Say, a millionaire and someone lower class? I find it hard to imagine, when you grow up in such different worlds with different views about money, and totally different life experiences.
Well... There are two basic subcases to the situation.
The first one is where the man is the rich one and the woman is the poor one. In this case, while terms and conditions apply, it's absolutely possible for the relationship to be established. Possible threats to such a relationship being a fulfilling one include the man considering the woman his property, which would absolutely be the case if he came from one of the absolute top families in the world who consider all the others to be "subhumans" or even literal livestock and the woman considering the man her ATM, which is somewhat unlikely due to the intimidating difference in pure might, making the man an almost godlike being that should not be angered. However, if (and that's a huge if in the 21st century) both parties are brought up to be responsible and respectful towards all fellow humans, this kind of a relationship is the closest we'll have to an actual fairytale.
The second one is where the woman is the rich one and the man is the poor one. In this case, the relationship is basically doomed from the start. They might be good friends, but there's a fat chance he'd be ever considered "enough" as a life partner by her, and even if she could be swayed, her family would definitely step in and take care of the matter. There are a few situations that might change that, but they are not just "big ifs", it's more like they can be considered pure fantasy. We're talking about "hostage rescue against hopeless odds"-class scenarios, where the one rescued is the woman in question. And that's provided they're good friends already. Basically, the man has to prove his usefulness. Being broke, his only strength is his protective capacity. However, mere CPR is nowhere close to being considered exceptional enough of a protective capacity. Not by the woman's family, at the very least. Not even defending the woman against a regular street thug would do. The man would have to prove being an absolutely impenetrable protective shield, the only situation I can imagine that could serve as such a proof is the man slaying an entire terrorist force keeping the woman hostage (or preventing the attack by such a group if he's present while it takes place, again by slaying all the attackers), then walking up to the woman (who's somehow still alive, hostages are not taken by terrorists just for show) and saying something along the lines of: "Miss <her name>, shall we leave now?" That would not only prove his protective capacity, but also his self-control and refined manners, which would enable the family to assume he's of noble descent, just pauperized at some point (even if it wasn't exactly true and they knew it). On the plus side, once such a relationship was successfully established, it would definitely be a wholesome and fulfilling one.
I think you're forgetting one thing. Wealth is NOT static. To quote Nathaniel Hawthorne "families are always rising and falling in America". I was not born into wealth. But I have built myself (and through good fortune) made something of myself. But I still remember being poor. At times I have to keep this in check otherwise you lose a dollar worrying about a dime. But it will always be a part of me. I'm arguably wealthy by most metrics. But in my mind I will always be blue collar. Now if I had a son he'd probably not want for much and that would probably color his experience.
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Yep. For example, my Father grew up the son of bank president who became a multimillionaire in his lifetime. That side of my family went to church with the Kennedy family. My Grandfather on my Father's side was a pillar of the community. My Father and all his siblings all went to private catholic school as kids, they grew up in an upper class neighborhood, they all went to college. When my parents got married, everyone who was anyone showed up at their wedding and showered them with expensive gifts. All the major businessmen were there. In contrast my Mom grew up dirt poor. She got her clothes at The Salvation Army as a kid. Her Mom often stuck food in her clothes to shoplift so they could eat. The community often looked out for her and free stuff would fall off the back of a truck and be given to her Mother so they could survive. Free stuff would just show up from the community. When she lived with with my Great Grandfather, Tennessee Williams use to feed her meals on a somewhat regular basis because they were next door neighbors. Eventually the state took custody away from my Grandmother after my Great Grandfather died and my Mom went into foster care. She moved around for a bit until she was taken in by her Aunt. She had a rough childhood. My parents stayed happily married without any real issues and even worked together in the same office for several decades in a business they started together. They were inseparable until death. They did everything together.
I think it might be more feasible now in the information age. I'm one who graduated from a fairly prestigious uni, not the best (Duke).
But all I really wanted was a woman who interested me in conversation and I could interest her. We have so many ways to learn things nowadays such from searching things and trying things for ourselves that I think the gap between "formally educated class" and not is shrinking.
And for me at least, it was never about how much she earned that made her so attractive and interesting to me. It was more like skill and knowledge. If I could learn from her and continuously, not like she exhausts her wealth of information on me but that that this is a lifelong learning process for her and one for me too.
I'm also at least slightly demisexual so it was very important, given my bizarre eccentricities, that I could at least entertain her with them and that she would share something equally weird with me that we could feel so connected.
It's just really about connection to me. That outlives the way our bodies age. I was always in this for the long haul: grey hairs and wrinkles and all. And if you accept that as your basis, I think we all become relatively sapiosexual and demisexual in some ways.
typically millionaires don't have a lot of time for their partners. if you come from a backround where people have a 40 hour work week, you will be shocked at how little time you get with your partner and that's very likely not gonna be very fullfilling to you. unless you're with that rare type of millionaire that really doesn't work a lot. but that's a tiny minority, cause if they weren't in the habit of working a lot, they wouldn't be a millionaire to begin with.
My wife was a server she had a few thousand to her name when we met. I has a couple hundred million (have a lot more now) I didn't disclose it right away but we are very happy together enough so that we had 3 kids.
Yes but long term there has to be some compromise or understanding of each other's perspectives.
I grew up pretty poor and my wife grew up going to the Bahamas and the like. They got laptops etc. for Christmas and I got things like a toothbrush and some clothes. We have been together for 12 years.
Only if the guy is rich and the woman is poor, which is why you see wealthy passport bros going to poorer countries to find wives but you will never see a wealthy woman marrying some broke third-world dude.
I imagine that everyone can somehow make a relationship work if they try hard enough. If you are marrying for money however you will end up paying for it.
Have you not watched pretty woman. Or Cinderella.
Yes. Harder if the guy is less wealthy though, because, society.
It will never work out. I've tried to find an example of where it has and have yet to do so
Yeah
yes in my teens we did loads of supper-rich girls
Just give me the money 💰
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