How do I convince my girlfriend to not get a tattoo?

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I don't like tattoos because I believe that the body should be treated as a temple. And that a tattoo on a beautiful woman is like spray pain in a Rolls Royce. And in my opinion it's poor judgment. She never actually said she will get one. But I noticed her Pinterest account that she has pins of flower tattoos. This made my heart beet a little faster. She is an amazingly beautiful girl, getting a tattoo would be such a sad sad thing for her. How do I convince her to not get one? I don't want to be controlling, I just hope she listens to me. Should I tell her she is beautiful the way she is and that a tattoo will ruin that beauty. She also wants to act on stage. Should I tell her a tattoo will limit her opportunities?

LesterJester · Accepted Answer

Tattoos hold a lot of meaning in them for many people. They can be ritual / religious / cultural, they can signify important moments in your life or important people in your life, etc.

If she wants a tattoo she can get one and you can't convince her otherwise. If you try, she will probably resent you for it. Of course if you are so hell bent against tattoos and she gets one, you will resent her for it.

If you actually love her, it shouldn't matter whether she gets a tattoo or not. It seems to me that you're more hung up on her physical looks than who she is and how she expresses herself. If this bothers you that much then perhaps you should find someone more compatible... Because this could end up being a deal breaker for one of you depending on how you handle this and how important you think it is for her to not get inked.

There are more important things to worry about.

Perhaps instead of trying to fight this, maybe you should support her and try and help pick something both of you like and find tasteful... In the end, that tattoo could end up meaning much more to both of you and it could end up being a symbol of your relationship together.

Or you can have this turn into something that drives a wedge between you. Her getting a tattoo is her choice because it is her body and her life. Whether that tattoo causes a serious rift in your relationship is Your Choice.

Choose wisely.

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

1. she hasn't said she is getting a tattoo. just posted pics
2. i don't think it's really your place to tell her not to get a tattoo. you can tell her your feelings about tattoos but ultimately the decision is up to her and only her

HaveQuestions · Accepted Answer

"I don't want to be controlling, I just want her to do exactly what I want and not what she does."

Really?

Answer to your question: you don't. You don't get any tattoos yourself, and then you get over yourself and realize other people will do whatever the fuck they want to with their body. You may think negatively of them, and for all you know, she may think very negatively of some physical attribute of yours.

Be respectful, express yourself like an adult (without manipulation and bribery attempts), and then accept that you also may do shit she thinks is ill-advised. A tattoo will not "ruin her," that's fucked up. It will not do any more "damage" than some choice you make, that she dislikes. Let it go, dude. Ironically, the more you push against it, the more likely it is she will do it anyway. Nobody likes being controlled.

Fyi- some of the most beautiful parts of a temple are the stained glass.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

listen if you don't like tattoos and you know what tattoos are about and she wants to do that you should not be with her. because she's doing something that's poisoning her body and inking her skin that can be caused her to get cancer. that is her choice. you should not be trying to convince her to do something that she already wants to do herself. you're not being controlling you care about her life and her health. did you should not stay with a person who's doing things that you don't agree with and hinders you from being able to love them the way they should.

Justacatlady · Accepted Answer

I think suggesting that it will limit her options on stage is a good approach. I don't think telling her she will be less beautiful is a good option. Ultimately it is her decision and if you say something like that or that you will look at her differently, is an ultimatum. Your making her choose between her choice and you. Not fair.
Its her body and she can do what she wants to it.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

It's ultimately her choice. But you can tell her how you feel, in a respectful and tactful way. She might listen. Personally I would probably not get a tattoo if I knew it would bother my boyfriend. But you don't even know if she actually wants one, so try to keep calm. Discuss it with her in a casual way, rather than freaking out.

cutielucie83 · Answer

If you can't accept her for who she is, you both need to find other people as being in a relationship is way more than physical, if a simple dainty tattoo can turn you off then your relationship is merely physical attraction, also why were you snooping around on her account, the more i think on your question, the more i feel she would better off without you

Briana2206 · Answer

I honestly respect your way to thing about tattoos, yes she can get regret and limit her jobs opportunities, but what if she don't regret, you are her boyfriend not her dad, she knows that there can be consequences. I really think bribe her is a a bad idea, you are trying to change something she like by paying for it, is your girlfriend, you need to support her not controlling her choices. I hope this can make you think about it

Theforgottenlife · Answer

You should not tell her what to do, everyone has phases and she might just be flirting with the idea of a tatt because at the moment she thinks its cool, i know many girls who got one tattoo somwhere on their body and they never get anymore after that, but for some girls they're just flirting with the idea and most likely won't get one but you telling her no will make her want one more

Chanel1981 · Answer

I completely agree with you about tattoos. I like the trip idea :)

qwert1234 · Answer

Her skin, her rules. You could share opinions, but not decide for her.
You could say to her how it's not suitable for her skin in the long run, plus some danger associated with getting a tattoo, etc... But in the end, she still has a say on what she's gonna do.

You can either accept it and continue the relationship as a happy, open minded person - or it it really goes against what you believe in and will damage your relationship with her, then leave.

ImACowgirl · Answer

I agree with you. I'd just tell her how it makes you feel and that you don't want her to get one. Its her choice but you gotta figure out what you'll so if she does.

Wilfried · Answer

I would have the same issue, accually had the same issue with my ex...
its hard
I loved reading the comments here, thanks guys
In concur, only thing you can do is tell her how you feel about it, but you cannot stop anyone...

Anonymous · Answer

Well its her opinion and up to what she want's to do, but i think you should tell her calm that you think a tattoo would hide her beauty?
dont try to stop her cause that will only make her do it, just tell her what you think.
But its still up to her.

lord_chilled · Answer

Just mention to her that you like women clean cut, when you see a tetted girl on tv or so... Dont push it down her throat,, just mention it passing by.. Women remember these things

1truekhaleesi · Answer

Its her body not yours. And yes, the body is a temple. Mine is going to have stained glass windows.

Puppyz123 · Answer

giver her your reason on why you don't want her to get it.

IdkSomethingRandom · Answer

Sams got the right idea. it's her decision. You can tell her how you feel and not much else. And in my opinion attempting to manipulate her into following your own morals is in n of itself immoral.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Tell her It will disappoint you if she will get one. Tell her you love her just the way she is and mean it.

Anonymous · Answer

If you think the body is a temple, dont get a tat on yours. Leave her alone dude.
You trying to manipulate her decisions is going to lead to her doing the opposite of what you want and you'll lose her because of it.

MountainGirl95 · Answer

Find somebody else, she's gonna do what she's gonna do.

RicanEyes · Answer

Yeah I don't have any on my body try your hardest to help her not to get one.

M0hammed · Answer

I only read the title, my piece of advice is that you convince her with feelings not with facts.

Anonymous · Answer

Quite simply, you don't. She what she wants with her skin and then you either be okay with it or find someone who's a better fit for you 🖒

CT_CD · Answer

Tell her she can't get one. She's your girlfriend so you own her body.

Anonymous · Answer

blackmail her. tell her you'll dump her is she gets one.

Brokenheartedx · Answer

Her choice control freak

ShaeNielson · Answer

It's her body, let her do as she wants with it.

nilesh2001 · Answer

make her realize it's permanent and things are not

BanterBlitz · Answer

Insist that she gets one, then she will refuse.

Anonymous · Answer

You can't tell her what to do.

yesthesun1994 · Answer

It's her own choice.

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