I used to. But I slowly been growing out from it. I been nice to too many people who just use me. Now days I am still nice but I don't give anything because I know they are gonna fuck me over, since they always do.
within the first few months to a year of getting to know someone i will be cordial and friendly but not fully trust them until a lot of time has passed.
No, I don't trust many people a lot, but I also realize that not trusting people all the time just makes things harder. It's a bit of a calculation of how much you'd lose if they broke your trust.
I trusted my ex-fiance implicitly for 10 years until I caught her lying to me, stealing from me and then cheating on me! At that point, I dropped her like a hot rock!! The lying, I could ALMOST live with, especially if it was only once. The stealing,, I didn't even understand! If she wanted to borrow that CD,. I would've had no problem lending it to her or even making her her own copy but, the cheating was too much!!
Sure is!! To be fair, she DID have a couple of Turkish friends (they were married) so, when she said she was gonna spend the day with them, I believed her. Now, I have to wonder if she WAS telling the truth! Especially since, one evening, when I was at work (I had to take a package from our building to the FedEx building 3 blocks away by 7:00 p. m.) I caught her waiting for a bus that goes nowhere near her place or anywhere she's ever been before with me and, as it turns out, it goes up to his house!! When I asked her where she's going, she just made up some bullshit story! And that was about a year before I knew she was cheating! I KNEW she was friends with this guy, David but, had no idea they'd been seeing each other for about 2 years behind my back!!
Thank you. So am I. I could've SWORE we were gonna spend the rest of our livers together!! Except for her being 18" shorter than me, we were perfect for each other! EVERYONE figured we'd get married!! Even years after the break-up I'd get people on the streets asking me how she's doing. I haven't a clue! She left him a year later and moved to Denmark!
I know! Thanks. I feel like I wasted at least the last 5 years of my life with her, if not all 10! I HAD other offers shortly after we started going together but I was in love with her and didn't want anyone else.
The good thing is, we had a great time together but, I could've spent those 10 years with someone that was worth it. By the time we broke up, we were both 44! Just a bit too late to get started again. So many girls COULD'VE had a great, kind, loving and loyal guy but, none of them wanted me! Or maybe any of that.
Yeah... to a point. I never trust someone enough to put myself in a bad position. But I can trust someone enough thwt it could leave a small emotional bruse.
I use too. It was a real problem of mine. Now, I don’t let people.. especially women, get that close unless they truly show me something. And usually their true colors show before anything else.
I get it... do u think it is different for girls as opposed to guys? I mean were are close in age so I'd like to hear ur thoughts and by trust do you mean on anything or is it more related to sex?
I'm not sure if gender really has anything to do with it. Ig it's more based on past experiences. And yeah well sex and with certain personal information and stuff.
I agree and TBH I have had 2 hookups that were fun with some great orgasms. ( Yes I used condoms every time) We both knew they would only be a hookup so it worked well and it was fn to get naked with a stranger for a night
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Sorry about that. Sometimes I feel a bit sad about it, but I guess we have to do what we have to do to protect ourselves
Yeah exactly, to avoid getting hurt
I used to. But I slowly been growing out from it. I been nice to too many people who just use me. Now days I am still nice but I don't give anything because I know they are gonna fuck me over, since they always do.
Not really, too many lies & disappointments. Trust takes time to be build & earned.
I agree
I used to but not anymore.
within the first few months to a year of getting to know someone i will be cordial and friendly but not fully trust them until a lot of time has passed.
Yeah that's fair :)
No, I don't trust many people a lot, but I also realize that not trusting people all the time just makes things harder. It's a bit of a calculation of how much you'd lose if they broke your trust.
Yeah I get that
Until I discover them to be untrustworthy or they prove themselves to be.
That's fair
I trusted my ex-fiance implicitly for 10 years until I caught her lying to me, stealing from me and then cheating on me! At that point, I dropped her like a hot rock!!
The lying, I could ALMOST live with, especially if it was only once. The stealing,, I didn't even understand! If she wanted to borrow that CD,. I would've had no problem lending it to her or even making her her own copy but, the cheating was too much!!
