Does income matter when choosing a partner?

[jennifer_bloom]

I was watching a video about this yesterday and she said when she worked as a volunteer for Salvation Army she discovered the poor people were more generous than the rich - in theory a rich guy can provide a better material life than a poor guy but in practice the rich guy is almost always corrupted or altered by his money while the poor guy is perfected and improved by the fact he is poor - of course some poor people are corrupted by their poverty and some rich people are improved by the wealth by the most common pattern I see is that the more money a guy has the worse his personality is so I don’t necessarily want a rich guy

[RingOfFire]

Does income matter in a partner for me?

Yes and no. According to the definition, I am rich. And that poses a real problem with dating. You never know if it is you or your money they are after.

If she has her own money, a lot of it, then maybe it is less likely that she is after mine... maybe. If she doesn't have enough money to live well, then it probably makes me more paranoid.

Honestly, I couldn't care less how much money she has. But if she has a lot of it, maybe it takes some of the paranoia out of dating her. Problem is none of the wealthy ones I have met interest me. I'm usually attracted to certain types, and those types tend to not have much money. It's a frustrating dilemma.

So does it matter? Yes and no.

[jshm2]

You're confused.

What you mean to ask is "Does profession matter, when choosing a partner" Anyone can lose income, it's a fickle thing, and you can get paid more or less depending on various factors. You can even be living off rich parents, or stealing from others, yet claim to have "income".

But a "job" on the other hand not only hints that the person has some measure of their shit together, but has aspirations, if not higher ambitions. That is the "potential" you want to see in a partner.

Unless you're just gold digging, in which case you're looking at net worth income and how much you can siphon/steal before they cut you out their life.

[JuliaStyles]

Nurses make way more than $27 an hour. First you must think of your financial future. More relationships end over money problems than almost anything else. Are they in college and working to pay their tuition and will probably get a well paying job afterwards? Or do they have no ambition and still living at home and no prospects for the future except rising up to a lead at Taco Bell? Do you want to basically be supporting someone the rest of your days while they hang out with the guys and smoke weed? Those are they guys who would most likely abandon you when you have a child and they have to man up and get a real job to support the family.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Income is just a number. I want the whole story: where's that paycheck going? what things are you saving up for? what was the last expensive item you bought?

I would much prefer someone with 1) job security (on a payroll, none of this "my next 1099 gig will be my big break") 2) job consistency (shifts that don't screw up the circadian rhythm, sorry nurses, musicians) . 3) job with benefits (take that high deductible plan because it's better than nothing - get those 30/32 hours a week part-time.

[psychoticanimallover]

Income and profession are two different things. But both matter to an extent. If you date someone who makes far more or far less money than you, there’s going to be an unequal distribution of power in the relationship, and one of you is going to either be putting in more money than the other for bills/rent/mortgage/meals/entertainment or they are going to have to live far below their means, which isn’t ideal. The other is probably going to feel guilty either way. As far as profession is concerned, I know I wouldn’t date someone who slaughtered cows for a living. Neither would I have any particular inclination to date someone who plans to work in Tesco for the rest of their life. I know that sounds snobby but realistically we’d have nothing in common. There are exceptions to the rule, but mostly someone’s profession defines them quite well and is quite a good indication of what they’re like as a person.

[Floppy2112]

If you are looking for a marriage partner it matters a whole lot. Depends on what you are looking for. friends with benefits doesn't matter. Dating and messing around and having fun it doesn't matter. Long term, it matters immensely and anybody who tells you different is lying, stupid or trying to sabotage you. Bills don't pay themselves. Houses aren't free. Groceries cost money and if you don't have it, you are in a world of hurt.
Money is in the top 5 reasons why marriages fail. Love is not enough, that shit only works in Disney movies.

[Inquisitive3]

It wouldn't matter if we weren't going to have children. If we were, then a higher income would be needed. If I was compatible with a guy, I wouldn't turn him down if he didn't make much but if that was a job he was content with, I might re-think it. It would place all the burden on me to make the money to have well-fed, well-dressed, clean and happy children.

[j792999]

I find it shallow and self-centered to view someone else only for what they can provide to me or what advantages being with them will grant me instead of viewing them as their own complex person with feelings.

You should always think in the mindset of what you can do for others, not what others can provide for you.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

In consideration of raising children and future it does matter, but men don't seem to base that of women's income they are fine with being the soul earner.

In other hand women do choose on basis of income and stability for her for her kids yet to be born to secure there life.

There has been not many women who have chosen men who had income lesser than there's

[Screenwriter]

If they're working at Taco Bell while getting a degree in engineering, I'd say that's someone with a good brain and some idea of doing something they like that pays well.
If they're a nurse and the only reason they ARE in nursing is for the pay, is that someone you want to be with? They don't have a calling, they don't care about their work or their patients...
It's not ALL about the money.

