Have you ever felt lonely surrounded by people?

Question

Happens with me at parties, and public places I feel left out and like I don't belong there. Is there any possibile explanation for this?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

There was a point when I lived in Japan that I felt like this. It's fucking Japan and everywhere is crowded with people. People keep to themselves there though and if you don't have established friendships yet... they could care less if you neck yourself in a closet. I didn't just notice it right away because I'd fuck 4 or 5 hookers every night... I was a social genius... or so I thought. Then I'd be at home drinking my beers and thinking of shit... nobody to tell my bullshit to.

That's when I started picking up school girls

Things have changed now though... and if school girls were legal here, I'd be doing my thing still. (I'm back in the states now)

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

so let me ask you let's see you're talking to some of your friends you're doing the talking five or six people standing around somebody walks up they start talking louder than you and take over the conversation

or let's say you're walking with a few of your friends down the street do you lead when you walk or do you walk in the very back

do you feel and see things deeper than most people do you have a beautiful heart you're caring person you're kind of introverted

sometimes you'd rather listen than talk because you don't really get the chance to talk that much anyway

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Certainly I've felt lonely when surrounded by people. If I feel my presence is being ignored or isn't being valued, or if something has upset me and it seems like nobody has noticed or nobody cares.

Now, wild question, don't feel the need to answer if it makes you uncomfortable: Have you ever played DnD before? Your username is extremely similar to someone I've played with before. Curious of it's coincidence or I've actually stumbled across someone I know on here.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

I constantly feel like that. It happens a lot to people with depression. We'd rather be alone than with others

WhiteSteve · Answer

Yeah, I feel lonely most of the time this days. I don’t even mean that like a sad sack, lmao, but just my life circumstances leave me isolated a lot, or if I’m in crowds, it’s at the gym with strangers, or playing hockey with guys who are cool enough, but something about them or me…. we just are quite a match. We get along, but we just aren’t truly each other’s vibe, so we’re just acquaintances. And then my relationship is all fucked up due to health problems, so she’s kind of there, kind of not, and I don’t see her most days. So…. lone wolf mode. Ow-Ooooooo🐺😂

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Yes. I have. Oddly too, I’m very, very, introverted. I can walk into any room and comfortably approach anyone and strike up a conversation. Oddly, this is also why I could feel lonely because I often found I had dozens and dozens of people I could reach out to but very few I shared a deep and authentic relationship with. You start to get a sense that people like your outgoing personality as a spark to move their own life into a different place. Almost like they are absorbing some of your extrovert energy for themselves but aren’t really invested in you.

It took some time before I got to a point where I recognized that and adjusted my life accordingly.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, nearly every time I'm around anyone I feel lonely.

Relatability is very hard to find.

And its not like I don't get attention, I get lots of that when I'm around people, either because I made somethin they like, or because I look young, or because I said something they found interesting. It's just that I'm not looking for attention, I'm looking for boredom release, so getting attention from a person or prople that I can't relate, to just makes me feel more alone.

I also personally hate parties or other large gatherings, and all my hobbies/activities/interests are niche, so that doesn't help.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yes. For me…and in my view… this is a heart issue… meaning emotional and personality.
I was like this until i accepted Christ. When that happened… my fear changed to love and i became interested in others rather than afraid. It made hige difference.
So look into whom you are and yoir spiritual gifts. You may be sensitive and previously hurt. To engage w others confidently you must have internal strength. That is achievable.

Paul09 · Answer

Depends. It mostly happens to be when I dont know a lot of people, or don't feel like I connect with these people. Or also when people are taking about a subject everyone lies but I don't. I'm a ambiverted. Im more introverted, but try to be extroverted.

Unit1 · Answer

Not really. I mean unless they talk about politics or how evil nation or race (fill in the blank) is or are trying to get me to worship god or puff smoke or vape into my face or talk too much about things i don't get the point of or tell me how to cure depression by what i already know or pressure me to drink alcohol.

It's fairly hard to make friends.

Novemberr_ · Answer

I have perpetually been in this stituation nowadays since I have neither close friendship zone nor relatives living in my current city so it really gets me so bored and desperate here. However I could've lived here physically but my soul left here far ago..

JacobJordan · Answer

All the time but I don't really like people despite the fact I like to help people. Kind of weird but it happens

SweetDripp · Answer

Absolutely. I can be in a crowd and feel lonely if I don’t know anyone.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I never feel lonely. I'm one of my best companions :D I don't feel good in crowded places and I tend to isolate myself. I'm an observer, so I don't mind the isolation.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Almost constantly except that I'm almost constantly completely alone. But, in almost every case, even when I AM surrounded by people, I still feel lonely. Most, if not all, of them are not there to be with or see me.

bobalife · Answer

Typically, no. I love large crowds and socializing. But I guess when there’s an increased of anxiety and going through tough times last year.. yeah a few times.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yep. Logical explanation. You don't want to be there, you feel like you don't enjoy the activity or the place that they seem to enjoy.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Only in situations where I don't belong.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

You’re an introvert and hanging around extroverts. You need to forge deeper connections with your friends

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes. All the time in highschool and during COVId. Which is weird because I'm happy being by myself.

Keith469 · Answer

Happens all the time. What helps me break out of it is to find a way to be genuinely helpful to someone else.

Heolurt · Answer

That's just life for me, I could be in a sea of people and I'd still be the one person no one ever talks to or even cares about.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I lived my whole childhood and my teenage years feeling like this most of the times...

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am too social for that, but I can see how people who are not outgoing could feel that way.

dolemite58 · Answer

All the time, I feel like Travis bickle in taxi driver

82lynx · Answer

For most of my life.

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

Everywhere and always.

laly520 · Answer

yes few times before

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

TO MANY TIMES

SolitarySolace · Answer

Lonely? No. Fucking annoyed? Absolutely

RHK36 · Answer

Yes, for me it was and still is depression

DextroShade · Answer

You need a man!

FreyaRed · Answer

Never.

Unycorn · Answer

Every day

Anonymous · Answer

A few times. Do you feel so often?

_Ashley__ · Answer

Pretty often yeah

bunnylove403 · Answer

Every day!

riverrat3 · Answer

Lots of times

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