If the boy you like insults you, would you continue the relationship?

[Iamboreddd]

[Finchie40]

Just depends on what the insult is, if it’s an insult that he or she knows hurts you big time then that’s an insult you should really reconsider if you want to continue the relationship with that person , if it’s just an insult that was said out of anger and frustration then more than likely they didn’t mean what they said they just said it because they were probably feeling attacked by you, most people in general say shit out of line when they are angry or frustrated and feel attacked mainly to flee fend themselves if you are really pushing their buttons , so always look back at to why the argument initiated in the first place , don’t just assume you are always right and your partner is wrong. When you think you are always right , sadly to say you have a selfish mindset that only thinks about yourself and what is best for yourself , no relationship will last if you continue having that selfish mindset , you should always wear your partners’ shoes before making decisions, remember you are no longer single , you chose your partner the same way you want them to choose you , not the other way around. The only time you should walk away from your partner is if they are constantly criticizing you and belittling you and making you feel like you are just a convenience to them , if they are manipulating you and making you feel you are wrong all the time , that’s a person you should walk away from because they see no wrong in themselves , They piping fingers at you before pointing fingers at themselves first , That’s a selfish person that you should honestly reconsider staying in a relationship with. A partner is supposed to bring happiness into your life , Not misery

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna ask you what none of these morons in the comments bothered to ask.. 1. What did you do to piss him off for him to insult you? 2. What were you and him fighting about

I can guarantee you when I fight with the asshole D*** it's because of her cheating and her throwing it in my face and ramming it down my throat how she got engaged to another guy and planning on marrying him and fighting over her backstabbing family that's when I start lashing out because it reaches a boiling point where she provokes and instigates and antagonizes as does her backstabbing family and so called "friends" to the point it's flat out abusive from her and I get suckered in into fighting with that witch. I tolerated her abuse for years because I loved her but after a while her abuse just got so bad it becomes unbearable at times

[electromagnetic]

Sadly I’m married to him and part of our relationship is throwing gabs at each other. Yesterday he said I looked like a crackhead, today I said he looked like a cockroach.
But in good light humour. If this is something your partner is doing aggressively or in a mean nature, he gotta go.

[Amara_09]

I would insult him back……. oh I will make him think twice before he ever say something stupid. I have been told that…you can train a dog, with men, they are honest …. too honest but hey, I like to use anything to my advantage to fix things…. I can fix him

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love with a dash of spice—or in this case, a bit too much salt, huh? Treading the line between love and respect is key. If a little tease turned sour, that's one thing, but if we're talking insults flying like daggers, that's a massive red flag. Think of it as a deeply unromantic serenade that no playlist should ever feature. Relationships thrive on support and kindness, not belittlement or disrespect. So, if this behavior is a one-off, a heart-to-heart might clear the air. But if it's his go-to, you might want to ask yourself if this is the love story you want to star in. 🌟 What do you think? Let's chat!

[worldscolide]

Flipping the script here, If a woman i was interested in insulted me, i would remove her from my life. Unacceptable childish behavior, and the insult would directly indicate the kind of woman she is... So no i would not continue the relationship.

[Screenwriter]

Insults are inherently abusive. Something's wrong with someone who treats you like this. Best to move on. I'd certainly tell him why.

If he gaslights you and says he's only kidding, realize that such a statement is more damning than the insults alone.

[provokeesmokee]

Nah, but depends on the insult and the boy.

Is this a joking, playful "ribbing"? Does he genuinely respect and appreciate me? I may continue after drawing the boundary clearly.

If he meant it, tho? Done. I'm not tolerating that.

[pass_the_celery98]

one girl ended it with me because apparently I "insulted" her by saying, we've been talking for 10 months now, where is this going? I don't want to get played because I've dealt with girls in the past who drama and immature and i can't tolerate that. To me that's not an insult, it's being firm of the direction a talking phase is going.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Depends, insults can be so many different things. If you get mad everytime someone insults you, then you'll never have people around you who act honestly or genuinely.

That said, what you should be very careful about tolerating is disrespect, and the longer you know anyone; not just a partner, the less patience you should have for it.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Context matters, perhaps this was just a poor attempt at teasing or a failed banter attempt? Also, have you already set boundaries within the relationship and were those bounds overstepped? Either way, if its still bothering you in the morning, you should talk it out with him; he probably just missed on the delivery.

[lightbulb27]

red flag of immaturity... he's doing to you what was done to him. he doesn't know how to treat girl. thus you train him or find someone else.

it won't stop easily...

[At3mis24]

I hate banter, so I put him out of my life with no explanation. I can't tolerate disrespect.

[superchan2011]

Absolutely not. No need to tolerate abuse from anyone.

[Alwayreckles93]

Break it off he isn't worth your time so dont waste anymore time with him.

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I have but its probably best you don't.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Why did you continue the relationship

[PeachyPie93]

@Bklynbadboy12 I supposed I placed him before myself, and I liked him a lot.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Awwww!

[bobalife]

No disrespectful isn’t okay. If it’s just banter or sensual degrading… it’s different lol.

[blueonblack22]

Depends if he’s teasing you or has no respect for you. What exactly did he say?

[laly520]

girl gotta leave if disrespected
no respect no relationship

[Iron_Man]

They do it because that’s how they get close to you some guys don’t know how to open up they feel weird being soft an emotional

[DreamLife7]

Lol 😆 u itches be so dingy I swear. Tf what relationship! U slow? He don't like u he don't want u he wants u to go away

[IslaTheWitch]

I wouldn't start it in the first place

[supercutebutt]

Go into detail please.

[sheikalana]

Probably not. No one needs to tolerate disrespect.

[OtterMan68]

Are you a Trump voter?

[whistlingwh0res]

I mean if he is drug addict, leave

[xnwkwjfir]

Nope.

[riverrat3]

You shouldn't

[Iamboreddd]

I can't let go, I love him but he insults me

[riverrat3]

You need to let go

[Iamboreddd]

I can't go, do you have any advice on how to forget?

[riverrat3]

Getting away from him is the first step, staying away the second, time will help

[MMelanieM]

I'm just looking at your age and the overall picture. When your 19, we are discovering ourselves as a person too. If your in a relationship with someone and the love is mutual, its a great place to be. When the other person insults, it can be for many reason and you receiving it is for many reasons. Bottom line, when someone insults you, its a red flag and you should tread carefully, because you are aware that they can hurt you and if you don't act on it and show him that you won't accept that behaviour, he'll take it as your allowing this, so he can do worse. So when it comes to your self respect, stand your ground, but not reacting to it positively, but just leave. So he will ask think why you left, which will trigger him to think about what he did last. Allowing someone to treat you badly now, can affect your health in the future. So since your young, use this time to also learn about yourself too through this process & make sure you treat your soul with care. Because you need you, before you need someone else too. What you take back from this, is to always protect yourself 1st and that happens by putting up your boundaries up, in that aspect that he has insulted you on. Stay strong in that matter when it comes to yourself self-respect. When you show the other person that you respect yourself enough to not let him come that way again to you, shows the other person that you value yourself enough and love yourself enough, to not let him or anyone come to you that way. When you display value, the other person has to match it. If they don't match it, then they don't know how to take care of a precious person like you. Its a learning process for the both of you. Hope this helped. But you always come 1st, keep that in mind!

[QuietRunner]

leave him