What are the reasons a woman would reject a marriage proposal?

[Anonymous]

Most of the times, she's going to say yes to her boyfriend's proposal. This benefits us more than living together. However, a couple marriage proposals have been rejected too. Few times but yes it does happens.

But seriously what are reasons for a woman to decline a marriage proposal (something that benefits her)?

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Right there she's rejecting something that benefits her.

[Lynx122]

Each case is different. There's women who have 2 kids with a guy but then when he proposes to her she's not quite sure if he's really the guy to build a future with. I don't know where your brain has to be to make those decisions and not see some kind of problem with it but this happens in the real world. I think one of the big reasons why some women are hesitant to get married nowadays is because they know they'll be judged by other women or also themselves by the man they're with and if they get married they're sort of locking in this is what I'm worth in their mind but as long as they're single and dating even if the guys never want to marry them, they can delude themselves into thinking their value is way higher than the guy that proposed to them. But for some reason if they have a kid with a guy they don't think that reflects on them at all. They think they can have a guys kids and then bash him all day every day and they don't see that they chose this man to pass his DNA on to the next generation to reproduce this man. And that's a bigger commitment than marriage in my opinion.

Usually it has to be some kind of cognitive dissonance with the woman. Because if you're with this man for a long time and then he proposes and you say no then it means you were just wasting your time on this relationship. if you didn't want to take it further or you think you can do better than this man but you never found a better man during the whole time you were together so that's also delusional.

A valid reason to decline is if the guy is proposing way too early and you were just starting out and he just surprised you out of nowhere.

[Asker]

yeah if she rejects a marriage proposal after being with a boyfriend for years, she's not doing herself any favors. It's her own time she's wasting alright and by doing that, she just increased her chance of then being single and finding a harder time to then get commitment once she gets older.

[Asker]

If I was with a boyfriend, even if I was a bit soon but there was love and he proposed, I would accept it but extend the engagement or get married but not necessarily have kids right there; you can still enjoy the marriage while putting a hold on kids if that's too soon.

[Vesuvius87]

The only time I would reject a marriage proposal without any hesitation is if hypothetically speaking my first ex boyfriend (a scammer and legitimate narcissistic-sociopath) that hurt me so much propose. My answer wouldn't be just a No but actually a ''get away from me''.

I'd rather be alone than marry him (not even if he was the last man on earth), even at this age.

[Vesuvius87]

So the reasons a proposal can be rejected:
- He has cheated, mistreated her or he's a terrible person
- She feels super insecure and doesn't trust him
- He's a creep that's proposing after meeting her for a week
- She blocked him and he's stalking her with a proposal