How do I get over my ex if we both still like each other?

[Anonymous]

So me and this guy, let's call him Jake. Me and Jake have known each other since August of last year. I used to constantly flirt with him etc etc. Me and him are close friends and before we dated he talked about a girl he wanted to ask out for his Valentine at like the end of Jan. He knew I liked him but I was too scared to ask him. Soon enough I asked him to be my valentine and then we started dating. When Valentine came around we decided to do a phone swap. He thought it was a good idea to do a prank where it seemed like he was cheating on me or wtv. Of course, I got furious and I went "Welp, I guess we're over." He then went into my DM's asking are we over. Of course, I said yes because the prank wasn't funny at all. He then asked if was it that bad. I said yes it was that bad, I don't know why you thought that was funny? In the end, I forgave him and we became friends again. Recently like 1 and half weeks ago he goes, "I lowkeyy miss you." I said me too but we are just going to be in the talking stage." 9 days ago, I told him about me losing weight, etc, wanting to go back on the healthy side before it starts to look like my health is declining and I want to do the pacer test and go past at least 20 laps. He then goes "No bullshit but when you said you were going to lose weight I think you're gonna get more finer because right now you're fine." LORD, what do I DO? I know what he did was a shitty ass move but I still like him and he does too, oh lord.

[ohsheeT]

Well first of all you have to look at it a couple different ways

Was it really truly a prank or did he get caught doing something and the best way to get past it was say that it was a prank.

When you first get together with somebody you're not going to do that sort of prank for them to hurt them

And at the moment you just have to think about yourself and what you want if he truly wants you let him prove it by the things that he says and does don't just be so easy to give in let him work for it he has to pay the price for what he did whether it was a prank or whether he just got busted for doing something stupid

That you don't have to worry about him you worry about you if you want you to be straight up and honest. let him
prove it
This is kind of a crossroads for you in life you get to choose who we want to be by the things that we say and do

With the choice that you make on how you're going to do with this it's going to set a standard on who you want to be and how you want to be treated me right so you have to pick the right road.

It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders it sounds like you know who you want to be in life. But you can tell how. The two different levels of maturity

And as for your weight only you know problem right now if it's just part of your baby fat because you end up losing that it's actually think you have a problem.
With it and make a choice commit and you take it on stay away from. So does juices sugar water and junk food and you walk 30 minutes a day at a fast pace for 30 days I guarantee you will tone right up and you will start seeing the person that you want to come

[Purpleronnie]

I think for the age you appear to be and what’s ahead of you you should be thinking about just having fun and focusing on the other parts of your life. Obviously being friends first then more and then less again wouldn’t take away feelings, many people face that when relationships end. You create some distance and move on , it’s not easy but you will move on. This is why I say just have fun and focus not on relationships , there is plenty of time for that later. That prank was just dumb , whatever his motive was in doing it

[sawno]

As someone who lost someone truly special who I still love to this day ill share with you what works for me. You don't have to let go of the concept that you love someone or that they are special. If it was genuine love like it was for me thats not just somehow going to change because they aren't with you. Just like there are other things in life you can love, it doesn't suddenly mean you no longer love it if that leaves your life you know? Also doesn't mean it will get in the way of someone new, at least in my opinion if my future partner was someone who truly really loves in a way that lasts she has to accept that for me love truly lasts but that any former version of that is not going to be a relevant factor in the new relationship.

But what you can then do is face the reality of it all. Be honest to yourself and follow that. In my case the honesty is knowing that she moved on, is with someone else and that there will be someone special out there for me who I can love the same if not move if I manage to find her. So when she rejected my offer to come back in her life I flipped the mental switch and let her go completely. Now my heart is open to the right person regardless of who it is, my heartbreak has healed (As it will with time for you to if you decide to stay single) and my heart / mind is ready for someone new.

And if I have to mind read you for a bit, I think you already know the truth. You genuinely like him, even if you hated him in the moment. Time to let that go and follow your heart.

[lightbulb27]

you lost me in the phone swap, but I get the jist...

you decide to accept he's immature and that you don't want to deal with that and accept the loss, disconnect. otherwise, you will rebond.

dating is about learnign about yourself and others and you discovered some valuable pieces of information.

unfortunately part of dating and then marriage, is accepting imperfect people, including yourself... and being willing to work on yourself. After a few years, nobody wants to work on themselves, but it's at times, required.

welcome to the pool of mating humans.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Tell him this:-

You know my feelings towards you. You also know how much you hurt me. For there ever to be anything between us, I need to know you aren't going to play these games again. I honestly have a hard time trusting you, so it's up to you to prove to me (Not just say it, because words are cheap) that you can be a grown up. The ball is in your court now!

My guess is if he really cares? He'll bend over backwards to prove to you he can behave himself in future!

[laly520]

his prank so shitty but I think it can be fixed
the reason of breaking up isn't that serious in my opinion

[DextroShade]

His ultimately harmless prank didn't merit a breakup, and you obviously still like the guy so either get over yourself and get back with him or stop wasting his time!

[Ms_Facesitter]

You constantly remind yourself why you split up in the first place.

[NewgodOmega]

Sounds like you are extremely confused you are ex coz you don't like each other,

[JHAYES317]

You can’t if you still remain friends…the only way to get over him is you have to remove him from your life entirely…and not let him back in

[strateguy632]

by starting a new relationship.

[JayBones]

Get under his best friend.

[HouseMoat]

People who fawn over ex's, are called "desperate"

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Go for each other!.