How do you know if you’re better off staying single?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Hard to say for me. All I know is I can look at some issue and say, "Nah, not interested in that. That's not what I'm looking for." So many girls around my age with personal dealbreakers.

I just don't think many women in this culture (I'm in the US) these days would be interested in me (I wouldn't make their "friends" jealous). So, I'm just trying to get better and not worry about women. And if they don't want me down the line when I hopefully succeed, then at least I'll have more fun with money.

I'm not what they want. So I'm taking myself out of the running until things are better.
I'm better off being single as opposed to having someone just to have someone. I'm better single than having someone who is toxic.

[Asker]

You’re right. You should never have to feel like you’re settling for someone below par.

[ProbablyClueless]

The jealous friend thing is so true. So many women in this culture see men as status symbols or convenience items

[JHAYES317]

If you have mental issues which cause you to hurt the ones you love…or habitually cheat, even if in open or poly dynamics

[Awesomesauce2005]

How tf do you "habitually cheat?"

[JHAYES317]

@Awesomesauce2005 like doing it impulsively constantly, even when you know it’s bad

[Awesomesauce2005]

Still how?

[JHAYES317]

@Awesomesauce2005 it’s self explanatory

[Awesomesauce2005]

Not really. Cheating is Cheating. If you can't realize that it's within your control you have serious mental problems.

[JHAYES317]

@Awesomesauce2005 it is in their control, but there are some people who don’t give a shit about others and will do it anyway. Those are the kind of people who should be single

[Awesomesauce2005]

Agreed

[Rei13]

I don’t think you’re inherently better off staying single but I don’t see an issue with it especially when you have a strong support network via your friends and family. You can live a happy and fulfilling life without a partner just like you would by having one. Just do what feels right for you and will make you the happiest. If this came from a place of thinking you won’t or can’t find your person there out there. Just look into yourself to see what you can either change about yourself, or change where you’re looking, to find them

[Finchie40]

When you realize you are selfish and only really think about what is best for yourself , if you can’t remove selfishness for someone else? you are best to just stay single and not waste anyone else’s’ time or break anyone’s heart. Love only grows when 2 people choose each other over everyone else in this world , making each other your top priority. If you can’t do that for someone? you are best just to be honest and tell them you don’t want a relationship, you just want to have casual fun with them. Why I feel FWB’s is the way to go , especially these days, mainly because most people don’t really know what they want , they think they do , but when push comes to shove they don’t , so it’s best to be FWB’s with someone until you both know for sure you both want to be together for the long haul instead of the short haul

[Pinay_ako]

When you are happier being alone and every time you’re in a relationship you feel miserable and you have a pattern of bad relationships.

[Sonorous]

All it takes is someone saying to themselves that they know it.

[HawkPerception]

It's never better being single than finding someone that resonates with you. Humans desire companionship. Experiencing things together makes for much more positive memories than if you were to experience those same things solo.

The people that convince themselves they're better off staying single are only saying so because they're afraid of experiencing hurt or being let down. They're also tired of going through the hassle of getting to know someone. Everything seems the same and they don't want to deal with it. I've heard all of the reasons and those same people almost always end up miserable in life.

Making a family together with someone and having people around you that love and support you is true joy. Sailing together through life. And I know that people don't actually die together, but it's nice to know that when you do go, someone might be there waiting for you on the other side.

[D_Bonez_nutt]

If you display a pattern that you know you're not able to change yet, and that pattern consistently turns your relationships toxic... It's time to give it a break and do some self-work.

The pattern could be a behavior of yours or even the behaviors of the men you're choosing. Like when you hear a woman make a blanket statement about all men (all men are ____), that's when you know the problem is her picking those guys that are _____.

[MsProsperity]

You have an urge to stay single. When you’re finally single, you have peace of mind and you don’t regret being single. Also you become happy than when you’re dating


Hey, you’re not better off single. You just need some time to build yourself and work on the issues you have when you’re in a relationship e. g insecurities or trust issues. Again you need to regain strength in order to start another relationship

[Mr_twoface]

I didn't want to settle until I had turned 30 and knew I was better off staying single cause of the freedom of being able to do things whenever, wherever. No commitment, no apologies to anyone, not upsetting anyone, no double expenses (and financially stable). I accomplished my bucket list, I travelled the world and lived in 5 countries, and I dated and hooked up left and right. No regrets.

[DishLady]

If you're happier and less anxious when you're single... stay single.

If you can manage your own life and appreciate your own good qualities... stay single.

If you don't know how to love one person in a committed manner (without dallying, cheating, etc.)... stay... single.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I mean, you're in your early thirties, I guess, so you've been dating long enough to know what it's like when you're in a relationship, and what it's like when you're single.

So it's just a matter of which one you like better, I think. Unless all the guys you've dated have been awful, and you're wondering if there might be a non-awful guy out there for you.

[CriticalCatDad123]

For me, I know because of past experiences and how I felt while in relationships compared to how I felt when not in a relationship. I found that I was far happier single and far too unhappy while involved with someone constantly jealous knowing women want to recieve love from everyone which makes me feel time and time again that the love I give is never worth giving.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Here is my problem, I want to settle and have a wife and kids as a 19 year old but I haven't been able to find a woman that shows the same amount of interest in me as I have in her. I feel like every time I ask out a girl I have to expect her to waste my time by lying about wanting to go on a date with me. I thought it was my fault before but I've went to my parents and my friends for advice and they say I've done nothing wrong. Dating just seems hopeless in this day and age.😥

[DarkLegacy]

All you have to do is look at how relationships are today with the woman running the relationship through blackmail. In the unlikely event i will find the woman who is not a equality hypocrite and wants to get her own way all the time, then i will be with her.

But being single means i can sleep with who i like, do what i like and have everything i want fulfilled.

[TommyMountainFigure]

If you're scared to commit, then you are better off single. If however you believe you've found the right person and are willing to go all in. Then no, you aren't!

[LaurenM1997]

If you get hurt too much and people say to you “ you’re better off single” even though it’s not their damm business

[In_Trance]

Simple

[Asker]

I like that. Great answer

[Nikki1989]

You don't. Everything in life is a gamble, and you can't win unless you roll the dice.

[Anonymous]

If you imagined of the person you are seeing as completely gone, not coming home from work, and you wouldn't feel badly about that.

[Goahead76]

For women I can't answer this, for men, trust me, you're better off.

[Anonymous]

If you’re asexual, too independent to need or want a man and can’t be bothered with relationships or being tied down with one person