[kkirk4442]

Income matters, because it has a lot to do with how life will be as a couple. For instance, if the income is too low, it may mean that they will never be able to afford children, or own a home. It also can be an indicator as to whether a person is selfish in a relationship. In other words, if a person is unwilling to get a serious job, and not willing to put in their fair share of money into a relationship, it indicates they are not very interested in being a fair partner.

[silvermoon84]

I think for some women, it matters a lot. For me though, it depends on the guy. I don’t think a minimum wage fast food job is ideal for anyone (man or woman) but this economy sucks so I wouldn’t rule out anyone because of their job. With that being said, if given a choice between a minimum wage Taco Bell worker who treats me well and Donald Trump who treats women like whores, I’ll take the Taco Bell worker.

[Kaamraj]

As a man choosing a woman, it doesn't. In fact increasing income increases a man's chances of finding a mate whereas decreases a woman's chance of finding someone. This is because men and women look for different things. Men look for youth, beauty and compatibility.

[fashionguy17]

This is a great question. Does income matter? Not at all. When I was in my early 20s, it did matter to me... but that's because I didn't know any better. What matters to me now is financial literacy and what you do with your money.

-Do you have lots of unnecessary debts - Car loans, credit card loans, consumer loans, lots of student loans?

-Do you spend everything you make and don't invest anything?

Those are the things I look for. I like a woman who understands finances. I want a woman who invests her money, has a retirement account and knows how to manage her money. That's important.

Did you know the number one reason people get divorced is because of money issues and money fights? That is why knowing money and managing it is extremely important. I would not want to be with a partner who was bad with money.

[Avicenna]

More than her income, it's her spending and saving habits, since someone who is spendthrift is always broke, no matter what they earn. Another consideration is the level of stress at work and working hours. It's not that income doesn't matter at all, it's just that it's not the entire picture and indeed becomes irrelevant if she's a spendthrift. Her level of non-mortgage debt is also an important factor.

[Wade8888]

I'm medically disabled and will never be able to be the main provider in a family. I'm looking for a "Bread Winning Wife" type woman, like a meteorologist or Nurse Practitioner or paralegal nurse or doctor, etc.

I guess that makes me a "gold digger" in reverse, I don't know the term when a male needs a rich woman. Oh well..

[HawkPerception]

To me, it does not. I only care about my chemistry with them and how physically attractive I find them. Money does make life easier and more comfortable as well as allows you the luxuries in life, but it doesn't buy you experiences shared with someone you truly love and enjoy spending time with. Someone that just... gets you.

[Unit1]

For women it's one of the important deciding factors.
This is a matter of where they stand in the spectrum between a GOLD DIGGER and someone, who is smart enough to not mate with LOSERS.

I feel the same way. I do not want a girlfriend, who's a financial disaster. I aim to become middle class myself and I look for a middle class woman as well.

[shreejan]

I won't say it's a deal breaker but to a certain extent it matters. At the end you can dream of anything but you can't fulfill that if you don't have money in your pocket. Your income determines your lifestyle.
So basically I would want someone who is ambious towards her goal, earning decently to at least support her dream and ambitions.

[In_Trance]

It does matter because the amount of money you make is a direct correlation with your sense of value and how hard of working you are. It also speaks to the ambition that you have.
You can date someone as you mentioned in your example but it sure isn't going to last long.

[Phoenix98]

Honestly I don't care if you make 8.00$ an hour or 80.00$.

Money isn't gonna buy a good personality, chemistry or common interests, etc. What I look for money can't buy.

Money will make life easier but it's not gonna make you happy not unless your a shallow materialistic person who's only interested in trinkets and toys which is all materialistic things are.

[Mystic_Nova]

Yes, because I'm not getting with a bum. And I personally believe taco bell jobs should be for teenagers personally.

I make my own money and work my ass off for what I have and get. I want a partner to have the ambition I do.

[r_r_g]

Income, not. Ability to make ends meet together, absolutely. Else it will fall apart.
Her champagne taste on his beer income won't work. And too many 'hers' expect diamonds on top of champagne - so get lied to by crooks or go alone and crying with good ordinary men.

[crmoore]

In a way, yeah. One of my main enjoyments in life is taking care of my romantic interest. If she's more successful than me, I can't do that as much as I'd like to. Quite frankly I'd even prefer a girl who makes very little. But that being said, it isn't necessarily a deal breaker.

[TeeBar]

If the end goal of a relationship is raising a family, then money definitely counts as its been found useful in providing food, clothing, housing, and other things that assist in making for a comfortable living.