Damn- yeah cheating is unforgivable
Sure is!! To be fair, she DID have a couple of Turkish friends (they were married) so, when she said she was gonna spend the day with them, I believed her. Now, I have to wonder if she WAS telling the truth! Especially since, one evening, when I was at work (I had to take a package from our building to the FedEx building 3 blocks away by 7:00 p. m.) I caught her waiting for a bus that goes nowhere near her place or anywhere she's ever been before with me and, as it turns out, it goes up to his house!! When I asked her where she's going, she just made up some bullshit story! And that was about a year before I knew she was cheating! I KNEW she was friends with this guy, David but, had no idea they'd been seeing each other for about 2 years behind my back!!
Oh no.. I'm sorry that happened to you
Thank you. So am I. I could've SWORE we were gonna spend the rest of our livers together!! Except for her being 18" shorter than me, we were perfect for each other! EVERYONE figured we'd get married!! Even years after the break-up I'd get people on the streets asking me how she's doing. I haven't a clue! She left him a year later and moved to Denmark!
Aw no that's so sad :(
I know! Thanks. I feel like I wasted at least the last 5 years of my life with her, if not all 10! I HAD other offers shortly after we started going together but I was in love with her and didn't want anyone else.
Awww that's sad
The good thing is, we had a great time together but, I could've spent those 10 years with someone that was worth it. By the time we broke up, we were both 44! Just a bit too late to get started again.
So many girls COULD'VE had a great, kind, loving and loyal guy but, none of them wanted me! Or maybe any of that.
Aw I'm sorry
Thanks!
It depends on the person. Most people I trust very easily, but occasionally I get off vibes around someone and those people I don't trust
Ah yes the gut feeling ^^
It's proved true enough times that I've learned to trust it implicitly.
Same
ZERO!
I'm not opening an attack vector like that.
Hahaha I get that
No not at all. Been burned to many times. And if I due trust a person and get burned they will probably never earn it back
Same
Yeah... to a point. I never trust someone enough to put myself in a bad position. But I can trust someone enough thwt it could leave a small emotional bruse.
Ah yeah that's fair
I use too. It was a real problem of mine. Now, I don’t let people.. especially women, get that close unless they truly show me something. And usually their true colors show before anything else.
Did something happen with a woman before?
Something always happens with a woman. Especially women in this society and mindset.
I meant something specific but okay
Unfortunately and it's proven to be my downfall
Aw I'm sorry to hear that
I do I'm a trusting person until they prove to me they are not trustworthy
That's fair
HBU?
I don't fully trust someone easily, it takes a while for me.
I get it... do u think it is different for girls as opposed to guys? I mean were are close in age so I'd like to hear ur thoughts and by trust do you mean on anything or is it more related to sex?
I'm not sure if gender really has anything to do with it. Ig it's more based on past experiences. And yeah well sex and with certain personal information and stuff.
I get it and certainly sex can complicate the trust issue a bit more.
Yeah especially for women I think
I agree cause a lot of guys just want sex and not much else. I mean I want/love sex but I also want to be trusted and will always be honest
That's how it should be lol but we live in hook-up culture
I agree and TBH I have had 2 hookups that were fun with some great orgasms. ( Yes I used condoms every time) We both knew they would only be a hookup so it worked well and it was fn to get naked with a stranger for a night
Each their own
I know... stay in touch!
Yeah
used to, but now it’s rare for me to trust people
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@serenalovesramen can i trust you that you won't hurt yourself anymore for silly things such as losing in online games? 😄
@TonyMetal___86 uhhhhhh can’t promise u
Miss serena than next time i'll make sure that they make your cast a lot bigger for a longer period of time so you learn the lesson BRUH 🤣
No. I have been let down too much for that.
I felt that
@Lisia i live in small town so I trust easily
Very nice
Hell no.
Is that your tattoo?
No, but it’s a tattoo I wouldn’t mind having 😆
Hahaha yeah it looks cool
@Lisia I do however have a snake on my arm. Do you have any?
No, but I do want one ^^ just not sure what and where yet. And that's cool
No really, but that doesn't stop a few things from happening if needed
What made u write easily there I never trust anyone😂lol
Hahaha rip
Hehe😅
No, I have thorough study of his/her her personality, then I trust
Are you good at reading people?