Have you ever experienced jealousy or distrust in a relationship due to feelings of insecurity? How did you handle it?

[Anonymous]

[Summeroflove]

Not really. I think when it reaches that point it’s best for both people to move on. It’s in one another’s best interest unless you’re married. Which I think people should do their best to work it out. Unless there is abuse, cheating, or are miserable. Stuff like that.

But. I think people need to know when to move on before things get more serious. I also don’t understand people who want to rush into marriage. Six months and it’s time to get married. Really? Now waiting 10 years to get married is the other extreme. But I don’t judge. People should get married when it feels right and is right for both of them.

Some people get married in months and stay together forever. Some wait 10 years to get married and are happy. But those are exceptions to the rule.

[Afvenom]

Yes, I keep finding out about previous guys I never knew about. What upsets me (I am a very jealous man) is she has played all these guys down as guys she “just dated” which for me is the same as saying fucked. Some of these guys she still has as friends on Fakebook etc. Girls just so you know when you say “dated” to men it’s the same as having sex. It’s not like you just went bowling or to a movie.

[RavenBear0]

Yes and it can be very difficult and straining and stressful on the relationship, the way I handled it tho was I would sit down and talk to my partner about it in a calm way and explain why I'm feeling like that and if they care about you then they will try an reassure you and have that conversation with you and it does start to get easier after that and those insecurities will go away eventually as long as you're both able to communicate about it and don't dismiss or ignore the situation

[serious_miss419]

That is the mature to deal with it. Unfortunately, the male population will laugh and tsk

[RavenBear0]

@serious_miss419 unfortunately yes you do get quiet a few people like that on both sides however I was lucky enough to find a partner who is constantly communicating with me not just with how I feel but also how he's feeling and it's honestly the best and most healthy relationship I have ever had

[jennifer_bloom]

My friend says a guy dating you should go out oh his way to make you feel secure and safe in the relationship. If a guy does not initiate contact or rank you somewhat high on his priority list, then he is guilty of poking holes in your ability to trust him.

[Avicenna]

Nope, but one of my gfs sure did

[bobalife]

I don't know if this is common, but it appears hard for a guy to share when he’s feeling insecure (at least in my old relationships). It’s really hard since they’re in denial, stubborn, or I guess it’s their ego? 😅 once I’m aware, I usually am calm and loving to try to have a better understanding and reassured them since the last thing I would want is the person I love to feel less than they are to me and I’d want them to feel special… like the way I see them and chose to be with them :)

[RavVid]

Not due to insecurity but from bad partner behavior.

[Guido]

My ex wife was like that and now we are divorced. No jealousy with current wife and there is total trust. That was a huge upgrade for me. Best decision ever.

[exitseven]

I never really did. If I did I tried to not think about it.

[RainBat]

I just killed all the people I was jealous of

[Anonymous]

Omg yes.. it was brutal.. I ended up breaking up with them

[sheikalana]

I did. I reassured him.

[JayBones]

You sound like a chick are you gay?