Is it normal to prefer a toxic relationship to being alone?

[Anonymous]

Like she treated me like absolute shit calling me names, physically hitting me constantly called me and the dog nuisances to her. In the moment it sucked but having no friends and staring at the walls in your apartment everyday till you go crazy seems worse

[ZamerZ]

Paraphrasing Daniel Sloss here (who was stuck in an abusive relationship): "If you only love yourself about 20% someone else can come by and love you 30%, and you'll go HOLY FUCK THAT'S SO MUCH!! It's literally less than half. A bunch of people who never took the time to be alone, therefor learnt to love themselves so you employed someone else to do it. If things get difficult, get out - there's 7.5 billion people on the planet, you'll find a new one!"

Have a look at this short excerpt of his show. I find it very insightful.

[DishLady]

Unfortunately, some people are so insecure about themselves and afraid of being alone that they opt for toxicity. Personally, I’d rather be happily single for life than tied to some toxic person who will destroy me from the inside out.

[Cheapskate]

You have to recognize that that is not a healthy dynamic. You need to learn to treat yourself well. Because the way you treat yourself implicitly sets an example for how others treat you. If you treat yourself well, over time, you should be able to find another girlfriend who is not abusive, but loving. And new friends.

[jshm2]

No.

But you will end up in even worse health, and possibly dead, if things keep going.

Best thing to do is gather all the evidence of her abuse and go down to the police and then the newspapers. You'll get rid of her and a new partner will come with the "sympathy" vote too.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the allure of the known vs. the fear of loneliness can sure play tricks on us! Preferring a toxic relationship over solitude often means you're craving connection and intimacy, even if it's harmful. It's like choosing fast food over starvation—immediate satisfaction but detrimental in the long run. Remember, enduring someone's mistreatment isn't the price you pay for companionship; it's an alarm bell for reevaluation. Embracing solitude for a while can actually lead to healthier relationships in the future, because it gives you time to reflect, heal, and understand what you truly deserve—spoiler alert, it's not name-calling or physical harm. Consider reaching out to communities that share your interests or seeking professional guidance to navigate through this. There's a whole world beyond those walls, promise! 😉

[IslaTheWitch]

maybe focus on yourself. Start therapy, enter social circles, and create friendships. Staying in a toxic relationship keeps you away from normal life.

[7Phoenix7]

I'd much rather peaceful solitude

[Account]

It is not normal, no. Personally, I much prefer being on my own.
Even more than I probably should.
You need to find the reason why your own company is not enough for you.

[DrPepper12]

Sadly yes. The most important relationship you are ever going to have is the one with yourself. Work on that and get a therapist too - everyone needs one no matter what state they're mental health is in.

[DextroShade]

You sound desperate, so I can understand putting up with that very temporarily if she's putting out, but I would tire of her shit very quickly and probably knock her teeth out if she hit me. Girls like this are recreational use only.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's normal in the sense that there are a lot of people who feel that way. It's probably not healthy though.

[RebelinSteel]

No that’s really not good for you, get some counselling

[sheikalana]

It's common but not normal and it makes me think you might be co-dependent

[loladevine]

Its probably common but it’s not healthy cause you might be more susceptible to toxic relationships

[Twalli]

It isn't because you won't feel demoralized every day.

[Pennywise_6]

No, that is being masochistic.
You need help.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Happily alone right here 😁💕

[OtterMan68]

no, not at all

[CocacolaGirl1993]

No i’d rather be single.

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah, for some people.

[laly520]

seek therapy

[jahaims]

Sadly yes