Why do some people only have short term relationships?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Let’s say there’s this person in his late 30s, early 40s.

He/She was in a Long term Relationship once, after which he has only had short term relationships less than 1 year - all of them.

Why?

[imtiaz45]

Several factors may contribute to individuals having short-term relationships. These include fear of commitment, emotional unavailability, prioritizing personal goals over relationships, inability to communicate effectively, unresolved past traumas, or simply not having found the right partner. Cultural norms and societal pressures may also influence relationship dynamics. Some individuals may prefer the excitement of new connections or struggle with intimacy. Additionally, external circumstances such as frequent relocation or demanding careers can hinder relationship longevity. Ultimately, understanding one's own needs, values, and communication style, as well as being open to growth and compromise, can foster healthier and more enduring relationships.

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[AviatorTom]

After my divorce (20 years of marriage), I had several short-term relationships. I wasn't ready for another long-term relationship, and I also wasn't ready for celibacy. It turned out that most of the women I dated weren't looking for long-term either, and we had fun times together.

[IslaTheWitch]

To keep a long-term relationship working, a lot of work and commitment are needed. Some people don't see the reason to put in as much effort, and some like the thrill of something new, so longer relationships are not interesting. Sometimes, after some time, we realize it's not this person we want to be with.

[PeachyPie93]

I don't know I guess they just don't like to commit long term. Probably doesn't have what it takes to make something work long term or doesn't see the person they date as long term people. They are usually just playing around.

[AI Opinion]

Jumping from one short-term relationship to another can often be a Heartbreak Hotel of its own storybook. Might be this person's still grooving to the beats of their past long-term love story, and now, every new chapter feels like it's missing that old-school rhythm. 🎶 Or, perhaps, they're a bit like a chef who loves tasting different cuisines but isn't ready to settle down with just one flavor yet. 🍲 It's a mixtape of reasons—fear of commitment, still finding their own soul rhythm, or maybe they're just all about that thrill of the chase. Remember, lovebug, it's not always about finding someone who fits the glass slipper; sometimes, it's about enjoying the dance. 💃🕺 Let's keep the conversation rolling with a bit of humor and understanding, like a smooth jam on a late-night drive.

[Hanrej]

Because the person learned that longterm relationships often become life altering. You plan a future together, share expenses, social circuits, home and make adaptations in terms of where and how much you work based on your familys needs rather than just your own. People that leave longterm relationships often have to go on a journey alone to find themselves again, figure out what they want as an individual after having spent years thinking about what their close ones need and many arrive at the conclusion that they don't ever want to compromise again. That's why we have so many people in shortterm relationships because everyone is looking for a perfect match, someone they don't have to compromise with and if they find out they have to in order to make it work they never go further than situationships if they don't just break it off.

[Quigly]

Relationships can't seem to keep up with modern life.. My first relationship when I was 19 years old was with a girl that was from another state. After about a year her family moved back and she decided she didn't want to live That far away from her biological family so she went with them. Same thing happened with my second girl girlfriend. Changes in job that required a change in location was another relationship that ended. Some relationships, you realize how different you are from the other person and decide the relationship is not a worthwhile further investment. My last relationship ended as my health began to deteriorate. I was going into a wheelchair and She couldn't take care of me.

Saying goodbye is sad. But, it's a big part of life. Love is not forever.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think after they get their heart broken the first time, they get really scared of giving their heart fully to someone again. So they never allow themselves to invest in any future relationships with the level of vulnerability and intimacy needed for the relationship to grow and blossom into something with long-term sustainability.

[Dinklex3]

It just happens, lol. Different priorities. My longest actual relationship was like 6 months. I haven’t met someone I liked/connected with enough to be long term. From 24-29 it didn’t make sense for me to even have a serious relationship.

[NathanDavis]

there could be many reasons why...

perhaps the most simple one... they just didn't really want long term relationships, lol

[molonski2]

Sometimes things just dont work out , no matter how badly you may want them to , things happen , life happens.

[ProbablyClueless]

Some people never develop the emotional stability to handle longer term connections with others.

[Mrtcn01]

It is simple after long term relationships they have experience what they like and what they make them hurt so they don’t stay until they get hurt.

[Nikki1989]

Insecurity and immaturity and not being able to deal with their own flaws and dealing with them. You can see that on here every damn day. People are always quick to blame someone else.

[Drew-1990]

Personally I don't understand short terms that has never made sense to me. Even in highschool I wanted to meet one girl fall in love and marry her, didn't happen but I still want it

[LaurenM1997]

Because some relationships don’t work out I had a three month relationship and before it got serious he got up and left 😕 now I don’t trust men so easily

[Sharkstealth]

It's called independence. Some people need something to cling to for substance in their lives. Others can function quite well by themselves. Plus it sure makes sleeping at night and life in general a lot less stressful.

[worldscolide]

They aren't mature enough for long term committed relationships.

Most of the people you see that jump from relationship to relationship are very damaged.

[DizzyDesii]

You begin to feel trapped when you know it isn’t right

[motownplayer2000]

Because that long term relationship was jacked and she turned out to be not good. So until he finds that one that checks all the boxes she will only get commitment for a short time

[MsBrie]

They aren't committed to long term relationships?

[sheikalana]

They lack sense of commitment or maybe are not yet mature enough to be in a relationship.

[msc545]

He learned from the long-term relationship what the ultimate problem is and he is avoiding it. I don't blame him.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because he is much less willing to put up with bullshit.

[CaptainSmartass]

Because they're shaggers.

Simples...

[Jul123]

Because they are not interesting enough to keep someone longterm

[Anonymous]

are you talking about one night stands or having sexual relationship before serious relationship

[CoolCatMar1]

Because sometimes the guy can be trash can

[laly520]

not everyone capable to commit

[Dongie]

Chemical addiction. Or a horndog.

[Jay-_-]

Aren't ready for a true committed relationship.

[JayBones2469]

Because they trust the science

[Kristierose]

Why because they find out about your fetish ways

[SolitarySolace]

Personal experience

[Goku1001]

At least when you write, write something that makes sense! 🤦🏻

[SolitarySolace]

Just because you don’t understand what I’m saying doesn’t mean I’m not making sense to someone else

[Goku1001]

Why did i say the above statement that you dont make sense? Its because you dont!

[myloveforuisinfinte]

😂😂yeah experienced

[jahaims]

They are immature

[Rnjura]

Craving adventure