[Anonymous]

It shouldn’t matter but it does to some, I don’t choose women that way but women do it to me all the time when I tell them what I do but I don’t tell them how much even though it’s actually more than you would normally think for the job but I never hear back from them after I tell them what I do

[Redstang88]

Yeah, a little
Not so much as a money thing, but just ambition and life goals. I’m going into a line of work that tops out at +300k because I want to have the resources to enjoy life, a girl that’s making minimum wage and is happy with that just wouldn’t fit in with what I want to do with my life

[Anonymous]

For me it's about wanting to do better in life. I have a shitty salary but I'm studying so I can can have a better job in the future and my boyfriend doesn't work but he's about to become an engineer.
So, I don't care if the guy makes 9.25 at taco bell as long as he's studying to become a nurse. Studying is free in my country so there aren't any excuses for being lazy, all you need is a shitty job to get by while you get a degree

[justafoolisall]

Wow there really are still gender stereotypes judging by the poles, held there’s over 60 men saying no and 20 saying no.. BIG DIFFERENCE

[Anonymous]

No it doesn't. The more you have, the more miserable you become. True happiness comes from learning to be happy with less while also making little improvements along the way. Plus, apparently, once you hit around the 75k mark, increased happiness in relation to additional income actually plateaus anyway...

[007kingifrit]

i don't care about her income, but i do care about her having enough free time for me so less income is indirectly better

[AMonthOfAugust]

I won't date someone with no income or no ability to get an income.
That being said, so long as they are working something above minimum wage it could be 10$, 20$ or 30$ and id be fine with it.

[bamesjond0069]

A girls job does matter to me a lot. No doctors or anything where they work a lot or have a stressful job. No sex work stuff of any kind. But if she's a part time baby sitter i would be just fine with that.

[slatyb]

It doesn't matter much to me, I can easily support two.

[ProfessionalMusician]

If they Rock your world with sex then it would be better than making more money because sex is more important to you than money he can grow with education and better job but sex is harder to find something close to what you had before
With no disease caught while searching,
So Education is the key.

[Random_Guy_Online]

I accidentally chose that it does matter, but it actually doesn't matter to me. If she's a terrific person and I feel the connection then it doesn't matter to me how much she makes.

[courtney06]

Yea because I've been with someone who used to ask me for money all the time and it sucked. I'm not about that. I prefer it if he can support himself, even if that means he isn't making a lot of money yet.

[bolverk]

For me, No, I'm looking for the personality of the person not their bank balance.
Though from the number of women I've dated Income seems to be one of their major drives.

[VanillaSalt]

Hell yes it matters. I don’t wanna date a lawyer that works more hours then me. Never see each other.

[allaboutyou2]

It only makes a difference if you are a shallow person or a gold digger.
If you choose a partner because of what they earn you are choosing their money not them. Money or color of skin should be irrelevant in a relationship.

[nella965]

Its been proven that financially stable , more educated couples tend to have lower rates of divorce.

[iseekpinetrees]

Yes because I'm old school & the man should be the main provider in the household.

[menina]

It doesn't matter to me. I just want to be with someone who is able to pay their bills, someone who has a honest and decent job.

[TruthBringer]

Women are generally more concerned with the other person's income compared to men. As the main breadwinner, it doesn't really concern me what my girl's income is.

[anon1903]

It should - depending on what matters more, your personal needs or affliction motives

[DizzyDesii]

By time we both hit 30, we need to individually be making 40k-50k at the least and working our way up. In the 20s, i’ll excuse it long as their saving up their half

[Anonymous]

It does.

Two people who are exactly the same in every way except their income. Higher income is nicer. It's not the biggest factor and for many it's not a deciding one, but it still matters.

[Anonymous]

Probably for wen more than men. If you every get married though, marry someone who makes more than you. Then either you stay married for love, or come out ahead in the divorce.

[Agape93]

Not to me. I don’t care if you’re a trillionair, with a big dick and sexy as hell. If you’re an asshole or untrustworthy, I’ll leave you high and dry.

[DanaeAdam5]

No it doesn't. I'm not gonna complain if you are making 30$ an hour, or if you are rich of course, but even if you work at McDonalds it won't be a deal breaker.

[worldscolide]

It does not matter. If money is something that matters with you when choosing a partner then there is something wrong with you.

[LEADFOOTboi]

nah, idc what she does or makes... as long as we can make it

[clampfan101]

We’ll have a good one eventually before marriage. What matters is that we love each other.

[JCT666]

As long as she's not unemployed (or a sex worker) I'm all good.

[andypaul2490]

If he is an Asian guy like me, he have to make $247000 more than a white guy to be treated as equal according to statistics.

[Trooper205]

It doesn't matter... to an extent. See, I think my Partner should do what She wants for Her job. The only reason it should matter is to provide for Herself. I would hope Her income would be enough to care for Her and Her needs.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Wealth doesn’t play a role in turning my off switch off.

[scooogy]

If a girl mainly wanted a guy's money, why should he even decide to date her?

[shiril]

The nation's where capita per head is low it does matter

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

To a point. As long as you have a regular income and are not a blob on the couch you are good.

[jamesgoldman]

No, ambition/passion is far more important
Financial education is paramount

[Anonymous]

When a woman chooses a man, yes.

When a man chooses a woman, no.

[bklynbadboy1]

No it doesn't I make good money I don't need a girl to take care of me