How did you know that your partner was "The One"?

[velvetheart]

What was it that made you realize you want to be with them forever? The overall picture or maybe a certain thing they did?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

There are so many things with my wife and I've written extensively already about this that I might have already made some other users on here sick of hearing it. 😅

Yet one of the main things that got me even when we were just friends is that we could talk to each other very openly with the most soulful and deep conversations for hours.

It was very reciprocal and two-way too. A lot of times when I talked to women, I'm either doing most of the talking or she's doing most of the talking. With my wife, it was a near even split. I'd share something deep or funny about myself, she'd share something deep or funny about herself, and we just took turns this way.

We were so addicted to these conversations between us that we kept ditching our mutual friends hanging out at the edge of parties. Our friends were always shouting, "Hey, you two are missing the party!" Then we'd join them for a bit but eventually work back to ditching them again.

It continued repeatedly like this for almost an entire year of hanging out together with our friends. Then I started to realize I'm a moron if I don't at least try going on dates with her (I was at the stage where I had almost given up on relationships). She just seemed too exceptional; I've never been able to open up so freely with a woman and have her reciprocate at the same time.

We've been married for 14 years now.

[velvetheart]

That is so sweet! You two sound like real soulmates 💕

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Helen has the purest heart of any woman I have ever known. She has an innocent charm and I have never seen her do anything with an improper motive, or out of spite or malice.

2. Helen is an unassuming woman. She doesn't think of herself as being better than anyone else. She is never arrogant, never condescending. She is grateful for what she has and never complains about what she doesn't have.

3. We occasionally have a disagreement but neither of us stays mad very long.

4. She has an excellent but sometimes subtle sense of humor. For example, when I make her a cup of coffee, she doesn't ask for half and half; she asks for One. She says "it saves time."

5. Helen inspires me to be a better person every day.

6. I love Helen, she loves me, and I'm proud to tell the whole world about it!

7. Helen actually does laugh at most of my stupid jokes!

8. Helen accepts me as I am. . . without judgment or question. I don't know why.

9. I know that when Helen says "forever," she actually means forever.

10. I can't explain this last reason, but I feel better just standing near her.

We are getting married on April 27 and I have no doubt that she is The One.

[JayBones]

Oh my poor man. Helen. My wife is Helen. So is her mother, grandmother, and our Daughter. No good comes from that name.

[OlderAndWiser]

@JayBones She is Chinese. It is her adopted American name.

[JayBones]

Damn. Even less lucky. She chose her path. The rest were born into it

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't think I can define it. We just clicked in every aspect. We were able to talk out minor differences. We respected our needs without the need to explain anything. I felt like I knew him my whole life. It was obvious it was him.

[KrakenAttackin]

@IslaTheWitch. But you divorced him...

[IslaTheWitch]

@KrakenAttackin does it change anything? 20 years ago it was how I felt.

and he is divorcing me, lol

[KrakenAttackin]

@IslaTheWitch ok, fair enough.

[JayBones]

She told me that if the bridge collapses to not save her under any circumstance, save our children. I had told her on our first date how much I hated crossing bridges and how I would think about what I would do to save my little sister if we fell in the Hudson. She told me this on the way across the George Washington Bridge when I was introducing her to my mother. We were not even. engaged and we hadn't even talked about having kids.

[Screenwriter]

I've never had a partner that I thought was "The One." I've had partners I've been serious with and a partner I was married to for 17 years.

None of them was "The One." They were people I loved and spent time with.

[dustybiker2]

Flip it. Makes it much easier to decide. Imagine what it would feel like if you lost them. How bearable is that? That is how much they mean to you.

[noohair]

So a person can be "The One" and then 20 years later it is not the same. We are humans and we can grow.

[velvetheart]

Well, sure. I'm just asking what makes people think they found The One, whether it's going to change in the future or not 😅

[noohair]

If I knew the answer, I would be King of the World.

[velvetheart]

Well, there isn't one answer. Some people don't have an answer at all. I'm just curious about different perspectives on this topic 😊

[Ms_Facesitter]

Slight touches made my heart skip a beat and my face turn red. I also missed him when he was away.

[Likes2drive]

Not with them now but at the time she treated me really well and was caring and honest, liked the same things and had the same goals

[Nikki1989]

We had an instant chemistry that just felt right.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Wouldn't be sure, I think people are good at being two faced, 🎭 😶👀

[andreasderjuengere]

I didn't know.
Actually, she's not even 'the One" but rather the 6th.

[Anonymous]

She could fit an entire pack of weiners (hot dogs) in her mouth at the same time.

[LavLavLuv]

I just know🥰☺️

[laly520]

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[boobliker]

she kept coming back