regularly. AKA the top 10% of men.
On the other hand men like Andrew Tate are outclassed by guys with personality and their faithfulness.
I'm happy and that's all that matters atm...
I know that it's temporary because happiness is fleeting but I'm making the most of it while I can and I hope that going forward our relationship stands the test of timeAs of now, pretty certain I found the right woman. Just from experiences we have shared, things we did that I didn't do with an ex, goals are similar, love languages are different, sex is great. So yeah, feeling confident about it right now.
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pretty sure about it
so far this is the relationship im most sure about I have been with my wife off and on for over 35 years. We have a great relationship, a good understanding of each other and how we think. I feel great.
Hmm 🤔 usually I know fairly quickly wether or not I want to be with someone long term and am sure about the relationship usually within a month or so.
I knew from the minute I saw her that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Love at first sight does exist. We've been together for 35 years and I still love her, more now than before
I started seeing someone and it's going better than I hoped.
Last night we went on a moonlit walk in the park and she wants to be held until my arms get sore; I'm a tight (but still gentle) hugger.
I have been married for a long time. I mf I wasn't secure I would be going out of my mind
Well right now I am kinda enjoying single life but I have a friends with benefits that loves having sex with me and we are having a lot of fun together.
I still look and appreciate attractive women. I never forget I have a girlfriend though. I will propose to her this year.
No girl you're not into him don't force yourself to think that you love him...
You just want good sex. Lol.All mine are plutonic at an official capacity right now.
It is tough but I have realised that relationship needs sacrifices and it's tough honestly. But yes I feel my relationship is worth the effort
It's verbally indetermine and you have to observe and perceive it from your spouse's behaviors.
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