Can someone tell what I’m doing wrong, so I can learn better for my future relationships?

[Anonymous]

[Nikki1989]

Need more info, what is your problem?

[Asker]

I just got dumped by my 1st girlfriend. She broke up with me because I wouldn’t be honest with people at work about our relationship. I was trying to avoid the messiness of the work place but I ended up only considering my feelings and not considering hers , that was my mistake. When someone would ask about our relationship I would say “ no we’re just friends”, or “ no we broke up etc”. Eventually she sat me down told since I’m telling people at work those things then we should just be friends. Ever since the break up it’s been really hard. I was being too pushy in the first week or two by trying to fix things but I only ended up pushing her away. When I would try to talk to her about she would say “ I don’t wanna talk about it right now”, which I understand, but I wasn’t thinking clearly so I panicked and became too pushy. We however have a few convos about the situation. She seemed really upset and explained my actions made her look like and idiot and that she got caught in the middle and it made her look like a liar. She said it was too much stress combined with both of her grandfather in the hospital, so she had to let something go (unfortunately that was our relationship) Then by the 3rd or 4th week I asked her and she told me that she is seeing someone else. (She was wearing his jacket at work, I didn’t recognize it so I just asked her straight up.) It’s been hell for me emotionally. She said she lived and cared for when we were together. How could she move on so fast. A week ago I accidentally liked one of old reposts because I got notification at work that she reposted something ( it was about her current relationship) I got caught up looking through her reposts and accidentally like one then unliked it (my fault) I figured maybe she didn’t notice. later that day we had a friendly convo at work so I thought we were in a good spot friend wise at least, but then I saw her reposting mean spirited stuff ex boyfriend stuff on tik tok.

[Asker]

I’ve been trying to accept that it’s over and I’ve been trying to let it go but it’s been hard. I apologized to her two weeks ago about everything and how things went down and how I handled the breakup, (I was too pushy trying to get back together just in case I didn’t mention it b4). I asked her if she was still mad or if she was still hurt. She wasn’t mad at me anymore but she said it still kinda hurt. I also told her that if I was lucky enough to get the chance to be her boyfriend again then I would love to try again. She looked down and maybe. I thought things were good. We even had a nice and fun conversation the other day, but then I saw her reposting mean spirited stuff ex boyfriend stuff on tik tok. Like I said I’m trying to let go but it’s been hard especially since I’m don’t handle my emotions very well.

[Avicenna]

Need more details than that

[Asker]

Going through my 1st breakup and it’s really hard. She broke up with me because I she felt like I was embarrassed about/by our relationship because I wasn’t honest with other people at work about it. I was just trying to keep messy people out of it. The situation added to her stress along with her grandparents being in the hospital. It’s been a month now she with someone new. I don't know how I could have messed up this badly

[AI Opinion]

Absolutely, embracing the journey of self-improvement is the way to go! It's vital to reflect on your past relationships to identify patterns or behaviors that might have been stumbling blocks. Communication is key, as well as understanding your own needs and boundaries. Sometimes, lovebombing can feel incredible in the moment but can overwhelm the other person. Or maybe ghosting was a go-to response during tough times? Think about how you handle conflicts and express emotions. Are you clear about your intentions and open to compromise? Remember, each relationship is a dance of give and take. With a dash of introspection and a sprinkle of willingness to grow, you're setting the stage for healthy, loving relationships in the future. Keep it spicy and always stay true to yourself! 😉

[Anonymous]

What’s the problem?

[Asker]

Going through my 1st breakup and it’s really hard. She broke up with me because I she felt like I was embarrassed about/by our relationship because I wasn’t honest with other people at work about it. I was just trying to keep messy people out of it. The situation added to her stress along with her grandparents being in the hospital. It’s been a month now she with someone new. I don't know how I could have messed up this badly

[Opinion Owner]

Well, shame on her and she found somebody that fast. This could have been fixed very easily.