Why is it so difficult to find a romantic relationship?

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bobalife · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately most are always looking for the best next thing as options that they think they have and not really valuing to build who they have infront of them, normalizing ghosting to walk away > communicating concerns/conflict resolutions/feelings, protective of feelings to not get hurt and just fearful, emotionally drained or burnt out, some aren’t looking for commitment, some are battle of genders instead of meeting in the middle, unrealistic expectations, hook up cultural, compatibility or timing might be off, no loyalty, etc

But there are a lot of great women who are looking for meaningful relationships, hope you’ll be able to find them :)

selfish-and-cruel · Accepted Answer

I can tell you the secret. When I was a teenager with plenty of free time, no boy ever looked at me. When I went to the medical college and needed to learn a lot and had no time for dates and romance, there was a queue of fellow students who couldn't live without me. Now, when I do my residency and don't have time to visit a bathroom, men start to notice me. And all are attracted as hell.

So the secret is - don't be interested in dating. Don't grant yourself time to look at women; be focused, busy, and unavailable most of the time. Being rude and unfriendly multiplies the effect.

Joshydavid25 · Accepted Answer

It's the illusion of choice people think they have.. Along with many people not knowing how to communicate, a lot of mind games being played to keep somebody interested, an up tick in narcissistic tendencies, and social media with the toxic relationship advice all play a role in why people are looking for relationships but not finding them..

People go on a few dates, and seem to like someone perfectly fine, but feel like there's "more to explore" out there, and go onto the next one like a sociopath.. And then when they don't find what their looking for onto the next and on and on and so forth.. Many people have too much of an "abundance" mindset..

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Girls are the easiest thing to get ever... after you already have a girl. There is reasons for that that I won't bother to get into. But if you don't have one... pretend you do until you do. Then after that... play the field.

Eventually, you'll be saying shit like "bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks" and wondering why they go for someone like you and not some nice young man that doesn't already have 3 or 4 other girls sucking on his pecker already. I mean they say they want that guy... but they don't suck his pecker do they?

I know I sound like a dick right now, but you know what, if you want pussy then you really got to be a dick.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Romance comes to those who have matured and learned confidence and strength. You can’t seek a relationship until you are ready to be a dedicated and faithful husband and father.

guywholikestoeatout · Answer

If you’re ugly, I have some bad news. Women do NOT like that shit. But if you’re not ugly, then it’s weird you’re having a problem. I’m not hot by any means but if I wanted a relationship I could get one. I’d say the easiest way is having friends that have friends. Then just spend time with them, in my experience familiarity is the door you’re looking for.

Novacane · Answer

Our generation has become people who have a small attention span. People are always looking for the next best thing. They might choose something but sooner or later they will start to feel bored and lose excitement so they start looking elsewhere. Making it hard to commit to someone.

Sugar100 · Answer

I’m 26 and never had an offical boyfriend never had a serious relationship. I never had a guy ask me to be his girlfriend. No guys wants a girlfriend they only want sex. My family all bring bfs to meet family and no guy wants meet family enjoy holidays with me , trips, nothing. It’s impossible get a boyfriend , I’ll be 27 and no boyfriend still. I have almost one year looking single.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

It's scary talking to new people. It makes you vulnerable. You feel stupid. In front of a lot of people. Sometimes you get verbally assaulted (if they are a nut case) And if you have no friends...
Or if your going through a really hard time. Some people have it easy and the make fun of you. Just wait until they lose..

Nirmroth · Answer

Is it? Just started going on apps with the status "seeking serious rl" and finding a lot of like minded women. Maybe even more than the casual ones but it could simple be the algorythm getting used to my type.

DextroShade · Answer

Feminism and social media have turned too many women into entitled narcissistic whores. The result is hoeflation: a man must now work much harder than his grandfather for a woman much worse than his grandmother. Gone are the days when an average man working 40 hours a week can get a wife who is fit, feminine, friendly, and a virgin and now everyone is worse off for it.

Biya123 · Answer

For me it's like walking on egg shells. Its so difficult to find a reliable partner. Mostly people are so shallow, they only want physical pleasure. No commitment, no depth.

slatyb · Answer

What have you tried? I got divorced in my thirties and started dating online and had no trouble getting dates, but it could be different for younger people today.

Lady_Heart · Answer

Someone told me it's cuz u look for it, so just sit in ur room and wait for it to knock😂.  Actually its easy unless u want a serious one  , thats how it became difficult

FreyaRed · Answer

In teen age people are idealistic and teen love is romantic. Beyond age of 20 everyone sees relationships as transactions.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I think a lot of people have glamorized shitty thotty behavior and it’s hard to find genuine people interested in building a life together.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Since when? Everyone I know has no issues with it.

laly520 · Answer

nowadays its more about looks, bodies not about feelings which explains it all

Anonymous · Answer

Because people don't trust one another with their feelings, assuming no one is looking for a romantic relationship.

zagor · Answer

Once out of school even meeting a single woman who isn't crazy, addicted and/or alcoholic becomes a challenge.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

women dont want or see anything valuable in romance. they just want fun, attention, status and excitement

magneto912 · Answer

Because ugly people (including myself) cannot attract people. It is that simple... We are just unattractive...

LivingExample · Answer

Stop looking for “romantic relationship” and look for a friend. People must be friends before they can be romantic!

Anonymous · Answer

It's because all people want nowadays is intercourse only, being single, or "dating", but not being 100% committed to a real relationship.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Because of politics. Women hate men because men are conservative while women are liberal.

678987 · Answer

Because most people are empty not deep

Amara_09 · Answer

People. Because of People

Radiate143 · Answer

People can't put their egos aside.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Hookup culture has damaged women.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Do I need to find one?

Booklover_90 · Answer

Many people don’t want to commit.

DreamLife7 · Answer

It's not hard. Maybe you just don't have the money

In_Trance · Answer

because you don't know yourself well enough

grega239 · Answer

I would like to know that too.

helpfulboy18 · Answer

Yeah I think that too also

californianjoe · Answer

because it is unnecessary

LiamJHayden · Answer

It isn't.

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