He has to constantly watch all your shows and ignore his shows
When you go out to eat, he always has to take you to places like outback steak house or Texas Roadhouse completely disregarding the fact it’s gonna be expensive
he listens to all your issues when you come home from work but if he has issues they are ignored or he is being whiny if he has something going on.
when is time to talk about important things you rather play on your phone and ignore the conversation or not be engaged.
when out with mutual friends you leave your boyfriend behind and hang out with the friends largely ignoring that he’s there.
threaten to breakup if you can’t have your way or throw a temper tantrum
Be physically abusive if you are playing video games or if you forget to do something
be physically abusive towards pets in the household
be verbally abusive and make fun of him
he’s not allowed to breakup with you because you will have a meltdown and your sister then threatens to kill him.
you co sign a car with him but when you get it home you make it clear to everyone it’s just your car even getting upset when he gets his own car.
You get upset and demand snacks that were purchased for your boyfriends work with the stores money and when he doesn’t bring any home for you he’s being mean.
His opinion never matters no matter the situation you always seek out other people before him.
almost hit 2 people at night when driving and get upset because he was more concerned about the people that almost got ran over instead of you
What Girls Said
Yeeeah, that sounds incredibly one-sided and toxic. The boyfriend in this situation is better off single or with someone who not only appreciates him but returns his efforts.
You ask if I’ve ever treated a boyfriend like this. Maybe at one point when I was young and naive but now I would never. I’m engaged and my fiancé does so much for me, but I never take any of it for granted and always show my love back. Whether it’s cooking, getting him something I know he’s had his eye on (he hates to buy things for himself), taking him on a date, etc, he knows I appreciate what he does for me.
Women like the girlfriend in this situation will always wind up single because she has no desire to do anything other than be tended to, which is always going to get old eventually. Equal is always better, or at least feeling some form of reciprocation.
Yeah this was my life for 2 years
Since you say “was” I guess you’re done with her and if that’s the case then that’s great! Please be done with her forever, you sound like a good guy who got taken advantage of. Someone will appreciate you and treat you just as good!
It’s just so hurtful because I did invest a lot into the relationship
I’m so sorry dude. I hope you have support and good friends around. This was a shitty experience but the hurt has no other choice but to eventually pass! Hang in there.
Per your update, I’m glad we were able to give you some perspective and sorry you’re going through this. Hopefully you aren’t in contact with this woman anymore and instead just recalling what happened while you were with her.
No, who does any of this?
My ex
this sounds so toxic
This was my life for 2 years it would have ended much sooner but as I highlighted her unstable sister who lived with us at the time threatened to kill me
u should've ended it earlier
Yeah weeks into the relationship I bought a ps4 and was playing nba 2k and she was losing and she halled off and hit me in the head I paused the game and was like do I need to go home and she just had a massive meltdown like I don’t know what happened please forgive me
she is clearly mentally unstable
She would often blame it on childhood trauma as her mother and father constantly beat the shit out of each other
abuse can't be justified
she doesn't wanna take responsibility of her own bad actions n blaming her parents for it
she is gaslighting
Would you believe me if everything you read above her friends still took her side and treated me like the villain
I would believe u cuz that happens
Like I’ll be honest it caused poor mental health because I was so suprised people could literally watch someone and animals be abused and completely turn a blind eye to it. Then when I would speak out and say something they would say I’m crazy or I’m gaslighting her
Cause you always had the smiling cheerful person In public then the shit I only seen when she was home
im glad its over
that woman belongs in mental hospital
Well the thing is towards the end of the relationship I actively encouraged her to get mental health treatment she would always make excuses. Well after the relationship it never happened and she blamed me for all her problems and why she did what she did in her words “I triggered her”