Why does my girlfriend get a tattoo bother me?

[fisher]

She wants a tattoo on the hips which makes me very uncomfortable and kinda jealous. It is a big tattoo and I dont like the guy who will make it.

[circle]

It's pretty natural to have mixed feelings about your significant other making a change like getting a tattoo, especially if it's in a more intimate area like the hips. It sounds like there are a couple of layers to your discomfort—both the tattoo itself and the tattoo artist involved.

Firstly, it's important to recognize that personal body modifications like tattoos are ultimately up to the individual.

However, your feelings are important too in the relationship. Is it the permanence of it? The visibility? Or maybe it's something about the tattoo's design? As for the tattoo artist, if you don’t like him for specific reasons, that could be adding to your discomfort.

Communicating openly with your girlfriend about your feelings is crucial. Try to express why you feel uncomfortable without making her feel like she doesn’t have autonomy over her own body.

I think it's okay to have feelings about the situation, but how you handle those feelings will really matter. Try to support her in her choices while also being honest about your emotions.

[Daniela1982]

You pick a person as a result to what she presents to you. But after she hooks you she shouldn't change the rules by getting a tattoo and expect you to like it. A tattoo is basically forever and you will have to look at it all the time. If you don't like it, then move on. I certainly would.

[Apple1996]

Just go with her to get it. And unless she's wearing shorts or a bikini it will be hidden away

[Miristheiss]

No one is holding a gun to your head. You don't have to be with this girl. You aren't married. This is a bait and switch. You liked her look when you met her. Some giant ink picture was not permanently on her hip. That is an intimate area.

If you don't like it, that is YOUR GUT telling you she is NOT THE ONE.

Men, quit being so weak and wishy washy about what you want in your woman. If she is not the one then quit being hesitant to leave and move on.

She will be letting a man have inches away access to her pelvis area for an hour or more, she will let a guy sit there and stare at her intimate areas close up for hours, she'll change the way she naturally looks for life. Your gut is saying this isn't right, this isn't what you want or signed up for.

THEN LEAVE and pick another woman.

[Anonymous]

Do you not like it because of who is giving it to her or because of the size? I myself personally don’t like tattoos on women, especially big ones. I’m ok w a small one on her ankle or wrist I guess, or somewhere where it’s hidden. But to me big tattoos, a lot of tattoos seem trashy on women. Like she’s not pure or feminine. It makes me think she has issues as well. To me tattoos are masculine.

[Delle123]

I don’t you about you but I find them so tacky that I would hate any tattoo my partner go, no matter the size, design, or who dies it.

[HelpfulWoman]

the better question here is... is he a good artist? you don't have to like him.

[strateguy632]

that is understandable! some guy is looking at her thighs or hips for an hour or more.

warn her you consider that cheating so she has to dump you first

[CheeseMonster]

If you're worried the guy is a creep, you could ask her to go to a different tattoo artist instead. I'm sure there's a few other options nearby.

[laly520]

u aren't obliged or forced to like it or be ok with it

if its bothering u then it is n u dont have to date her if its a deal breaker

[RebelinSteel]

Her body her choice tbh, if you don’t like it move on. It’s a fairly easy choice.

[DextroShade]

She is ruining herself and making herself look like trash. I'd be embarrassed to be seen with one of these skanks with the large hip tattoos. Girls like this are recreational use only!

[DrPepper12]

Her body. Her choice. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Let it go as much as you can and don't bring it up again. That would be useless and counterproductive. Sorry!

[CuriousMufuxka]

Better set her straight before she hates it afterwards and wants to cry it out on your shoulder!

[JayBones2469]

She's fucking the guy you don't like or soon will be. You aren't compatible. Dump her and Daye her trad cousin

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about it. The guy has seen many body parts and he'll forget what she looks like the next day.

[ApplePie409]

I understand. Go with your gut.

[jahaims]

You answered your own question. You are jealous

[Smashingdoozy]

🤦🏻‍♀️ grow up...

[Anonymous]

You feel like you own her body or you're insecure

[slatyb]

Go watch.

[Anonymous]

LMAO.