If you were feeling alone in a relationship, would you stay?

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[hannah]

I'm the type who needs to talk things out right away, while my partner needs space to think before diving into a conversation. This difference led to quite a bit of tension—me feeling ignored and them feeling pressured, a classic recipe for misunderstandings.

We came up with a plan: when something bothers us, we acknowledge it but agree to discuss it in-depth at a later time that works for both of us. This strategy respects my partner's need for space and my need for immediate recognition of the issue.

Diving into the more personal side of things, the biggest hurdle my partner and I had to leap over was our clash in communication styles. Picture this: I'm the type to dive into discussions, especially when problems bubble up—I want to talk it out, then and there. My partner, on the other hand, is the complete opposite. They need space, time to think things through before even beginning to talk about what's bothering them. This gap between our approaches used to spark quite a bit of tension. I'd end up feeling brushed off, while they'd feel hounded and overwhelmed.

We sat down, in a calm moment, and really opened up about how we felt. We struck a deal: whenever an issue pops up, we'd acknowledge it's there but schedule a later time to discuss it in-depth. This way, they get their space to process, and I don't feel like I'm being ignored.

We made a conscious effort to become better listeners—to really hear each other out before jumping in with responses. It's been a journey of patience, love, and a lot of learning—turning what was once a stumbling block into a stepping stone for a stronger relationship.

[RavenBear0]

Well personally I would first try sitting down with them and have a deep conversation with them about how I'm feeling and what things we could try doing together to change that feeling, if nothing changes after the conversation and they have done absolutely nothing to chnage that sit down with them again and tell them what it is you need from them and if they do not give you that respect and attention and time then tell them you will leave, again if nothing changes then don't stay in the relationship because they clearly do not care, it's not about what they say or what buy for you or whatever else it's about how they act with you and if they couldn't give you that time and energy then you shouldn't be wasting your time and energy on them either. However if they do start to show changes after that first conversation keep talking to them about it and communicate everything with them, sometimes it might take a little bit of time but in the end it will be worth it if only both sides are giving the same energy and effort.

[HawkPerception]

The whole point of being in a relationship is not being alone, so obviously if I still feel alone, I'd communicate that to my partner.

You need to ask yourself why you might feel alone in a relationship. It could be: lack of emotional connection/emotional neglect, communication issues, unresolved conflicts, personal insecurities or past experiences, changes in the relationship dynamic, mental health issues, lack of quality time, and unrealistic expectations.

Then I would talk it out with my partner to resolve whatever those issues are. If they aren't on board or willing to make me feel like I'm not alone, then I would leave the relationship.

[nawtee_me]

I used to feel lonely when in a crowded room. That was not because of others but something I was going through. Breaking a relationship would not have helped at all.
What helped was honestly looking at myself without excuses and dealing with the things that I found. Before blaming others we should first honestly look at ourselves for the problem.

[Pinay_ako]

First, I’d have to tell my partner how I’m truly feeling. Maybe they’re feeling the same way too. So we can both work on it. And to get us closer together and work it out.
Secondly, if that doesn’t work, then maybe it’s best to go separate ways. Last but not the least, if and when we do, do it without hurting each other and remain amicable. After all, we did love each other but love isn’t enough.

[JoePro_]

Depends on if it was continuous or intermittent, and if intermittent whether or not it could be remedied in some way. I'm all about working through issues with a partner, if/when possible. But continuous loneliness though? I'd leave at some point. If I want to feel alone, I'll actually be alone. I don't want a "mock" single feeling without being single. It's like, not only are you lonely, but you can't engage with any other potential partners. That just sounds horrible.

[416chick]

I've chose to stay... my husband is doing quite some time in jail so I do feel lonely but I also don't want anyone else and miss him like crazy.. I get a 20 min phone call with him 2 - 3 times a week less if I miss his calls.
Threw it all I have remained faithfull.

[Mr_twoface]

If I felt lonely, I would make every effort not to have that feeling. Be transparent and have conversations about how I feel, I would seek relationship therapy and undergo therapy on my own. If all attempts don't work, then yes, I would move on.

[IslaTheWitch]

I would try to understand what makes me feel alone, and I would try to bring it to our conversations and ask him for help. But if it didn't work... I would probably decide to break up...

[Anonymous]

I guess it depends on why I feel alone. As I struggle with issues of loneliness. Even around friends and stuff like that J still feel alone. So if it was just cause of me then I probably would stay but if it was because my hypothetical girlfriend was always busy or absent then I would leave. If talking about it didn't work.

[laly520]

should work on it n give it a chance
it might get fixed

[Anonymous]

Never. What's the point of being with someone who makes me feel alone? I can stay single and enjoy my life instead of that shit

[Anonymous]

If I was feeling alone. That mean I... am who is feeling that way. Probably overthrowing. Or ungrateful for what I have or comparing myself to others and always want what I don't have.

[HungTexan]

The short answer-NO!

[Ms_Facesitter]

If I can't resolve it, I would leave.

[sheikalana]

I would tell my partner how I'm feeling.

[Likes2drive]

Not after so long, what’s the point

[Anonymous]

Depends if I thought it was salvageable.

[Anonymous]

Only if I tried to fix things and failed.

[dudeinohio]

Not really