I am losing weight for the man I love, do you think he will like me if I lose weight?

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I don't like overweight women. Because I know this, I cannot express my feelings. I understand him so well. Even though I'm overweight, I don't like overweight men.

Lucky615 · Accepted Answer

I think you are tremendously amazing if you will do this for someone else! This means for starters that you put others before yourself and some people won't understand this. Very selfless. But others are right as well. You have to take care of yourself and set these goals for yourself. Because if you work so hard and he doesn't develop feeling for you. This will let you down. And you will think all this work is for nothing. And this will inevitably make you depressed if this happens. But what you have to know first. Is as a person, we like to see people who set goals for themselves and strive to accomplish them. Something we can agree with and jump on board! So if you set this goal, make sure you set it for you! Because this person you like will see that you are focused on you. And somethings really attractive about that to many of society. We brush our teeth for ourselves. And if you see someone who maybe never wears deodorant or bad breath all the time. By choice here not something they can't help. And maybe never washes their clothes. This isn't something that will draw in the average person. Because when they want a relationship there looking for someone that adds to there life in a positive way. Obviously there's exceptions. none of this has to do with weight I understand. But the concept of taking care of yourself is what I'm getting at. Take care of you first and foremost because no one else can do that like you can. And if he wants to get on that train with you then great! But if not! Don't settle for anyone who won't love you while your taking care of yourself!

BadApple69 · Accepted Answer

Lose weight for you, not for him. It’s a better life choice. Bfs and Gfs come and go. It’s your health that should be most important to you.

Question if you were skinny and your boyfriend likes chubby girls would you pack on the calories and get chubby for him? Probably not…. So don’t make losing weight for him. It needs to be for you.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

The source of motivation is questionable, but if it works for you, it's great. Even if he doesn't like it, you will win your health, and it's priceless.

Don't look at men when you work on yourself. You are the first person who should love you unconditionally.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Girl …. it’s better to find your equal in looks and hit the gym together. Cause if he looks better, he’s gone use your ass 🫵

JacobJordan · Answer

Your question is a bit misleading as you are not losing it for him you are losing it for you. You say that you are overweight and don't like overweight women or men. As for the guy if he likes you now he will likely you without the weight as well.

RavVid · Answer

We all have different tastes fortunately. I like slender very much but I know that girls other guys look at aren't so slender and would be too 'big' for me.

I think you would do well being slender but don't get emaciated.

QuickToAsk · Answer

Wait... you mean you didn't ask  him ? You may be losing the parts that he likes on you. My advice is to ask him.

SotiCoto · Answer

Stupid question. Different people have completely different takes on this sort of thing.

Personally, I'd consider deliberate weight-loss an absolute deal-breaker in someone who wasn't morbidly obese to start with.

BlissfullyCurSed · Answer

@EmyyWolf queen, please give her the scientific explanation of why she'll be much more likely to get him after she has lost a few pounds.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Do it for yourself, because if he turns you down you are more likely gonna gain it back if it was done for him.

Account · Answer

Ι think that is a really wrong way to set a goal. You should do things for yourself instead of others.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Do it to acquire proper good health, not for him.

Billlewis · Answer

I think you should stay exactly as you are now.

DextroShade · Answer

It will probably help and definitely wouldn't hurt your chances. Even if you don't end up with this guy it is the best thing you can do for yourself plus you will qualify for better men.

jahaims · Answer

Hopefully you are doing it in a healthy manner but the reason you are doing it is silly.

Pohjolan · Answer

That's just one deal breaker less. Do you automatically love someone because he doesn't have any deal breakers?

TheSpider · Answer

You should do it for your ownself too. You'll live longer.

12karen · Answer

He should love you for who you are no matter you're overweight or not

Zoi99 · Answer

If you're gonna lose weight do it for you. Not anyone else.

darkforcebooty · Answer

he should love your no matter what but bettering yourself is also a good choice

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Probably won't hurt. Healthy is healthy!

laly520 · Answer

this is so sad do it for urself not for him

Anonymous · Answer

Depends... If he likes slim belly or fat ass?

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

You should lose weight for your health.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it really matters.

Awomanof · Answer

You should have done it for yourself First:)

In_Trance · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

My guess is yes.

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