Are short term relationships more common and acceptable nowadays?

[asphaltrhymes]

E. g. men or women who decide or maybe don't decide but deep-down know they're only interested a 6 month to 5 year relationship average and then they break up mutually and or move on. I feel like it's more common for people to nowadays, you know?

I'd say so

I'd say not

Maybe it's a Millennials thing, lol

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And I'm not referring to "open" relationships either folks 🥳

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Update: and I for one would be a fan and a partaker of being in short term relationship (s)

[AviatorTom]

Many things are short term today, compared to years ago. There's planned obsolescence built into products. People change jobs often... staying at the same company for your entire career is extremely rate, it was common just 50 years ago. Sane thing with relationships. Enjoy the time together, then find another partner.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Most people don't want relationships nowadays. They just want the illusion of one.

[asphaltrhymes]

I prefer a relationship with a woman for only a couple years max also, it's just the modern way I like or my way I like, on amicable terms I'm sure agreed and no misunderstandings if she expected kids or a marriage from me, uh uh but I'd not be into open relationships either, uh uh 😆

[Pinay_ako]

I don't know about that… all I know is I’m not into short term relationships. It’s like a job. I don’t look for short term or part time. I’m in it for the long haul and for the right reasons. You don’t get into one coz you’re lonely or bored. Or coz you have nobody else. Either get into a real one or stay single.

[misogynistic_pig]

Short-term relationships are becoming more common these days, and in some circles they may be more acceptable.

However, this varies across cultures, generations, and individual people.

On the one hand, the acceptance of short-term relationships may be related to changes in social norms, increased independence and freedom of individual choice, and decreased stigmatization of sexuality.

Many people may prefer informal, non-committal relationships for personal reasons, such as a lack of time or a need to experiment and explore before making a more serious decision.

On the other hand, some people may find short-term relationships less desirable or even immoral, and may prefer more traditional, committed relationships.

Opinions on short-term relationships can also vary based on age, religion, and other cultural beliefs.

Ultimately, what is acceptable and what is not in terms of relationships depends on each individual's personal beliefs and values, and it is important that each person respect and understand the choices and decisions of others regarding their personal relationships.

[Phoenix98]

To the detriment of society. It however is not just relationships it's everything people constantly switching jobs, companies building products to fail as soon as possible to make even greater profit the lack of people staying at jobs for years, decades is quite rare. Among other things.

[asphaltrhymes]

Oh thank you, but by no means is my question a criticism. My question is actually positive about it. I couldn't want nor handle a permanent relationship, but just a relationship of a few years or a few month, max, but never an "open relationship" not my taste. Other than that, I love modern society. I change my phone and stuff regularly, so, I'm happy 😊😁

[asphaltrhymes]

Consumerism bliss 😀

[asphaltrhymes]

For me it's bliss anyhow for me it's bliss 😃

[Phoenix98]

I was just stating my opinion you of course are free to feel however you'd like on the matter ^_^

[Vesuvius87]

Apparently. It's not even worth being serious enough to present a boyfriend to my family, change the status to ''in a relationship'' at FB or other social medias nor even talking about future plans. Real commitment has been replaced by people only wanting a prolonged infatuation stage of just feelings and passionate sex and romance; basically all the benefits of a free trial without any responsibilities.

An analogy to this is the following:

A short-term relationship (no kids, no responsibilities) is like just renting an apartment. You're not the owner and are just living at the moment until something better comes along, you have no responsibilities for repairs nor expenses and the landlord can sell the property (equivalent of a break-up) at any time he/she wants to. In comparison if it's your house, then the consequences are bigger if you don't pay your expenses. It's not just a landlord kicking you out and bye it's over, you got to deal with foreclosure.

[Vesuvius87]

Yeah I'm not surprised, people just want short-lived romance and being in love but get bored too fast as soon as they see the flaws and the initially infatuation stage is gone. Might as well not even call it a relationship, but a friends with benefits... that's what fits since you just want the benefits out of the relationship. Yeah everything wants just the good stuff but not to deal with the rainy days.

