Is greater income a way for people to compensate for their lack of contribution to relationships in other ways?

[Lliam]

This question could theoretically apply to either men or women, but it mostly applies to men who feel the need to be the main bread winners.

So my actual question is: In a relationship in which the man has greater income, does that income compensate for his lack of contribution in other ways to the relationship. Is it a means of control; bribery? What else does he bring to the table?

Why would a man feel emasculated or embarrassed by the fact that his partner happened to have greater income?
Why wouldn't he be proud of the fact that such a bright, ambitious woman saw outstanding qualities in him besides income?
And what other contributions does he bring to the relationship?
For that matter, what value do both men and women bring to relationships?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

in my opinion, no.

Money is useful, but it isn't important. At least not to me. It has no significance past the material conditions having sufficient amounts of it allows you to obtain.

Personally, I wouldn't want to be or have a partner who lacks other, important parts for a successful relationship and tries to make up for it with money.

It would feel wrong for me as the receiver, because I'm not getting a relationship - which is what I want. I'm getting a sugar mommy/daddy at best, and a weak-minded simping nice guy at worst.

I would not tolerate being the giver - not after nearly ending up as the sole-breadwinning fiancée to a lazy failure to launch ex-fiancé.

If I'm dating someone, I want their soul - a good, honest, healthy relationship with them - not their wallet.

[Lliam]

Great answer!

[DizzyDesii]

Thats why i didn't like dating a rich guy. Im still going to cover all of my own expenses but like he wasn't doing what he needed to in terms of quality time and kept trying to makeup up for it with big gifts. I turned all that down. It doesn't mean much to me if i didn't buy it AND if he's not doing what he should in a relationship

[exitseven]

Some people may accept a big paycheck instead of the having the partner give emotional support. I imagine a lot of women would like a husband that worked all the time and supplied a big paycheck that the wife could just go out and spend on expensive spa treatments.

[Lliam]

It's true. Some women do. But not the majority.

[exitseven]

Yes, my wife didn't like i when I worked all the time.

[Sevenpointfive]

take money out of the equation. do genders have separate roles in a relationship? that's one question. then, does money influence those roles? and why?

[Lliam]

I don't believe in traditional roles. Two people need to figure out what work needs to be done and how to get it done in a way that is equitable.
The biggest factor is how much time each person has available due to work.

[TrueConfection]

I don't think money makes up for lack of relationship contributions. Anyone can put a child support or alimony check in the mail. It could help pay for a nanny or housekeeper, but it still only holds a monetary value.

[Juxtapose]

A relationship should only cost time. People bringing money into relationships just seems so fake and transactional to me, just get a prostitute at that point bro.

[Lliam]

Except you need money to survive. In marriage, all the income goes to supporting both parties and building their future.

In a relationship, neither party should support the other. In that case, I agree with you that time is the biggest investment. Both parties should be elated to be a couple and working to make their relationship happy and healthy. At the same time, if one person is a cheep skate or obsessed with money, it's a red flag.

[Juxtapose]

It's the same as with my roommate, I pay my half of the bills and he pays his half of the bills since we are living together. That's financially all I would ask for.

[Juxtapose]

I'm not looking to build a family, I just want a lifelong lover.

[genericname85]

if yo break down a relationship to ressources, which you certainly can, then you are still facing the issue, that not all ressources are intertradable with one another.

so like if let's say a partner wants the ressource "quality time" and doesn't care for "financial ressources", then you can not trade financial ressources as compensation for quality time.