[Lionman95]

I clicked on results because I think they are more common but I would disagree that they are mutual or were the goal of both parties. In my experience they rather come up because men and women alike break up the moment problems in a relationship arise that could have a long term effect on the relationship.
Like for instance both parties are working and now either the man or the woman get a job proposition in another town. What to do next?
Or they argue about sexual questions? Either he or she vanilla while the other one is sexual adventorous.

[RangerBlue22]

Yes but that doesn’t mean it’s a good thing.

[asphaltrhymes]

Lol 😁👍🏻

[RangerBlue22]

A lot of young women nowadays think it’s okay to swing from guys like a monkey swings from trees. They want to get an “experience” with him and run on to someone else usually leaving lots of destruction (and ultimately self destruction)

They can argue that there are manwhore/player guys is the equivalent. He isn’t. That doesn’t mean what they are doing is okay. But they don’t intentionally get girl’s hopes up there might be something solid (unless they are lying sociopaths).

But getting a short term relationship means there is some connection. Just ditching it for the next shiny thing is very selfish. But this harms women just as much as men in the long run. Women who do this eventually become damaged goods. Men need to let those women lay in the bed they made for themselves vs. being simpy “safety nets”.

[Anonymous]

I don't know about you but i've been with my partner for 6 1/2 years. i wouldn't have even dated if i didn't want a long term relationship or saw the potential of it getting past 2-3 years, you know? it's hard to find couples these days that make it past 2 years. even 1 year. I don't know, i guess they just don't really think about it and the person and their compatibility and the future before getting into relationships.

[Twalli]

5 years is long-term. In fact, if marriage isn't happening or seriously discussed, then neither person probably ever wants to get married. I'd say that you hit the 18-month mark and then you need to get serious. I personally won't propose before 3 years, but we're living together no later than 2 years, and having sex no later than 2 yeas too. My girlfriend would already be living here and might have a ring if COVID-19 never hit.

[EricSummer]

Yes, I'd say this is a common trend compared to 30 years ago after the AIDS shock. Looking back 50 years to the 1970s I'm not so sure.

Nobody is obliged to follow the trend, though. I prefer a long-term relationship.

[Anonymous]

It's the inevitable result of long-term relationships / marriage becoming so dangerous and unrewarding for men.

[asphaltrhymes]

Lol okay then ☺️

[asphaltrhymes]

Thanks for the answer 😊

[DizzyDesii]

It seems very common but its not my preference

[Adaeva]

Of course not. For 98%, all but the last 60,000 years, of our 3 million year long human existence our behavior would have been more like our closest relatives the great apes.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It's roughly the same as it always was, idiots have short relationships, smart people have lifelong ones. A lot more of the dumb people have a voice today because of internet popularity and shitty schooling.

[shades777]

I could care less what others do. Better to set up your love life the way you want it, you'll be happier than comparing yourself to others

[FreyaRed]

Yes. People are incapable to cooperate due individual hedonistic pursuit and ego centrism.

[Rangers]

Long term relationships are a dead concept now, just like freedom, happiness, and success

[Anonymous]

5 years is hardly short.

[asphaltrhymes]

Okay then

[asphaltrhymes]

I should've worded better my recent update. I don't have a problem with short term relationships nowadays ahaha I feel like I'd just get bored in a relationship longer than a few years with any woman, broadly. Anyways have a good day all 😁

[TheSpaceGnome]

5 years is very short.

[Vesuvius87]

Make sure you tell this to the woman in the beginning, that she's on the right page with you and don't even tell her ''you're the love of my life (bs lies pick-up artists do to keep us hook as a forever girlfriend)'' unless you want her to endlessly wait for marriage proposal she'll never get.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, that seems to be pretty common.

[Christoff92]

Yes. Because can lead to good friendships.

[Anonymous]

Yes and yes!